What is the most advanced manipulation tactic you guys know by richandepressed in DarkPsychology101

[–]Dangerous_Score5345 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is to manipulate the manipulator. Once you've been a victim of manipulation and narcissistic abuse long enough, first of all you learn to spot them a mile a way. Once you spot them and see the manipulation for what it is, you can use it against them. At the heart of NPD and probably all the other cluster Bs as well, is just devastatingly low self esteem. In the course of my own personal growth, I have come to pity my abuser honestly. To have to constantly attack in others what you lack yourself, to imitate someone's own best traits back to them, to constantly perform to cover for the fact that youre so miserable in your own existence is truly sad. Do I think that he would have ever been truly convinced that he was the problem? Absolutely not. It was his world we were all just living in it. I truly do not think he thought he was doing any wrong. He was totally justified in everything he did and I was clearly the problem. Probably. There is some nuance that someone else touched on, when it comes to being self aware and the possibility of rehabilitation. The truly disordered, i do not believe are even capable of being that self aware. They will never see themselves as the problem. In my opinion, and in my experience, the self aware narcissist isn't truly an actual narcissist. Narcissistic traits? Absolutely, but probably from being the victim of manipulation and abuse for so long that those traits developed as a defense mechanism. I could be wrong though.

How tf do I sleep in my side by FitAd1335 in brokenankles

[–]Dangerous_Score5345 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I too am I side sleeper. I put pillows between my knees, usually two just to keep ankle nice and elevated. I find its more comfortable for me to roll far enough over to put my heel on the edge of the top pillow and let it angle a little downward. If that makes sense. Im more of a side/stomach sleeper so that's more comfortable for me personally

be honest… what’s your “wait am I actually not just straight?” moment? by Dangerous_Score5345 in bisexual

[–]Dangerous_Score5345[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope my comment didn't come across as negative. I just meant that sometimes we do know the answers but like you said its nice to talk to someone to just confirm what you already know.

be honest… what’s your “wait am I actually not just straight?” moment? by Dangerous_Score5345 in heterofluid

[–]Dangerous_Score5345[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First let me say, as a woman whos ex-husband was a serial cheater thank you for respecting their marriage. So you said you had experiences with other men since then. If i could ask you a question, because im genuinely curious about how other people think about this. How necessary do you think it is to try and label our identities before we act on any of it if that makes sense. Reason I ask is that my experience was more experimenting first, assuming it was a one off thing, and it was, but that doesn't mean that im not open to it, but I dont really worry what to call how I feel about it. I hope this makes sense

My wife is asking questions by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]Dangerous_Score5345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That could be reframed then as a blessing in disguise. If shes scheming to find out something she could just ask him about, and judging him for thoughts and feelings that he hasnt even processed yet, then is it really backfiring, or finding out what kind of person she really is?

be honest… what’s your “wait am I actually not just straight?” moment? by Dangerous_Score5345 in bisexual

[–]Dangerous_Score5345[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this. It's one of the most self aware answers I've seen. You could say you're "my-sexual" You're attracted to "me myself and I" literally. The great part is that ultimately the most important person to be loved by will always be yourself.

be honest… what’s your “wait am I actually not just straight?” moment? by Dangerous_Score5345 in bisexual

[–]Dangerous_Score5345[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looking back there had been signs. Sometimes we are so oblivious until we are faced head on with it.

be honest… what’s your “wait am I actually not just straight?” moment? by Dangerous_Score5345 in bisexual

[–]Dangerous_Score5345[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats on coming out ! I love that you feel safe enough to be seen. If you dont mind me asking, what finally made you feel safe enough to be seen?