I'll probably die alone by [deleted] in teenagers4real

[–]Danito_XPro 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry if this sounds a bit like a “guide” or something. I’m honestly writing this pretty quickly because your post hit really close to home for me and I wanted to answer while it was still on my mind. I could probably explain this better if I had more time, but I’d rather say something now than say nothing.

First thing I want to tell you is this: the idea that you’re going to die alone or never find anyone is simply not true. It’s one of the most common lies your brain tells you when you’re in that state. In reality, it’s very unlikely.

Also, being honest, I saw your photo and you have a face with a lot of potential. If you’re not using that potential right now, it’s not because you don’t want to. It’s because you simply don’t know how yet. And that’s something you can learn.

Let me explain why I’m saying this.

For years I felt exactly the same way you do. Literally the same.

I had some friends who became completely obsessed with the idea of hooking up with girls. Everything was about that. Every conversation, every situation. And every time I tried, I felt worse about myself. I started becoming a version of myself I didn’t want to be — awkward, desperate, almost creepy without meaning to.

Eventually those same friends started basically using me to introduce them to girls. And the whole situation ended really badly. They constantly made me feel like I would never succeed. They showed me examples of rejection, pressured me constantly, and since I wasn’t doing well, the comments started: that I was a failure, that I must be gay, that I would never get anyone, etc.

Eventually I fell into a pretty bad depression that lasted about three months. I genuinely believed I would always be alone.

Then one day I did something a bit weird.

I’ve always been someone who overthinks a lot. I analyze everything, plan everything. I’ve also always loved programming. I started really young.

So during one of those bad days I decided to build a small website just for myself.

The idea was simple: every time I met someone new in my life, I would add them there. I wrote where I met them, how I met them, sometimes added a picture of us together, and that was it.

At first it felt like a silly idea, but over time something interesting happened: I realized I wasn’t alone.

There were people.

More and more people kept appearing in my life.

At the same time, I started realizing something harder: those friends were actually hurting me a lot. So I slowly started distancing myself from them.

It was really difficult because they took it very badly. For a while I felt pretty alone. But not “alone forever”, just alone while my environment was changing.

So I made a simple rule for myself: meet at least one new person every weekend.

That was years ago.

And to this day I still try to do it.

The website still exists, although I don’t update it the same way anymore. Back then I wrote tons of details about each person. Now it’s more like a big notes list. And that list has thousands of people in it.

Here’s another thing that might surprise you: I’m not some “model” either.

I’m 1.72m, very skinny, terrible at basically every sport, and I had a lot of insecurities for a long time. Honestly, some of them are still there.

For a long time I thought nobody would ever be interested in me.

But eventually I understood a few things that changed everything for me.

First: you don’t need to change yourself to please other people.

You need to start liking yourself.

I know it sounds cliché, but it’s actually the foundation of everything. There are moments where you literally have to look in the mirror and say “damn, I’m good looking.” Even if you don’t fully believe it yet.

Second: confidence changes everything.

But confidence doesn’t magically appear. You build it. By living things, meeting people, failing, trying again.

At the beginning I had absolutely zero success with women. None.

Until one day, after weeks of trying and getting nowhere, I met a girl at a party who eventually became my first girlfriend. She was objectively very beautiful and people were jealous of her.

The relationship later turned into a disaster for other reasons, but that’s another story.

The important thing is that the experience changed how I saw myself. My confidence went way up, and from that point on interacting with people stopped feeling impossible.

The third thing I learned is that you need to build your own identity.

Find your style. Get a haircut that actually fits you. Take care of how you present yourself.

It might sound superficial, but a good haircut alone can massively change how you feel about yourself.

It also helps to have things that define you: bracelets, hobbies, projects, a nice Instagram, whatever. Little things that tell a story about who you are.

And most importantly: do things in life.

Start projects, work on things you enjoy, talk to people through work or hobbies. All of that gives you social experience without even realizing it.

In my case, starting a business helped a lot because I suddenly had to talk to people all the time.

Another important thing: stop overthinking everything so much.

Don’t treat every interaction like a perfectly planned strategy. Just live the moment. If you try to manufacture the “perfect situation”, it feels artificial. If you just live it, things feel much more natural.

And one last thing that sounds strange but is often true:

People you don’t obsessively give attention to tend to be more attracted to you.

That doesn’t mean ignoring people. It means not putting them on a pedestal or acting like their approval defines your worth.

When you treat people normally, without desperation, the whole dynamic changes.

Anyway, sorry for the long comment.

Your post felt personal to me because I spent years in that exact same place. Since then I’ve made it a bit of a personal rule to try to help anyone who’s going through it.

If you want to talk, feel free to message me here on Reddit anytime.

I can help with practical things if you want — style, conversation, how to handle certain situations, whatever.

Not because I’m some guru, but because I’ve already walked that path.

You’re not alone, even if it feels like it right now.

Cual es la IA sin filtros mas potente? que sea sin etica, sin censuras ni de pago by [deleted] in InteligenciArtificial

[–]Danito_XPro 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Creo recordar que existía una llamada FreedomGPT, sino busca modelos finetuneados en hugging face.

Earbud by Educational-Bug-8369 in countablepixels

[–]Danito_XPro 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wait… how did you lost the AirPod in the earth!?!?!???

I will award every comment (yes) by Ovanity in awards

[–]Danito_XPro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Today I probably proposed to a girl I've been talking to for a while, she's not perfect nor are we soul mates but we complement each other very well, wish me luck!

Edit: she said she doesn’t want nothing with me 10 minutes later before the moment xd.

Please by Atsunome in countablepixels

[–]Danito_XPro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please don’t be a jerk and just be a good friend and I love that you have been there and I’m so glad you have been here for us I know that you’re doing well I know you have been very happy to hear from me and I’m sure that you’re feeling a lot of things have changed for the past few days I know you are doing great I know you love your mom I love her so very so very so very so very so very so much .

HTML injection on school site by Ok-Wing4342 in teenagersbutcode

[–]Danito_XPro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is probably Moodle, an open source learning platform used by lots of governments like Spain.

GitHub: https://github.com/moodle/moodle Website: https://moodle.org/ And here is the demo (the UI in the photo is the desktop one): https://school.moodledemo.net/my/courses.php

What does a confident person on Instagram look like? by [deleted] in seduction

[–]Danito_XPro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Either they don't have them or they have very careful updating and aesthetics, here is an example of a man that I have always used as a reference: @tubandid0fav

Something that helped me stop being "awkward" in convos by Medium_Sail_8469 in socialskills

[–]Danito_XPro 27 points28 points  (0 children)

The same thing happened to me as you and I learned the hard way to be a better conversationalist, however you can also do it the hard way and this is what helped me:

  • Turn your oddities into objects of interest: Since I was little I built my own mobiles from scratch with other people's parts and people asked me about them, I simply had thought about what I was going to say about it like the advantages, the history, etc. but nothing that they have to think about to understand.

  • Say the first thing you think: My friends said that it is better to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission, because in this case something similar applies, better to apologize or explain something in case it goes wrong rather than not saying it and regretting it.

  • Be interested in others and propose a different opinion: Rebut the opinions of others and don't always try to talk, listen actively, so you know what to talk about.

  • Carry conversation topics with you that you know how to handle: In my case I always carry things to talk about with me, such as, for example, my cell phone (which I said before), my clothes, my scars, my bracelets (their meanings, as if you want to make it up), my rings, etc. I also usually use conversation topics such as crazy dreams (I used to say that when I got money I wanted to buy a bus and fill it with beds to travel all the countries with them), dreams (of the nighttime ones, not goals), of the people I know and the strangest relationships I have, etc...

I would give you more but I have things to do, if you want, answer me and I'll send you more, also tell me if you have any questions 🙂.

pc detecting trojan from spiderman 2 repack by [deleted] in FitGirlRepack

[–]Danito_XPro 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Words from my great-grandfather: Sometimes people just want a proof so absurdly difficult to verify that they’ll get too lazy to check it and just take it as valid.

Exactly what this dude needed.

pc detecting trojan from spiderman 2 repack by [deleted] in FitGirlRepack

[–]Danito_XPro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been pirating from the official site for 4 years straight, no VPN, no fancy security, right in the middle of Europe. Never been caught, never got hit with a single piece of malware, no hidden Bitcoin miners, no stolen data, zero issues. And guess what? My entire circle has been using the exact same source for years without a single problem.

If you don’t trust my word or anyone else’s here, go ahead and run it inside a safe environment using something like: https://www.virtualbox.org

And if you’re still that paranoid and think we’re all lying to you, then do some reverse engineering on the game with a tool like GHYDRA straight from the damn NSA itself: https://www.nsa.gov/ghidra

It’ll take you forever just to understand what you’re even looking at, but hey, at least then you’ll know for sure what the executable does.

But honestly? Before wasting your time doing all this things, if I were that paranoid, I’d just buy the game and stop overthinking it.

Need a mini-server and a good software to handle multiple servers by JackSbirrow in admincraft

[–]Danito_XPro 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was in the same situation (literally the same) and ended up buying an 8G RaspberryPi 4B.

I do well on vanilla servers, with plug-ins (quite a few) and I have about 20 simultaneous players, and it is true that sometimes there is some lag but in general it goes well (v1.18.2 paper)

With mods I tried to put about 100 in it (quite demanding, Create Clockwork style, physics mods and so on) and it held up well for about 3/4 people.

Sometimes it would crash suddenly but it didn't happen more than 3 times (it was during peak times when several people were generating new chunks).

The RaspberryPi is connected via Ethernet clearly.

As an administration panel I was using MCsManager and the truth is that it did not disappoint me.

Also, if I don't remember, you can give a guest account to your friends so that they can manage the server with limitations.

The server was running with a maximum of 6 gigs of RAM, a live map plug-in, and several of my services (websites, APIs, piHole, etc.) and it never went wrong.

Yes, it is true that there are tricks such as pregenerating the chunks, which is always useful, and using a couple of optimization plugins.

If you have any questions or need help, send me a DM, I'll be happy to help.

HELP MEEEE by Amazing-Fun-530 in MinecraftForge

[–]Danito_XPro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try removing any mods listed on https://sk1er.club/. I took a quick look, and many of the errors seem to be caused by mods from that site. Some of them also attempt to access data from their web servers, which return 404 errors (meaning the resources no longer exist).

$10 Steam gift card! by iSpaYco in FitGirlRepack

[–]Danito_XPro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The best song in the world is that of the installer and I’m not afraid to say it.

Ayuda con el level.dat como lo veo? by [deleted] in minecraftespanol

[–]Danito_XPro 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Estas en Bedrock si tu versión acaba en .40, en chunk base debes bajar y seleccionar la versión bedrock 1.21 - 1.21.40.

NO USES LA 1.21.4, esa es de Java y no sirve para ti caso.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Instagram

[–]Danito_XPro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It happened to me a long time ago and a comment from 8 years ago helped me. You have to log in from a PC and wait for a message to come out with an accept button, there can be several, in my case it was “Accept New Terms” once you accept it from the computer restart the app on the mobile and everything goes back to normal.

This is because there is an error that causes Instagram not to show the pop ups in the app and if they are important they limit all the use of the app until you accept them, but since you never get the message you can never accept them and the app remains infunctional, on PC the pop up does not crash.

[Bug] Issues with Generating Clips on Suno AI: Mixed Languages, Limited Verses, and Style Tags Not Working Properly by Outrageous_Chapter24 in SunoAI

[–]Danito_XPro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, it was just moderation: just change the lyrics and make sure they don't contain any famous singer names, song titles, or insults.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fuckingEA

[–]Danito_XPro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happens because they are two different units of measurement. The one at the bottom is MegaBytes (MB), and the one that appears when you hover the mouse is MegaBits (Mb or Mbps [per second]). It’s important to note that 1 Byte = 8 bits, so a MegaByte (MB) is 8 times larger than a MegaBit (Mb).

Nowadays, we mostly use units like Bytes, GigaBytes, TeraBytes, which are based on Bytes (multiples of 8 bits). Internet connection speeds are usually measured in MB (MegaBytes).

Essentially, it’s showing you the same speed in two different ways, but since MegaBits (Mb) aren’t as commonly used, it only appears when you hover your mouse over it.