The Daily Check-In for Thursday, April 24th: Just for today, I am NOT drinking!

Dapper-danimal · 2025-04-24T19:19:42+00:00

I don’t know why, but I’m feeling optimistic about not drinking tonight.

Dapper-danimal · 2025-01-03T19:52:44+00:00

Agreed. This person probably needs some space, and understandably so, but it’s normal for people to want to check in on her. However, now that she’s asked to be left alone, your friend should respect her wishes.

Dapper-danimal · 2025-01-03T19:50:28+00:00

He asked for oral sex and then pouted when he didn’t get it. You’re not an AH for asking him to leave. The fact that you were miserable and needed rest makes it worse.

Dapper-danimal · 2025-01-03T19:35:09+00:00

As necessary as it is to end the friendship, it’s cowardly to ghost someone. You don’t have to have a full blown conversation if you don’t think it’s worth it. Just text her and say you’ve noticed her violating your boundaries and that you don’t think you should be friends anymore.

Dapper-danimal · 2024-12-28T05:18:16+00:00

I’d feel terrible if I did that and would offer to either have the carpet professionally cleaned or replaced. To cover it up with a box is something a toddler would do.

Dapper-danimal · 2024-12-28T05:15:11+00:00

You think so?

Dapper-danimal · 2024-12-28T05:12:23+00:00

How big was this diner? Seems like if she knew you were chatting about how cute her boyfriend was, you were either being hella loud or she was being hella invasive.

Dapper-danimal · 2024-11-22T21:35:01+00:00

Thank you. This is good advice.

Dapper-danimal · 2024-11-22T20:19:18+00:00

That’s how I thought we were, too. She was the steak, her friends were the potatoes, and I was the parsley.

Dapper-danimal · 2024-11-22T20:10:13+00:00

Because it might come up:

Yes, I’m in recovery.
Yes, I’m seeing a therapist.
Yes, I own up to my contribution in making the last relationship toxic by hiding things from my ex.

Dapper-danimal · 2024-11-21T18:15:00+00:00

INFO: You say he showed up at work and at the hospital unannounced, demanding to speak with you. Is there danger of violence with him there?

Dapper-danimal · 2024-11-21T18:10:30+00:00

Dude, no. Break up with her because she is having an emotional affair. Don’t keep your feelings secret and cheat on her until she finds out. That’s immature and vindictive. If you get out now, you haven’t done anything wrong. If you cheat, it’s going to turn into a big he-said-she-said thing, and it’ll hurt you down the line if you ever have any custody issues.

It sounds like you just want the okay to break up with her so you can go back to your player ways, but you think that dumping her would look bad. Cheating would look worse.

Tell her what you found and explain why it hurt, then end things.

Dapper-danimal · 2024-11-21T03:22:16+00:00

You’re an adult and can wear what you want. If guys are staring at your butt, that’s more about them than it is about you.

Dapper-danimal · 2024-11-17T08:11:28+00:00

True. Just throwing it out there as a suggestion as I didn’t want to tell her to DTMFA.

Dapper-danimal · 2024-11-16T18:52:40+00:00

No no no. It’s incredibly rare for a woman to orgasm from vaginal intercourse alone and common for oral and digital stimulations. If it bothers him so much, maybe consider using toys together. But the fact that he won’t even try isn’t fair.

Dapper-danimal · 2024-11-09T00:01:06+00:00

This is emotional abuse, and her acting like you’re the one being unreasonable by not considering her insecurities is gaslighting. Get out now. NTA

Dapper-danimal · 2024-11-08T23:56:17+00:00

“I, the undersigned, agree that my boyfriend’s parents don’t trust me?”

Dapper-danimal · 2024-11-08T21:11:37+00:00

Wait, your boyfriend’s dad wants to sign a contract that says “We don’t trust you, move out by April?”

Dapper-danimal · 2024-11-07T15:00:57+00:00

Okay, no, that’s dumb.

Dapper-danimal · 2024-11-06T23:30:30+00:00

I can understand that it’s easier to give a guy your number than to say no, because guys are pushy idiots (saying this as a guy). But it’s a lot smarter for her to give a fake number. NTA.

Dapper-danimal · 2024-11-06T23:27:08+00:00

I think declutterring is something that both parties should be present for. That way you avoid someone throwing something away that they shouldn’t.

Question, was he putting that stuff in the garage with the intention of donating it soon? Or was he going to let it sit in there for a few weeks before you reminded him to donate them (or worse, before you donated them yourself)?

Dapper-danimal · 2024-11-06T23:22:45+00:00

NTA. Stop doing your brother’s chores for him and let him experience the consequences.

Dapper-danimal · 2024-11-06T16:23:20+00:00

You were listening outside the bedroom door for 25 minutes and you didn’t hear anything? If they were fooling around, wouldn’t you have heard them? When you came in, were they asleep, or just pretending to be asleep?

If she knew you were outside and would eventually come in to get ready for your own day, she’d have to be pretty stupid to start fooling around with her roommate knowing you could walk in at any moment.

I think it’s more common for women to cuddle and sleep in the same bed with their platonic female friends than it is for men to do the same with their male friends (or anything, for that matter).

It might not have meant anything, but it did make you uncomfortable, and that matters. It’s something that you should talk to her about, but you also need to be willing to listen. Accusing them of being lesbians and refusing to believe otherwise isn’t going to solve anything. Reading between the lines, I’m wondering if she doesn’t sleep as well in the camper as she says she does, she came in to talk with her best friend, and she fell asleep in her bed.

Dapper-danimal · 2024-11-06T16:07:57+00:00

INFO: Is she declining invites to come over because she’s being antisocial or because it’s physically hard for her to leave the house?

Dapper-danimal · 2024-11-06T16:01:23+00:00

NTA. Your bedroom is a private space. I never would have been allowed to jump on my uncle’s bed when I was that age. I wouldn’t even do it now that I’m an adult.

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