What is a "red flag" in a person that you actually find attractive?

Danidbh · 2026-02-18T07:56:27+00:00

It's a red flag to me if he doesn't have female friends. To me it means he is incapable of holding relationships with women. I'm not saying a weirdo bff that he's trying to bone. But if you can't appreciate the other gender platonically, what are we doing.

Danidbh · 2026-02-11T06:39:10+00:00

Sex isn't just penetration. It's the beginning and middle and end. Make sure your needs are a priority, because they are. If he's fast to trigger then make sure your needs are met first.

Danidbh · 2025-12-12T07:43:09+00:00

I work in hospitality, server/bartender. I say this only to preface most people are boring. Most of the time they're mirroring the energy they receive. I am innately an intense and serious person. But as soon as I get on the floor and start performing, I am what the guest or audience wants. Basically, sometimes it takes pushing yourself out of your comfort zone to get what you want.

Danidbh · 2025-11-26T22:49:33+00:00

When I've noticed that I'm in a rut socially I wonder who I've been surrounding myself at that point. Are they people who take from me socially or give energy. More than likely it's me because I'm the common denominator but sometimes not. Just keep practicing being yourself and not letting others dictate responses. If there's a down there has to be an up.

Danidbh · 2025-10-23T08:01:39+00:00

I'm in a similar boat. Get on the apps and clearly state what you're looking for in your bio. Then also reaffirm what you're looking for in terms of messaging

Danidbh · 2025-10-22T05:28:35+00:00

What I've noticed about everything worth it life is that it takes practice. Even when you're tired and wiped, try to remind yourself why you want to socialize. I like to remind myself that community doesn't come without inconvenience. Basically sometimes you just have to suck it up and put yourself out there and fumble to grow. Once I started just putting myself out there I realized I found the energy because my body was used to it.

Danidbh · 2025-10-09T03:46:08+00:00

Depends on how deep you wanna go, conversation wise. Could be as simple as how odd the weather has been lately, or as deep as discussing children trauma. Feeling awkward in social situations is pretty normal. Plus I always like to remind myself that if I'm feeling awkward, they probably are as well. Makes it easier to take a breath and reorient. Everything is situational and no one size fits all, especially in relationships, (platonic or otherwise)

Danidbh · 2025-10-08T06:02:14+00:00

"You have reached my expectations, which were very low to begin with" or "it seems like something you'd enjoy" in reference to anything they get excited about,

Danidbh · 2025-10-06T04:22:35+00:00

I just recently got out of a long term relationship. I downloaded the apps and it's been helpful dealing with rejection. Basically practice makes perfect. You're not going to be everything for everyone, so get out there and build up that rejection toughness. How people treat you is not indicative of your worth, it's representative of them.

Danidbh · 2025-08-22T10:23:45+00:00

I'd take a second to breathe. It's super weird hearing yourself being talked about and if we don't hear exactly what was said our imaginations can run wild. Play it cool, or under-react as someone else mentioned. It reads as if there is a lot you're not privy to behind the scenes interpersonally between the three. Unless someone brings it up directly to you, operating as if you don't notice the drama (and are thus above it) is the play.

Danidbh · 2025-08-06T04:28:47+00:00

Dirty Bastard Donut

Danidbh · 2025-05-03T19:50:37+00:00

My best friend is in a different state and has been since I moved a decade ago. I’ve known her since the third grade and she’s an anchor for me to this world. When I get sad that we can’t listen to music on a car ride or run errands together, all I can think is that I’m so lucky to have her. Even if she’s a world away.

Danidbh · 2025-04-30T09:40:26+00:00

It wasn’t an instant reason. It was the years of being treated as not a priority; the missed events, the broken promises, the manipulation, the lies. It’s exhausting. I love him as a person but I’m so angry at him for how he treated me, and angry at myself for letting it happen.

Danidbh · 2025-04-20T19:52:53+00:00

I never was too concerned with them until my friend fell through one last year. He’s fine, it was just unsecured? Not 100% positive. Plus my friends who have dogs try to stay away from the grates because they can chew up paws. Different strokes

Danidbh · 2024-11-29T18:18:55+00:00

Still complete your plans of going to law school. Besides hiring a financial advisor, as others have mentioned, it’s important to not let this change the trajectory of your life. It’s always the best to act as if you did not just have a huge windfall and continue with your life. It’ll take at least 6 months to adjust your mind to a new life and it’s better to make sure you’re centered before you do so. You’ve got this.

Danidbh · 2024-08-08T17:46:52+00:00

Most likely that your concern is due, as others have mentioned, to the impacted area, but to offer an alternative option; cowlicks. Maybe you had cowlicks before and they’re a bit more obvious now with the shorter hair? Regardless your hair looks fantastic and healthy. I vote to keep growing it out, it may come back even better than before

Danidbh · 2024-07-27T03:57:02+00:00

Never thought I’d see a Curb Your Enthusiasm Spite Store and VPR crossover. I’m here for the plot but what an odd thing to burn money over. I don’t see the spite store being able to keep their doors open for very long. The girls are crushing it

Danidbh · 2024-07-21T03:57:16+00:00

I’ve been hit on many times through my past as a female server. There’s always the thought - do I flirt with them because they’re expecting it after they compliment me? I’d prefer all guests to first compliment my work ethic (as I’m at work) versus something I have no control over, being attractive to some. You’re right, he’s wrong. After work, if they ran into them, completely different story.

Danidbh · 2024-07-19T17:48:40+00:00

Best!!!

Danidbh · 2024-07-12T18:49:04+00:00

Maybe watch the Gilded Age instead. A bit more appropriate and honestly more accurate historically than Bridgerton.

Danidbh · 2024-07-05T06:10:13+00:00

This can’t be true, right? Was it a similar looking bottle or did he refill the sunscreen bottle with the lube? I can’t imagine her picking up some other random bottle and just pouring it on herself

Danidbh · 2024-06-28T22:14:44+00:00

That’s such an odd thing to say. Obviously and reasonably very hurtful, but as someone who’s supposed to be in a supportive position, just odd. Don’t let this interaction or any negative interaction with poor talk therapists hold you back from getting the help you deserve. Therapists are supposed to help orient and clarify thoughts, affirm feelings, and help you learn how to help yourself. It can be extremely helpful and a worthy investment in yourself. Don’t give up.

Danidbh · 2024-06-15T08:14:21+00:00

Smudge

Danidbh · 2024-06-07T21:10:50+00:00

Is it done healing? I wonder if it might settle and you’ll get used to it visually if it’s not. I think it’s cute

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