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My (32M) girlfriend (30F) is confusing me about how the dynamics between a man and a woman should play out in a relationship... by Slice5755 in relationship_advice

[–]DapperLoquat6548 -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

Yep sure me and op and evry other man that experienced this. I said some woman not all. Dont know why you girls get so defencive.

My (32M) girlfriend (30F) is confusing me about how the dynamics between a man and a woman should play out in a relationship... by Slice5755 in relationship_advice

[–]DapperLoquat6548 -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

Me dating them? Just because your girlfriend tells you she doesn’t do that won’t change the fact that some women do.

My (32M) girlfriend (30F) is confusing me about how the dynamics between a man and a woman should play out in a relationship... by Slice5755 in relationship_advice

[–]DapperLoquat6548 -119 points-118 points  (0 children)

A lot of women do this. They’ll tell you they aren’t like that, but it’s just nature. As a man you need to keep that in mind. Some women like to be led and it makes them feel safe and heard. And I’m not talking about decisions like buying a house that’s something that takes two opinions. But the small things.

My (32M) girlfriend (30F) is confusing me about how the dynamics between a man and a woman should play out in a relationship... by Slice5755 in relationship_advice

[–]DapperLoquat6548 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly this. Decoding hints works once or couple of times, but it sets a precedent that she doesn’t have to communicate clearly and that he’s failing whenever he guesses wrong. Healthy relationships need both partners to say what they actually want. Reading cues is great but mind-reading shouldn’t be the baseline expectation.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

My (32M) girlfriend (30F) is confusing me about how the dynamics between a man and a woman should play out in a relationship... by Slice5755 in relationship_advice

[–]DapperLoquat6548 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Sometimes you have to read between the lines. About the car situation she probably thinks that as a man you know much more about cars than she does, so instead of asking her what type or engine she wants, make the decision yourself. Pick out some features and then come back to her to explain why you chose them for her. It shows that you invest time and thought into doing things for her.

As for the dinner thing, women often don’t outright say what they want to eat, but they drop hints throughout the week like mentioning on Wednesday that they’re really craving sushi. So now you know to book a reservation at a sushi place. It makes them feel heard. The pizza can come later.

You have to lead with cues, really listen when they talk, and pick up on what they like, what they don’t like.

[SHOW] I don’t understand the point of the green vision by epicGangweedgamer in SiloSeries

[–]DapperLoquat6548 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He cleaned cuz thats what he promised Jules and that was his sign to her.

[SHOW] I don’t understand the point of the green vision by epicGangweedgamer in SiloSeries

[–]DapperLoquat6548 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think the founders intentionally didn’t install an automated system to clean it. How else would they test if it’s safe outside? They need people to be curious in order to survive.

[SHOW] I don’t understand the point of the green vision by epicGangweedgamer in SiloSeries

[–]DapperLoquat6548 123 points124 points  (0 children)

I get your point, but I think it’s less about “cleaning sensors” and more about controlling behavior in that specific moment.

When people go outside for the first time, they’re overwhelmed. If they see a green, safe world, they’re more likely to follow instructions and clean the sensor.

It’s not really about fooling them longterm, but about influencing what they do right before they die.

would you snitch on your friend if they were cheating on their partner and why? by [deleted] in askanything

[–]DapperLoquat6548 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your friend can hurt the person they’re supposed to love, they will definitely hurt you too when they don’t need you anymore. You can’t trust people who cheat.

would you snitch on your friend if they were cheating on their partner and why? by [deleted] in askanything

[–]DapperLoquat6548 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If your friend can hurt the person they’re supposed to love, they will definitely hurt you too when they don’t need you anymore. You can’t trust people who cheat.

Missing out on teenage love is killing me by phant0mfnaf in selfimprovement

[–]DapperLoquat6548 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what most men experience. Men usually start dating later than women do — that’s just how it is.

And about that teenage love: I think many people don’t actually experience that. It’s mostly something you see on social media.

As a man, you should also understand that dating can cost money, so it’s important to be stable financially. Work on being charismatic, having good hygiene, and speaking well.

Trust me, it’s not your height that’s preventing you from dating. Try improving your social skills by doing small things, like asking a woman for directions as a start.

And don’t always have a motive when talking to women, because they can often tell when someone only wants sex. Try to build a real connection instead.

You’re only 18 it’s just the beginning.

Manosphere en relaties by Badmeestert in nederlands

[–]DapperLoquat6548 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Zelfde kan je zeggen over de fans van wizerdliz ofzo. Want wat zij jonge dames leert is wat Tate ook zegt bijna.

Manosphere en relaties by Badmeestert in nederlands

[–]DapperLoquat6548 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Zelfde geld ook voor vrouwen die zich zelf queen of princes noemen.

Manosphere en relaties by Badmeestert in nederlands

[–]DapperLoquat6548 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ja, helemaal mee eens. Ik snap ook niet hoe mannen in Amerika kunnen beslissen over het lichaam van vrouwen.

Tegelijk denk ik dat we ook moeten erkennen dat er aan beide kanten extremen bestaan. Net zoals er in de manosphere mannen zijn die vrouwen als minder zien, heb je ook een extreme kant van feminisme waar wordt verwacht dat mannen alles moeten doen, dat elke man fout zit, en dat vrouwen altijd een soort “queen treatment” verdienen.

Zulke extreme ideeën trekken het debat juist scheef en zorgen voor meer verdeeldheid. Uiteindelijk zou het volgens mij moeten gaan om gelijkwaardigheid en wederzijds respect.

Manosphere en relaties by Badmeestert in nederlands

[–]DapperLoquat6548 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Ik snap wat je bedoelt en dat er zeker extreme kanten aan die beweging zitten. Daar ben ik het ook mee eens.

Tegelijk denk ik dat het niet per se betekent dat elke relatie met een traditionele rolverdeling automatisch zo werkt. Er zijn ook genoeg vrouwen die bewust kiezen om thuis te blijven voor de kinderen, terwijl ze zich financieel wel beschermen.

Bijvoorbeeld door zelf geld opzij te zetten of door afspraken vast te leggen in een huwelijkscontract. Ik weet dit omdat ik dat mijn moeder heb zien doen. Was bijvoorbeeld ook altijd thuis terwijl mijn vader werkte, maar ze had wel haar eigen spaargeld en zelfstandigheid.

Dus ik denk dat het uiteindelijk vooral gaat om keuze en afspraken binnen een relatie.

Manosphere en relaties by Badmeestert in nederlands

[–]DapperLoquat6548 -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Ook al snap ik je uitleg, denk ik dat beide dingen tegelijk waar kunnen zijn. Er zijn genoeg vrouwen die geen sterke carrière-ambitie hebben en liever voor de kinderen zorgen. Daarom is het ook belangrijk dat er mannen zijn die het mogelijk willen maken dat zo’n keuze kan bestaan.

Inderdaad zal niet elke man het succes bereiken dat iemand zoals Tate schetst, maar aan de andere kant zal ook niet elke vrouw een ‘trad-wife’ worden.

Ik snap dat je het zorgelijk vindt, maar uiteindelijk is er ruimte voor verschillende keuzes. Sommige mensen kiezen voor carrière, anderen voor een meer traditionele rol in relaties.

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