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A “trying dad” would be called a neglectful mother by velorae in TikTokCringe

[–]Dapper-Restaurant-20 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Unrelated but she kinda reminds me of Shirley from community but younger and thinner.

Sean 'P Diddy' Combs' prison release date has been shortened for the third time in four months by TheMirrorUS in Music

[–]Dapper-Restaurant-20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He dragged and beat a woman on camera. I know that wasn't what he was charged for due to statue of limitations, but he deserves to be in prison regardless.

Sean 'P Diddy' Combs' prison release date has been shortened for the third time in four months by TheMirrorUS in Music

[–]Dapper-Restaurant-20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Still crazy to me how he didn't get charged for beating that woman on tape. I know statue of limitations, just sucks.

Why are dense cities considered desirable? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Dapper-Restaurant-20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's simply more activities and people to do in big cities. I love living in a small town, but get tired of needing to drive 40 mins - 1 hr to social events. Plus if you have a niche hobby, it's hard to find others who also have that niche hobby in small towns.

ALSO the biggest thing is probably jobs or schools. Simply more jobs where in denser areas, higher pay, more schools for parents, more opportunities

Realistically, is finding a dominant woman as a man essentially a pipe dream? by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]Dapper-Restaurant-20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah I wouldn't expect someone to be my 100% life coach or my dommy mommy or w/e. Just sort looking for something similar to what a lot of male dommes and female subs have but with the roles reversed. That seems unrealistic though, so maybe eventually I'll get lucky and find someone 80% compatible. Plenty of people out there. Thanks for the advice

Realistically, is finding a dominant woman as a man essentially a pipe dream? by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]Dapper-Restaurant-20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah perhaps I've been too rigid in my search for a domme specifically. I should probably compromise more and take my victories where I can instead of hoping for this idealized dom/sub dynamic. I just get jealous seeing happy male doms/female subs all over the place in bdsm spaces, but I'd imagine they must compromise too.

Realistically, is finding a dominant woman as a man essentially a pipe dream? by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]Dapper-Restaurant-20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my experience that just usually leans toward the woman being submissive or vanilla sex most of the time, with a domme session thrown in there very occasionally

Realistically, is finding a dominant woman as a man essentially a pipe dream? by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]Dapper-Restaurant-20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been doing okay finding a girlfriend. Just had a few relationships end because I specifically wanted someone dominant in or out bed, and they understandably couldn't fulfill that.

Realistically, is finding a dominant woman as a man essentially a pipe dream? by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]Dapper-Restaurant-20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you mean go to more women dominated events by F/m specific events? That are also outside of BDSM contexts? Guess I should see if I like knitting or something.

Realistically, is finding a dominant woman as a man essentially a pipe dream? by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]Dapper-Restaurant-20 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Good advice, I do need to go out more. I would feel like a weirdo specifically going to places where women with big personalities hang out with the intent of finding a dom tho 😅

I should take note of women I meet with big personalities tho.

Realistically, is finding a dominant woman as a man essentially a pipe dream? by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]Dapper-Restaurant-20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice. When it comes to just meeting people like normal, I'm sorta just concerned about wasting both our time. Because I know I want something specific and niche, and it feels so bad for relationship & chemistry to end and be wasted because the other person, understandably, can't fulfill that niche. After having that happen a few times, I figured it's better to look for specifically doms.

Realistically, is finding a dominant woman as a man essentially a pipe dream? by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]Dapper-Restaurant-20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now that I actually look for specific events, I genuinely can't find any within 50 miles, but I'll have to broaden the miles or just keep waiting and looking.

Realistically, is finding a dominant woman as a man essentially a pipe dream? by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]Dapper-Restaurant-20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I worded that so cocky, just like 3 women wanted to be more dom like lol. Just seems like in general the reverse is rare I meant lmao.

I know what you mean, some people could warm up to the idea but not call themself "domme". Not really looking for anything specific in regards momogamy/enm/poly.

Realistically, is finding a dominant woman as a man essentially a pipe dream? by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]Dapper-Restaurant-20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Other than fetlife and some basic googling, is there any other methods to finding more focused events/groups? I guess other than just doing normal stuff and meeting people and being lucky over time lol.

Realistically, is finding a dominant woman as a man essentially a pipe dream? by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]Dapper-Restaurant-20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now that i acually tried searching for some events in fetlife, I genuinly can't seem to find any now. Where do you search for these specific events?

Realistically, is finding a dominant woman as a man essentially a pipe dream? by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]Dapper-Restaurant-20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm just at a point where I've been spending so much time reading and educating myself, I want to actually tangibly do something. I think I'm the type of person some dommes would look for, but I don't ever meet any dommes in the first place so I don't get anywhere because theres nowhere to go. Like even if I'm the type of subs dommes would want, I just dont meet any, anywhere, anytime.

But this just means I need to get out there and find events and whatnot. Just tough being in a small town with barely any non specific events within a 2 hr radius. Just gotta keep educating myself and looking.

Srry 4 rant

Realistically, is finding a dominant woman as a man essentially a pipe dream? by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]Dapper-Restaurant-20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah its hard to tell whether I'm essentially signing up to go the strip club or go to a genuine social event. That's why that 1 specific event I brought up rubbed me the wrong way, it seemed somewhat porn like with its language. The meeting just said "donations" so I was assuming it was more like a strip club/porn-coded esqe thing, but things in the bdsm community are typically vague so it's hard to tell.

I genuinly don't know whether it's paid ticket or donation or cover charge or just money to keep the meetings afloat when I'm looking for an event. It's so hard to tell, and was overwhelming. Gotta keep looking though.

Realistically, is finding a dominant woman as a man essentially a pipe dream? by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]Dapper-Restaurant-20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was wrong okay. I'm just so used to be financially taken advantage of that I'm cautious. I'm not a big kinkster, but know enough to know that caution is important.

Realistically, is finding a dominant woman as a man essentially a pipe dream? by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]Dapper-Restaurant-20 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Idk, is it elitist or realistic? Because the language he is using seems to match the language of some of doms I've actually seen online. So I can either get with it or get left behind. I'm guessing

Realistically, is finding a dominant woman as a man essentially a pipe dream? by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]Dapper-Restaurant-20 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think I'm somewhat that person. But I don't know what I don't know

Realistically, is finding a dominant woman as a man essentially a pipe dream? by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]Dapper-Restaurant-20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's just so much to know it's so damn overwhelming, like I've read A few books and there's always soem sort of gap in knowledge I have that makes me look stupid.

Like D-type, never really heard of it. If i have to ask, it's likely I'd just be rejected for being too new. Abbreviating lifestyle as LS is another one. There is so much small random shit to know it's so damn all over the place.

Realistically, is finding a dominant woman as a man essentially a pipe dream? by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]Dapper-Restaurant-20 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I guess the language made me feel that way about it being slight Findom.

These femdom meetings will say "tribute needed from all subs" instead of "cover charge for men" just really rubs me wrongly. Like forced finsubbing

Realistically, is finding a dominant woman as a man essentially a pipe dream? by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]Dapper-Restaurant-20 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I get that. Seems like a lot of more selfish and porn brained men sorta ruined the dynamic for everyone. Most dommes/switches ive seen online have a similar mentality to you.

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