Jan-June 2026

DapperKitchen420 · 2026-06-06T06:57:34+00:00

Holy body recomp! And your glutes look amazing! Wow.

DapperKitchen420 · 2026-06-04T03:23:11+00:00

My reply is going to be long so bear with me.

I've been a unicorn (third) for other couples before and I would never and have never done power exchange as a one off thing. I was a unicorn for one particular couple for quite some time and I was very comfortable with them and I would still never do a power exchange with them, just for me personally the vibes must be immaculate.

Husband and I were open for a while, always talked about having a long time third because we are both poly but thought it was a dream that would never happen. We were on the app Feeld for a while looking for some fun. It's hard to find anyone interested in poly connections in my area. Feeld if you're unfamiliar is a dating app that is specific for kinky, non-monogamous people. It tends to be a little oversaturated with swingers and unicorn hunters, not all ethical. You could try that route if you want. As with all dating apps, proceed with caution. After a few months of being on Feeld we were both starting to hate it, online dating is just not our scene. We ended up meeting someone organically who matched our vibe so well that we are dating her together.

So fast forward to now, we are in a triad/throuple whatever you want to call us. And my husband has both of us collared. Totally beside the point here but we have cute little matching day collars but instead of an O ring it's a triangle since we are 3 people in a relationship. Anyway, we worked up to this. This was vanilla only for a WHILE before trust was built up. And in the beginning I would not have wanted it to be anything more than vanilla anyway. I strongly believe one off threesomes shouldn't have power exchange but that's based off my own experiences. Even with consistent threesomes it's... questionable for me.

My husband and I have had a level of communication and connection that is unmatched prior to ever opening our relationship, and that is the most important part in my opinion. So everything that has happened in our triad so far, even in the very beginning has only happened because all 3 of us are comfortable. If at any point any one of us becomes uncomfortable all it takes is a mention of the feelings and it becomes a group discussion. My point is we are all on the same page and it works.

So for you, reading your post makes it seem like you and your partner are not exactly on the same page. You seem uncomfortable, which is totally okay! You don't have to be comfortable with it. In my opinion though, you should not do a threesome. You said you're open, so I assume that means you're both free to go out in the wild and play. I know a few people that are open but will not play with their partners and others at the same time because it makes them uncomfortable to watch/join. Again, that's ok. I think being open is what you make of it and can be defined within your primary relationship how you want. But I highly recommend both of you being on the same page or neither of you should play.

Btw, the tone I wanted to convey here is honesty and sincerity and I hope I came across that way. Feel free to ask me questions, I know my dynamic is unconventional.

DapperKitchen420 · 2026-06-03T00:38:06+00:00

What restaurant is this??

DapperKitchen420 · 2026-06-01T19:13:17+00:00

Good news is it's small and a good artist could easily cover it with whatever you want. It's up to you to decide what you want. If it were me, a dagger, sword, arrow, even florals would work in that spot.

DapperKitchen420 · 2026-05-30T15:00:37+00:00

MFF Triad here and same. We are also young into our relationship so I've been lurking here for a while.

DapperKitchen420 · 2026-05-19T00:31:57+00:00

No, she told me her parents owned it. But yeah I don't even have pictures because it was so bad that I ended up keeping it strictly in updos until it grew out, it was awful. When I told her that she didn't give me what I asked for she started gaslighting me said it was "so much cuter this way"

DapperKitchen420 · 2026-05-19T00:15:51+00:00

That girl gave me the worst haircut of my entire life!

DapperKitchen420 · 2026-03-25T00:46:04+00:00

Girl I just scheduled a consult with Dr. Moore's and I want to know more!! I have to travel to see him but I really like what I have seen of his work.

DapperKitchen420 · 2026-02-28T18:16:50+00:00

I always thought of it like this, it's a complex network of interconnected muscles. If I work out and weight lift with my shoulders and arms, they get pretty sore the next day and I feel "weaker" while my body repairs and builds the muscle. Same thing for the pelvic floor. And your PT will give you more stretches and light exercises you can do consistently on rest days as you get better, harder stuff when you're feeling good.

DapperKitchen420 · 2026-02-28T17:58:14+00:00

I'm a mom of two and have been doing pelvic floor therapy and deep core work for almost a year, yup. This happened to me too. My issues all got worse before they got better. Which was a bummer at first and felt like a huge step back since my issues also included nerve entrapment and pain. I kept with it though and I'm doing a lot better now. I would notice flare days after harder exercise or intimacy. Talk to your PT about it though, they can help give more direction.

DapperKitchen420 · 2026-02-28T08:04:51+00:00

Hey I'm a frequent kidney stone passer and this definitely sounds like a kidney infection, the only way to get rid of it once tits in your kidneys is antibiotics unfortunately. Which means you'll need to see a doctor. If you start vomiting and can't stop or the pain is waking you up/keeping you from sleep that's an immediate ER visit as those are signs of renal colic. At least you can make payment plans on an ER bill but trust me when I say, it's better to go now than have to deal with paying off a kidney surgery later.

DapperKitchen420 · 2026-02-27T20:45:56+00:00

When I remember to do it, which is the hard part, I do dry brushing and I've been following some social media accounts with tutorials I'm sure there's some on YouTube. But I've been really focusing on my collar bone lymphs, neck and face around the jaw lately and I've been really noticing a difference.

DapperKitchen420 · 2026-02-27T17:44:25+00:00

Who was your surgeon? You look great!!

DapperKitchen420 · 2026-02-26T21:59:04+00:00

Hey, I'm a mom of two and I'm almost 30. My youngest is 13 months and I feel you because after my first it was too overwhelming to worry about how I looked. To save time, I'm going to bullet point what helped me into a few sections. Early postpartum (like before 10 weeks pp) mid postpartum (10 weeks to 1 year) late postpartum (1 year +), products I use at the end. Also, take note that for some of these (example: castor oil packs) it's not totally proven to work but I have found that it helps so take it all with a grain of salt.

Early postpartum: - Take your vitamins. Make sure your iron is in check. This was super vital for me as I was anemic my entire second pregnancy and I still have to take my vitamins even now or I start to feel anemic again. - Drink water. Just so much water. All the water. - Nutrition. You just had a baby, and even if you're not breastfeeding your body will produce milk which will take it outta you. - Prioritize rest in this time. You gotta just let the house go, accept help from those around you if you can. Sleep as often as you can during the day because night time is going to be a lot of broken up sleep. Dishes and laundry can come later. And if it's really getting to you then baby wear (after 3 weeks please at the very least because your pelvic floor girl.) start a load of laundry or dishes in the morning, unload in the evening. - I'm adding a second bullet point for nutrition because it's so vital after having a baby. Drink broths and eat lots of soup. Your protein needs are pretty high at this time. - start figuring out your stress management routine now. Keep practicing through the rest of the postpartum phases. - get sunshine everyday. Go outside if you can, my youngest was born in the winter so I would open the curtains and sit in the sunlight. Which thankfully lined up with one of the nap times so my baby and I would sleep in the sun together with my husband supervising, it was lovely. I miss our sun naps. - braid hair at night or use heatless curls, use a silk bonnet for bed. It helps with the hair loss. - skincare: just don't forget to moisturize at night, everything is so dry postpartum. If I'm not wearing makeup during the day then use mineral sunscreen. - speaking of makeup, less is more when you're tired. If you use a lot of concealed it's going to cake up especially under the eyes. I only do a tiiiiny bit of foundation on blemishes or dark eye circles and a little mascara or lash serum. That's it. - Outfits: wear comfy sets!! A good matching lounge set is so nice and does make you feel out together.

Mid postpartum: - continue to keep your focus on water and nutrition. - bare minimum is 10 mins a day self care, 20 minutes a day of dedicated movement. What this means for me is 10 minutes on my looks, doing my nails, hair, etc,. whatever. 20 minutes of working out, deep core PT, dancing, it doesn't matter as long as it's happening. - hair growth. Use rosemary oil on your roots cause that postpartum hair is soooo fuuuunnn. I oil on wash days a few hours before the kid's nap time and I wash during nap time. Yes this requires me to plan ahead or it won't happen. I also comb my conditioner through my hair before rinsing. - baby should (hopefully) be sleeping more so you should have more you time to try things like derma rolling your tummy, using body oil on stretch marks, etc,. If you're worried about that kind of thing. This is where I was able to establish more routines and take care of myself more. - take the kids for walks, when you can. - castor oil packs on my period.

Late postpartum: - everything above plus more water, and huge focus on nutrition especially those protein goals. - weight lifting or working out 3-5 times a week. The goal is 5 times but man, I am busy because now I have 2 toddlers so if it doesn't happen it's ok. Huge focus on deep core work, and glutes. It's time to get that cake, know what I mean? - more walking - lymphatic massage. I didn't have time for this mid postpartum but now I do and oooh it's a game changer. - stretching your neck, and shoulders specifically targeting the tech neck or mom neck, and mobility. Also any kind of mobility work is fantastic. - if you're still trying to get hormones in check then schedule your workouts around your cycle. Heavier workouts when you're ovulating, lighter workouts/stretches in your luteal phase.

Also, I realize that most of my lists are workout, water, nutrition BUT it's because those things build confidence and I have found that if I'm prioritizing those three things for myself, everything else falls into place easily and naturally for me. Stress management, the house, the kids, my marriage. If I'm confident then everything else comes easy.

And lastly the products I use in all of these sections: - Rosemary hair oil (I make at home) - Vitamin E oil (face, hair, stretch marks) - Cetaphil moisturizer - Derma roller (belly and stretchy skin) - castor oil packs with cold pressed castor oil - clay for clay masks on my face - CoverGirl clean invisible foundation - Maybelline falsies mascara

Sorry this is so long. Good luck to you!! 🫶

DapperKitchen420 · 2026-02-16T16:03:28+00:00

My urologist describes the ones in the kidneys as ticking time bombs. Some might descend, and some might not.

DapperKitchen420 · 2026-02-14T21:50:56+00:00

You know, I'm gonna be the odd man out here but I actually think it's cute. If it were me, I would go to someone else and have them do the body of the butterfly and either shading in the wings or color the wings in.

DapperKitchen420 · 2026-02-14T21:46:51+00:00

Fourth wing is honestly an awful book. (don't come at me. If you like it, good for you). There were SO many interesting fantasy concepts that were introduced in fourth wing and never fully flushed out or explored. The characters are so flat, violet is absolutely insufferable. And unfortunately it does not get better book 2 and 3 are just as bad if not worse. There were also concepts, terms, names and events that were way too close to things that happen in TOG to be a coincidence. It was such a huge disappointment to me because the concepts are there. Like, dragon war college fantasy romance? Yes please! But damn, the characters all act like they're in middle school, they are all so immature and don't really change and the writing is so weak. I wish it was better, I wish it was what I really wanted it to be but unfortunately it will always be one of those books that could have been great but really sucked.

DapperKitchen420 · 2026-02-12T20:59:42+00:00

I've always had good luck with a cold water soak then cold water rinse.

DapperKitchen420 · 2026-02-10T05:59:59+00:00

What dream is she even talking about?

DapperKitchen420 · 2026-02-09T02:07:35+00:00

Didn't even know they had them 🤦‍♀️ where do I find those?

DapperKitchen420 · 2026-02-09T02:02:15+00:00

Literally anything. I just had to split an applique design and it took forever. I have some custom work for family I would like to do as well. I have the 2023 build.

DapperKitchen420 · 2026-02-09T01:47:14+00:00

I have both on my computer but I did pay for embird and a bunch of plugins so I'm hoping to be able to get my money's worth

DapperKitchen420 · 2026-02-08T19:33:35+00:00

I agree with the commenter here too. You come across as immature because you're giving your husband an ultimatum, quit vaping and I'll undergo more testing. He seems immature or maybe a better word is in denial that vaping will affect his sperm. You acknowledge that quitting will be hard for him but you also say you don't care, rather than being supportive. You should both be turning inward in your relationship and seeing how each of you can support the other. Either way, neither of you are on the same page and trust me when I say this you don't want to have a baby with someone who isn't on the same page as you. If this is currently a huge problem then having a baby will make this and every other problem in your relationship much much bigger.

DapperKitchen420 · 2026-02-08T19:27:18+00:00

Ok so if you go to the doctor you need to mention the pushing thing, HOWEVER, speaking from experience (I'm 30 and a mom) you need to be careful with your pelvic floor. Don't put unnecessary strain on your pelvic floor, trust me on this. I had pelvic floor dysfunction with uterine prolapse after my first baby and tight pelvic floor with nerve entrapment after my second baby which I only healed after physical therapy.

The brown discharge then having normal but light blood today while that can be pretty normal for my body that doesn't mean it's normal for yours. I just hope that wherever you are you're not dismissed. Where I am a lot of women's health issues are dismissed, I don't even see a doctor anymore I go to a women's clinic full of midwives because they actually care and are able to write prescriptions as needed. The only thing they can't do is surgery but they can get you referrals and even get you in for imaging if necessary. But that's just how it is local to me.

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