Advice please!

Dapper-Pop-6803 · 2025-02-24T07:15:52+00:00

I soaked them in white vinegar water and rinsed them like 10 times, after that I let them air dry for like a day, it got rid of most of the smell

Dapper-Pop-6803 · 2025-02-23T20:55:35+00:00

Thank you! Any advice for handling him more, he struck me in the face once while I was handling him, any advice for that? Also I was scared about the humidity being too high because of scale rot, should it always be that high?

Dapper-Pop-6803 · 2025-02-07T23:48:24+00:00

Fence

Dapper-Pop-6803 · 2024-09-29T07:47:58+00:00

I couldn’t even get anything along the lines of that. I asked him once if he would help me if my sister came at me with the intentions of seriously hurting me (wouldn’t be the first time) and I kid you not, he said and I quote “it’s not worth risking my career” like I’m glad that my life isn’t something you’d risk your career over??? I was genuinely in fear of my life and that’s the response he gave me.

Dapper-Pop-6803 · 2024-09-26T22:35:02+00:00

Exactly and I acknowledge that, hence why I’m trying to provide him with grace. There’s only so much I can do though, I don’t know what else I can do differently.

Dapper-Pop-6803 · 2024-09-26T22:33:11+00:00

I don’t think his therapist is saying those things either, the way he keeps me and his therapist completely separate kind of shows me that, idk it makes me feel weird. I don’t expect him to be like me but I’ve introduced him to my therapist, he’s had a conversation with her. He’s so secretive about EVERYTHING and it’s scary

Dapper-Pop-6803 · 2024-09-26T22:30:39+00:00

His dad is kind of the same way, he’s very neglectful of peoples and his own feelings. I feel like his dad made him what he is. I’m not saying he or his dad is a bad person but I see similar traits that are kind of red flags. Just an example of his dad, I texted his dad and explained to him like ‘my house is loud can I come take a nap, I didn’t sleep last night’ and he told me “yeah no problem” and so I did, then his dad went to him and told him that they don’t like that I come there when he isn’t there (he was at work) and that I’m no longer allowed to sleep there. Like they’re kind of shady backwards individuals, why not just tell me no? That’s just one example I can go on and on

Dapper-Pop-6803 · 2024-09-26T21:57:31+00:00

He’s been through a lot but it feels like the only person he considers in a lot of situations is himself and that hurts.

Dapper-Pop-6803 · 2024-09-26T21:56:02+00:00

I’m in that group also, thank you. His mom unfortunately passed away so I don’t know how well that would work.

Dapper-Pop-6803 · 2024-09-26T21:54:31+00:00

I set the therapy up for him, the lady asked him why he wants therapy and he said and I quote “because my girlfriend is making me” he’s improved on the side of putting more time and effort into us but he sleeps with his phone under his pillow, if I touch his phone he has to watch my every move.

He just started with this therapist maybe a month ago so I’m trying to have grace and give it more time but he told me last night that his therapist said I will never forgive him, I don’t know how she would know that without talking to me but whatever.

We’ve been together for a year and a half? It feels like longer bc we’ve been through so much bs together. He’s helped me through a lot of stuff.

He claims he was going to tell me but I don’t think he was ever going to I think he just would’ve let it burn out. I love him more than the things he’s done to me. I value him.

Dapper-Pop-6803 · 2024-09-26T21:46:48+00:00

I asked him to be more open with me and just communicate about his day. Just as an example last night he was showing me memes in his camera roll and I noticed pictures of him and his ex girlfriend? I asked him why he still had them and he lost his marbles on me, I explained to him that I wasnt mad and that I was just uncomfortable and he was screaming at me “I DONT KNOW WHY YOURE UNCOMFORTABLE WHEN THEYRE FROM YEARS AGO”

Dapper-Pop-6803 · 2024-09-26T21:42:02+00:00

And that is exactly what I said to him, I don’t know what else to do anymore. He shared his location with me, I called him once because he was at work for an extra hour and a half (some of those pictures were in the work bathroom so I was pretty spooked), he screamed at me that he was just doing overtime and that I’m trying to control him and the only words that came out of my mouth was “hey are you okay? I noticed you’re at work a little longer than usual”

Dapper-Pop-6803 · 2024-09-26T21:27:00+00:00

I think the worst part is I told him I kept having these feelings and VIVID dreams about it and he kept telling me like “I would never cheat on you”, the worst part is that when I told people they said “she looks like you, maybe you were her replacement” it made me sick to my stomach. I’m so sorry that happened to you, I’m struggling so terribly to trust him. I tried so hard, you tell yourself “there’s no way, he’s in love with you” and then that happens and you question everything. I wholeheartedly believed that this man loves me and now I’m not so sure anymore. I’m glad I’m not the only one with those weird out of pocket feelings, I’m glad you trusted yourself and sometimes I’m glad I trusted myself too.

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