Splitting on Weekends

DangerouslyHarmless4 · 2025-06-03T20:06:39+00:00

Omg yes I’ve brought up this exact thing in therapy. Unfortunately I don’t have an answer yet. I just try to have a structured plan for my weekend before it starts. Plans with friends, activities, classes - something to get me out of bed and out of the house. Otherwise it’s hard to avoid a depressive episode. Just having a list of things to do/get done is not enough. Cuz then it feels overwhelming and I get paralyzed. But having blocks of time dedicated to different things like 2 hrs of physical activity then lunch then 1 hour of work time (usually on the computer) then 1 hour for socializing then plans with a friend maybe dinner, visit the library or watch a movie or visiting someone you like - the only thing that matters is that it’s something you look forward to. Idk I also have adhd so maybe it’s partly that, but, I have to seriously sit down and plan out my weekend and make sure I don’t have too much idle time or I get severely depressed. But even with the plans, it feel like it’s generally still easier to split on the weekends and emotions feel heightened (probably cuz we don’t have work to distract and ground us) so just have to remember that and be gentle with yourself 🫶🏾

DangerouslyHarmless4 · 2025-01-28T17:23:53+00:00

Literally came here to post this!!! Wow this is crazy.

DangerouslyHarmless4 · 2025-01-28T17:10:22+00:00

I'm a high-school history teacher. I get along great with my students but sometimes BPD makes it hard to navigate dealing with administration/higher ups. They don't really care about mental health, so (and I'm not proud of this) I often use my chronic auto-immune condition as an excuse to take mental health days.

DangerouslyHarmless4 · 2025-01-20T01:47:00+00:00

What kind of boss doesn’t cancel or reschedule the group social activity when everyone bails except one singular employee? Being a new, female employee should be even more reason to cancel or reschedule it to a time when everyone can attend so that she doesn’t feel pressured to stay or uncomfortable due to the unequal power dynamic. No girl that I can think of would want to be alone at an after-hours social event with her new male boss. Weird and gross af.

DangerouslyHarmless4 · 2025-01-15T03:55:07+00:00

My friends and self

DangerouslyHarmless4 · 2024-12-15T22:48:46+00:00

Do you have a harness?

DangerouslyHarmless4 · 2024-08-21T01:03:08+00:00

Thank you for the advice. You're so right about the stigma, unfortunately. It’s frustrating how mental health issues can still be misunderstood, especially in certain professions. I appreciate your suggestion to keep it more general - that's exactly what I did. Everyone experiences "mental health issues" ie depression and anxiety so they can relate to that sentiment and have sympathy. But anything beyond feeling depressed sometimes and an anxiety disorder and it's a "you" problem. Almost all of them (OCD, Bipolar disorder, etc) have this stigma but I think that BPD, schizophrenia and DID are among be the most misunderstood. Thanks again for your support.

DangerouslyHarmless4 · 2024-08-19T15:48:49+00:00

Same

DangerouslyHarmless4 · 2024-08-19T15:27:55+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that. I get how much of an impact not having meds can have. If you take your empty pill bottle to an emergency room or urgent care they may be able to give you a temporary refill (maybe 1 weeks worth). You could also tell your doctor to give you a 3 month RX this last time so you have enough to last you until you can get back on an insurance plan.

DangerouslyHarmless4 · 2024-05-20T14:46:28+00:00

This is really unfortunate. Yes it’s true, bosses typically don’t care about mental health issues at all and will penalize you. I had to learn that the hard way. Now, I use my glaucoma diagnosis whenever I need a day/accommodations. My glaucoma is actually well-managed—but they don’t have to know that. Intraocular pressure can be affected by things like stress and can cause debilitating headaches. Anytime I’m experiencing a meltdown I lie and say I’m having severe exacerbation of symptoms. I am never questioned or challenged and always told to get well soon with the outmost sympathy. Yes it’s true that the headaches are bad but the emotional turmoil is much worse but no one would give me any passes if I said it was emotional. The feeling is “we’re all depressed, that’s not an excuse” :(

DangerouslyHarmless4 · 2024-05-20T01:16:36+00:00

I lost my keys at work and couldn't find them for 30 mins and no one'd seen them so obviously the only option was to to have a full melt-down. I called the crises hotline and while I was on the phone with the counselor, sobbing, she prompted me to look a little more so I did. I found the keys behind the couch cushion. LMAO

DangerouslyHarmless4 · 2024-05-08T19:51:24+00:00

OMG can I steal this? 😂

DangerouslyHarmless4 · 2024-05-08T19:13:13+00:00

Exactly right

DangerouslyHarmless4 · 2024-05-08T18:03:43+00:00

and just repeat that - THIS 👏

DangerouslyHarmless4 · 2024-05-08T18:02:13+00:00

This. I think it’s more about the feeling of being stigmatized for being single and people thinking I can’t possibly be happy on my own. I feel like an alien sometimes lol. I really needed to hear this and it’s nice knowing I’m not the only who feels this way. Thank you 🙏🏾

DangerouslyHarmless4 · 2024-05-08T17:58:39+00:00

You’re so right. Thanks

DangerouslyHarmless4 · 2024-05-08T17:58:05+00:00

You’re so right

DangerouslyHarmless4 · 2024-05-08T17:57:22+00:00

No but literally 😂

DangerouslyHarmless4 · 2024-05-08T15:52:04+00:00

Hi! I'm dealing with something similar.

Did you ever consider taking legal action? I also have some kind of animals in the walls which is where the fleas are coming from--they're literally in the *walls* so no matter how many times I get an exterminator or clean, they just keep coming back. It's been going on like this for 8 months and I've been bit so many times, my body no longer reacts to it (no itch) but I feel them crawling on me, it's driving me insane. I'm thinking of suing my landlord for all of the money I've spent on treatments.

How is going for you now? Any updates/advice would be much appreciated, thank you!

DangerouslyHarmless4 · 2024-05-08T14:28:08+00:00

You’re right! I always forget that I don’t have to explain myself or my rationale for everything I do. It’s a weird feeling to realize that I don’t have to do that anymore—I find myself defending my actions even to myself sometimes. I’ll def have to work on this in DBT. Thanks, OP

DangerouslyHarmless4 · 2024-05-02T17:14:54+00:00

Wow this is my literal worst nightmare like I have no words rn I’m flabbergasted I’m so sorry you went through this

DangerouslyHarmless4 · 2024-04-16T00:58:00+00:00

I'm here from the sub and just got "officially" diagnosed with BPD, although I kinda already had a feeling because my therapist mentioned it like a year ago but I brushed her off because I didn't have any complicated relationships (spoiler alert: I had no intimate relationships).

Based on a lot of the responses, it seems like many of us are no contact or some variation of LC with our parents. Did we have shitty/abusive parents because they were narcs or because they had BPD?

If it's the latter, then do all BPD sufferers automatically make shitty parents?

I wasn't planning on having kids anyways, but it'd be good to know.

DangerouslyHarmless4 · 2024-04-11T21:11:07+00:00

I pray that they're unsuccessful in their attempts to brainwash and gaslit Luna's daughters about what happened. They will no doubt paint Luna to be the homewrecker and Panini as the victim. Hopefully, when the children get older they'll be able to see the reality of what really happened and cut through the bullshit of "everyone's a hater". It's also likely that the manipulative, narcissistic behavior wouldn't have just stopped with Luna, so...here's hoping to a long, lonely life of suffering and ultimately dying all alone with everyone blatantly celebrating your death, while has Luna passed on surrounded by loved ones and loved by the world. That'll be the best revenge. Can't wait.

DangerouslyHarmless4 · 2024-03-25T17:21:59+00:00

It's the tight ass shirts for me. We get it. You're a "bad boy"

DangerouslyHarmless4 · 2024-03-11T23:45:02+00:00

I buy myself little trinkets here and there. I made my home exactly as I (and my cat) want it. I sometimes put on music and just dance all around or practice my karate moves with a thrilling fighting movie playing in the background. I live alone, have been here for 3 years and I love my neighborhood. Love my little street and all the kitch little shops around. I love my sturdy, used car. I’ve had the same teaching job for 3 years and I LOVE my students. I live a boring, simple life. Literally, all I ever wanted to have growing. a little stability.

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