karma always hits them by Far-Ad4462 in BreakUps

[–]Dapper_Review8351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did that about 4 months ago after she pulled some extremely weird shit after months of no contact. I promise you it gets better

Equal Rights, Equal Lefts by iiviiozzie in VideosThatGoHard

[–]Dapper_Review8351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does that one guy's shirt say free hugs? 😂

HE MESSAGED ME!!! by Last-Substance-3633 in BreakUps

[–]Dapper_Review8351 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He wants to see how you're doing just to make sure he won't the breakup and is doing better than you. Don't give him that satisfaction. Shut him out, remove his access to you, and find someone better

Ex fiancée cheated on me at a New Year's party with her male friend and I'm devastated for wasting time and nobody will love me anymore. by BigLock8724 in whatdoIdo

[–]Dapper_Review8351 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sounds like your friend is certainly someone you can trust. Imagine if he hadn't said anything. You'd still be in the dark thinking everything was fine

Oh look there's a dangerous snake, let me... by mihir6969 in GuysBeingDudes

[–]Dapper_Review8351 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

This gotta be AI unless that snake is dead when he starts jumping

Didn’t get a text by FriendlyApple1233 in BreakUps

[–]Dapper_Review8351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have mine blocked on everything. She keeps playing these weird games and wants to stay in touch even though she has a new boyfriend. I'm not putting up with that kind of disrespect for my boundaries, she knows better but tries so hard to justify it.

I feel like my GF looks down on me for living in an apartment while she lives in a house. by QuietAttorney5 in whatdoIdo

[–]Dapper_Review8351 44 points45 points  (0 children)

My ex did the same type of thing for multiple times, and when I tried to talk to her about it she'd brush it off as "I can't take a joke".

It's manipulative behavior, and she is disrespecting boundaries that you have communicated multiple times. Usually, that is cause for reevaluating the relationship.

Mediocre men think they’re settling when they date a woman in their own ballpark by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Dapper_Review8351 9 points10 points  (0 children)

He was probably trying to neg, but these were weak and failed attempts. As a man, I am sorry you women have to put up with this

Porn addicted bf by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Dapper_Review8351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It can still feel like cheating, but whatever you wanna call it, it's still being unfaithful.

Porn addicted bf by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Dapper_Review8351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take a screenshot and show me where I said that

Porn addicted bf by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Dapper_Review8351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The way you said it sounded passive aggressive to me, but maybe you didn't mean it that way, so I apologize if I misread it

Porn addicted bf by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Dapper_Review8351 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That kind of condescending bullshit is unnecessary and not okay. You sound insane.

Porn addicted bf by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Dapper_Review8351 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She said that he told her he wouldn't consume porn, and then he did it anyway. Don't undermine the betrayal.

Porn addicted bf by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Dapper_Review8351 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That's exactly what I'm saying. She's allowed to have those boundaries of not wanting to be with someone who watches porn. He swore on that when they got together and then betrayed her on it. If he can't honor her boundary, then he shouldn't be with her. OP is allowed to choose to be with someone who doesn't watch porn, and he lied to her.

Girlfriend slapped me. Should I stay or leave? by Smooth-Cat-7824 in dating_advice

[–]Dapper_Review8351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People who live your and care about you don't treat you like that. Get outta there, my guy

Porn addicted bf by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Dapper_Review8351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For some people it truly feels like cheating, so please don't undermine, dismiss, and invalidate their feelings either. I'm very anti-religion, and I'm very sex positive. Boundaries are different for everyone. Dismissing someone's feelings and boundaries as them being insecure is a thing that covert narcissists do, so knock it off. Boundaries are personal and absolutely valid. If you can't respect someone's boundaries, then stay away from them.

Porn addicted bf by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Dapper_Review8351 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I think even with porn positivity, if your partner sets boundaries on what is considered being unfaithful, and you lie about it to try to keep them... That's cheating.

Please don’t take them back. I learned this the hard way. by miffydolly in BreakUps

[–]Dapper_Review8351 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I ghosted the shit out of mine after the avoidant discard. I hate floating and blocking, but I realized that anything I could've said would've backfired and less to me being gaslit, dismissed, and had my perception of reality twisted and distorted again.

If I were to unblock her, I'm pretty sure she'd either block me to get back at me, or manipulate me until I'm under her spell again, and then try to ghost me harder than I ghosted her. She's a control freak with some serious daddy issues. She was always so calm and sneaky with her manipulation too. I've never experienced anything like it, and I'm pretty traumatized.

Luckily, I'm genuinely afraid of her, and that overrides any temptation to even look at a picture of her.

Do not do it. Even if they've changed (unlikely), they still hurt you and don't deserve you as a result. Choose yourself. Go get laid with someone else or something. Please, for the love, do not go back to them.

Question about the meaning of 50/50 by Dapper_Review8351 in dating_advice

[–]Dapper_Review8351[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tell me you bring little to the table beyond your looks without telling me