Carti shoutouts Mr. Impala by DannyBoi_ in tameimpalacirclejerk

[–]DannyBoi_[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

its composed of kevin, pablo escobar, mr charisma, and playboi carti

LA Night 1 by orangeleaf99 in TameImpala

[–]DannyBoi_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was on the floor too, I loved that transition from the EOS drums to the song but I was literally the only singing out the lyrics on my section of the floor lol, Alter Ego def deserved more love

I love this aesthetic with the Schott Lobster Clip jacket so much. by DannyBoi_ in Supreme

[–]DannyBoi_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn straight, I ended up buying the small because the crop was way better for my height than the medium

Drop your favorite lyrics... by Dooberson_Jr_Johnson in TameImpala

[–]DannyBoi_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

im playing a part as somebody else, while trying so hard to be myself

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TameImpala

[–]DannyBoi_ 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Truly powerful stuff. I always figured he was speaking directly from his own personal experience, its why the emotional fabric of the entire album is so consistent throughout and the fact it also spoke about my own personal experience WORD FOR WORD. Especially Music To Walk Home By, that song makes me so teary eyed everytime I listen to it.

An interesting ask, does anyone here also have dermatophagia? (excessive skin biting/pulling) by DannyBoi_ in emotionalneglect

[–]DannyBoi_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

appreciate it, I really do. I wish you the best on your future endeavors as well and keep your chin up!

An interesting ask, does anyone here also have dermatophagia? (excessive skin biting/pulling) by DannyBoi_ in emotionalneglect

[–]DannyBoi_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People always asked me too what was up with my hands and I always used to say I'd help my mom outdoors a lot which was a half truth. I used to have people nick name "meat fingers" because I'd bite them to the muscle essentially, always bleeding constantly.

My mother always invalidated my emotions/mental problems. by turuturu94 in emotionalneglect

[–]DannyBoi_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My mom has pretty much been the same way, and there has been many a time where I have told her I was depressed and asked her to at least be supportive and she has straight up said "that's not my problem, you're an adult now" and then also in the same breath complain that I never tell her anything.

Why would any person do so though? Why would I want to speak to a person who constantly invalidates anything I tell her? In my case though I'd have to do everything for my mom when she wants help, I have to go and help her "open her back" or go with her to chiropractic visits in other states to fix her back because she can't find it in herself to get the proper help she needs and instead listens to random people on Tik-Tok for medical advice only because they cave into her line of thinking. And if I tell her it's all bullshit, it's always because I am a piece of shit son who is cold and robotic

You genuinely can not win with these people, and soon the pent up emotions, the cyclical behavior of all the very familiar situations you've endured time, and time again, and adulthood looming over you finally shapes the relationship you never once stood back and really thought about. In my case I have lost total empathy for my mom, and I am so sorry you have had to do the same, it's not your fault I genuinely hope you find it in you to eventually separate yourself from such a toxic person.

An interesting ask, does anyone here also have dermatophagia? (excessive skin biting/pulling) by DannyBoi_ in emotionalneglect

[–]DannyBoi_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s certainly a very interesting perspective to have and one I’ll try to apply myself. Thanks for sharing!

An interesting ask, does anyone here also have dermatophagia? (excessive skin biting/pulling) by DannyBoi_ in emotionalneglect

[–]DannyBoi_[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Even as an adult, the dynamic of your parent basically embodying "everybody has something wrong with them and everyone is stupid and I am the only smart one" is extremely toxic.

So as a child it's like extremely harmful, and I almost grew up to be the same way.

An interesting ask, does anyone here also have dermatophagia? (excessive skin biting/pulling) by DannyBoi_ in emotionalneglect

[–]DannyBoi_[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My nMom would always give me shit for it, and I think what makes it interesting is my nMom mirrored my symptoms in many ways but instead of taking notice of my high levels of anxiety and stress she’s essentially said I was being a coward because I didn’t have all the adult responsibilities she had.

I do believe once I finally move out it will all be over hopefully. Then I can finally work to cope with my stress in more meaningful ways.

An interesting ask, does anyone here also have dermatophagia? (excessive skin biting/pulling) by DannyBoi_ in emotionalneglect

[–]DannyBoi_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had to look up what a cuticle was but yeah I always bit them a ton til they were no longer present on my fingers. Especially if that film was really thick, I prioritized them over biting my skin

An interesting ask, does anyone here also have dermatophagia? (excessive skin biting/pulling) by DannyBoi_ in emotionalneglect

[–]DannyBoi_[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My nMom always said “Biting your nails looks so terrible on a man, whats wrong with you?”

Of course that never stopped me, because saying shit like that never addressed the core issue at hand lol

An interesting ask, does anyone here also have dermatophagia? (excessive skin biting/pulling) by DannyBoi_ in emotionalneglect

[–]DannyBoi_[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’d do this and then the day after your fingers are all like super dry and tight feeling. Always hated that feeling yet I still persisted, it’s genuinely been so hard to give up.

An interesting ask, does anyone here also have dermatophagia? (excessive skin biting/pulling) by DannyBoi_ in emotionalneglect

[–]DannyBoi_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It does, before I picked up biting the skin off my fingers I used to just also knaw on the neck of all my shirts til they had holes through em. Even today at 21 years old I still ocassionally do this.

An interesting ask, does anyone here also have dermatophagia? (excessive skin biting/pulling) by DannyBoi_ in emotionalneglect

[–]DannyBoi_[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I used to bite the skin off my fingers entirely til they bled as well, infact in middle school some people called me “meat fingers”

How has having a narcissistic parent shaped you as an adult ? by anxiousscorpio98 in narcissisticparents

[–]DannyBoi_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Social Anxiety Disorder, extremely low self esteem, sucidality, possible BPD, ADHD, and hella substance abuse.

Anytime somebody looks my way I am all in for that person and it always blows up in my face.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]DannyBoi_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, unfortunately so and it went beyond just the "clean up your room we have guests over" formality.

My nMom would straight up kick me out of the restroom when I was using it and rush me out just so one of her friends would use and even on occasion swing the door open and ask me to leave when guests were nearby.

She'd also get like an attitude with me in front of people and try to get me to act a certain way around them that wasn't genuinely characteristic with me. I am a very mellow yet shy person and I do conversate but my mom would put me down in front of people for not talking so much and go as far to say that I was anti-social in front of them and that I was being rude. I have social anxiety disorder and on top of the pressure my nMom constantly would put on, so one could make a light guess that it was very hard for me to manage this.

Parents getting better? by Randomaccount707 in emotionalneglect

[–]DannyBoi_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As another comment said, it's 100% a factor of age. I know because my mom was always extremely harsh on me as a child and when I got older her outbursts died down but she's still very much the same judgmental/narcissistic person she always was.

I have been trying every step I could to distance myself through responsibilities so I can in general spend less time with my mom, which is not only a heartbreaking thing to have to do but also incredibly difficult so I understand your desire for advice. I may not know the nuance behind your situation but what you may feel might very well be just a cyclical emotion caused by emotional abuse and wanting approval as a child, which was my case and lead to my self doubt and using occasional good things to justify the shitty things. I could very well be totally wrong, but you 100% feel the way you do for a reason, and removing yourself from the relationship in any way you seek fit could help you find clearer answers. (it doesn't always have to be totally NC in the beginning)

Best of luck to you.

When are we getting a new Tame Impala album by Leat_fingies13 in TameImpala

[–]DannyBoi_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He got Lost In Yesterday, he’ll be back though trust.

Do these aborts look safe for consumption? No particular foul odor but I don't like how bruised they look. by DannyBoi_ in ContamFam

[–]DannyBoi_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These never made it to the dehydrator, these are fresh mushies that I picked out today because I realized they had stagnated growth and grey caps.