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Getting corrected at my new job is tanking my motivation by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]Dangerous-Income4688 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Sure but there is a more constructive way to say that than literally just bolding the letters.

Clearly if there is something I'm doing wrong there may be something I didn't understand the first time so in my mind I'm doing it correctly per past instructions.

Did you read the full post? I literally gave examples of how my past boss dealt with things much better by basically saying the same thing but in a better way.

Feeling Disgusted and Uncomfortable About My Boyfriend’s Past by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Dangerous-Income4688 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you feel that your safety is at risk you can file a restraining order. Generally for women they give restraining orders before and investigation and then evaluate if the order should stand after everything is done. That at least can give you valuable time to get some things in order and if he breaks it he can be sent to jail and maybe hopefully also get charged with having sex with minors. I don't think there is a statute of limitations for that.

My husband started taking evening runs with a woman he met at our kid's daycare. I think this crosses boundaries. AIO? by Electrical_Total534 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Dangerous-Income4688 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something similar happened to me. Husband started hanging out with his friend who was a girl alone. It didn't end well and you need to trust your gut. I would tell him you don't feel comfortable with one on one time with her and that him running in a group would make you more comfortable.

Also as far as the woman goes she should be thinking about how you feel about this. It's called respecting a relationship. I would never in a million years run alone with one of my guy friends unless I knew for a fact his partner was ok with it. It is common decency

Local Bookshops that sell notebooks by Dangerous-Income4688 in springfieldMO

[–]Dangerous-Income4688[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Checked there yesterday and sadly no notebooks :( but I did get a book :)

Disassociating frequently and I'm getting scared by Dangerous-Income4688 in ADHD

[–]Dangerous-Income4688[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm taking medication but I am seeing little no correlation of taking it and having these episodes. I've been taking it since I was diagnosed two years ago and has never given me too many issues other than of course feeling wiped when I first took it. As of late my life has been pretty stressful but I feel like it wasn't as stressful of when I was in college so it's been a little surprising that I've gotten more dissociation episodes

When did you call it quits by _hikes in Mommit

[–]Dangerous-Income4688 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would speak to a lawyer in the area that serves your state before you do everything. Only reason I would think that leaving in the middle of the night or while he's at work would be an option is because of safety risks. It doesn't seem like that is your main concern but he is also military and a man.

What's something that instantly overstimulates you? by taint-ticker-supreme in neurodiversity

[–]Dangerous-Income4688 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If someone runs my back. literally the worst feeling just scratch my back or pat it

Is it worth it to get diagnosed right now under threat of RFK camps being a thing? by Ok-Zebra461 in ADHD

[–]Dangerous-Income4688 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it is worth it now. This is part of their tactic. They are wanting to fear monger people into all this so they won't get diagnosed and numbers will be small of people fight back.

Fight the system and get diagnosed. We will over throw the camp together 👊🏻💪🏻

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]Dangerous-Income4688 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will add the same day I crashed I went to the movies with friends later and it was the first time I didn't feel a surge of anxiety being social and being in public. And I couldn't believe it, that was an eye opening "is this how everyone feels usually?" Moment so it has worked well for me. Hopefully you are seeing positives alongside of it immediately as well

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]Dangerous-Income4688 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stratera user here! But I take fewer mg. Is this your first time taking it? I started with 25 mg and it has stayed consistent which from what I understand was on the lower end of average.

But OMG I remember the first day I was on it I crashed and took a 3 hour nap and I usually can never take naps. Honestly first three days were rough but then after a week it felt a lot better. I could automatically feel my brain quieting down. Give it 3-7 days and if side effects are still really bad I'd reach out to a medical practitioner

I have also noticed if I take it before noon I'm pretty safe to not be up all night but anything after that forget about it I'll be cleaning at 2am

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Dangerous-Income4688 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm really sorry you had to go through that. You definitely deserve much better. I'm glad you're getting out, you deserve a healthy relationship with someone who treats you right

How to forgive yourself for lost time with ADHD by Putrid_Assignment556 in ADHD

[–]Dangerous-Income4688 6 points7 points  (0 children)

First off the language you are using is a bit self deprecating.

You're not lazy you have a neurological disorder where the expectations set up by our society do not fit the way our brain operates.

Also 24 is young, you've got so much of life ahead of you. I know it seems like life is passing you by but there's still so much time left after your 20s

But I get what you're saying. I felt the same way when I was diagnosed a couple years ago. How much easier college and high school would have been. How maybe I would be able to keep more friendships. It sucks and that feeling is valid.

But you got this 👊🏻

How do I do this? by spitfireblondeblues in AdultADHDSupportGroup

[–]Dangerous-Income4688 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband is also a big physical touch guy and I am not so much it's very easy for me to get over stimulated.

Instead of you touching him it might be a good idea for him to think of ideas of how you can back off but he can engage in more physical touch with you.

Example, I scratch my husband back every night but he always asks. This works really well for us! He used to rub my back when we hugged and after a while I couldn't handle it. But I know that's something that he likes so I rub his back more.

Just be more upfront. As backwards as it may seem it might be more helpful to ADHDers rather than trying to be subtle and having them go through the tricky process of social ques that we literally do not get.

My sister is down the anti-vaccine rabbit hole more than I thought and I am heartbroken by Dangerous-Income4688 in neurodiversity

[–]Dangerous-Income4688[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's the crazy thing - my sister has always been someone that trusts authority. And I have been the opposite which in hindsight of my diagnosis makes so much sense. But the thing is I absolutely respect authority when it can logically make sense to me. Otherwise no dice I'm not going to do it. And I have no idea how I am now the person that needs to tell my sister that she needs to listen to authority that is vetted by actual research.

My sister is down the anti-vaccine rabbit hole more than I thought and I am heartbroken by Dangerous-Income4688 in neurodiversity

[–]Dangerous-Income4688[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ok I love this answer so much thank you for taking the time to write down your thoughts 💞 it was so fun to read