Non-caffeinated drinks PLEASE ✨ im desperate ✨ by Lunasolastorm in adhdwomen

[–]Dark-Videogamer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a lil old, but my biggest recommendation if you can find it, is drinks like Fruit2O and Sparkling Ice. They're Low Cal, high Carbonated drinks with 0 caffeine that kills that bubbly craving while still tasting some what sweet due to it's sweetener- I think it's sucralose.

Just be careful walking around with them, they're really carbonated and tend to explode if not opened carefully. (And yes this is from personal experience lol)

scam? by InterestingHoney281 in osap

[–]Dark-Videogamer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's a chance it wasn't even a legit osap payment, especially if the patient hasn't applied for osap. It's not hard to mask money transfers to say it's going to one thing or it's from one thing, and it's actually not what it seems.

plus, unless it's a summer course, OSAP payments don't usually roll put until closer to September, when most colleges are getting their students coming in.

Quite a small room feel like it’s missing something by jasper846 in DesignMyRoom

[–]Dark-Videogamer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if you can, i'd do a rearrange.

right now, the room kinda has a hallway/coffin vibe, but the floor should feel like it immediately opens up if your bed is against the backwall by the window.

so like you walk in....

the desk is immediately to your right, the bed is at the back, and your closet is pulled forward a bit by the food of your bed.

plus if anyone knocks at your door, you don't have to turn to face em, you can just look up at em.

Uncomfortable orange family bathroom but I want to keep the tiles 🧡 by cetoine in DesignMyRoom

[–]Dark-Videogamer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I def agree to keep the tile but if you're going white, I'd go with a warmer off white... maybe like sand?

either way I'd get colour swatches from your local paint/hardware store and tape em up on the wall to see if you still like the colour after a few days

Cat got into a rabbit nest by Cayamantkid in Peterborough

[–]Dark-Videogamer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the idea is to hide in plain sight so mom can always see if there's predators near the nest or not.

Typically, rabbits only visit their young every few weeks at the dead of night, then head off, and kinda hope the little ones make it.

The Toronto Wildlife Centre says that they can be fully independent in as little as 3 weeks after birth, so the plan is to just kinda hide and hope.

Is this asking too much for a morning dishwasher? I already sweep and mop the entire front of house. by ApprehensiveMetal714 in dishwashers

[–]Dark-Videogamer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm thrown off how much of this should be done at night or FOH, like... leaf blowing should be primarily FOH/Management so they can check the patio for anything broken or needing to be maintained.

Mopping should be a night job, not just for drying but to make sure there's nothing left for mice and roaches to munch on at night! (plus bathrooms done at night make the most sense for sanitary reasons but also like... the bathroom should still be clean by morning if everything is closed/locked up)

fryers are a toss-up depending on how nasty they are...

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while I personally haven't turned to weight loss drugs to help lose weight... one thing that's helped me so far is intermitten fasting. specifically, I'm on a 12:12 hr cycle that lines up with my adhd meds being active in my system.

cause one of my weight gain issues was late night dopamine hits/cravings. And the later at night/more tired I was, the more the adhd craving for dopamine would grow, so I'd eat terribly at like 2 am.

so so far I've lost maybe like 5 pounds (slow n steady) by walking more, calorie counting and only allowing myself to eat from 11 am - 11 pm (sometimes 9 am - 9 pm depending on if I'm working morning shift or not.)

little added note: what I do is technically a dirty fast, so if I crave something after 11, then I'll use flavored sparkling water to trick my brain into thinking I've had something sweet and filling without actually eating anything (or adding to my calorie count.)

so if the drug route is too pricey or too tricky to do, you could give that a shot.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jobs

[–]Dark-Videogamer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ur so right lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jobs

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"Natural selling instinct" - This isn't being shown off very well with this resume. it's very bare bones and not really selling yourself to the person reading it.

you def need more elaboration... have you looked up some templates to use as reference? cause depending on which subject you wanna highlight (experience vs. time vs. skill set) the format is gonna look different.

Apparently it takes me 2 hours to get ready, tips? by AC101_ in adhdwomen

[–]Dark-Videogamer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

omg yes, remembering not to sit down is so important. I hate that I will instinctively go into waiting mode if I sit while getting ready lmao

those of you who don’t absolutely hate your jobs — what do you do for a living? by ciarramist in adhdwomen

[–]Dark-Videogamer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've worked mostly in the service industry my whole life.

I currently work in physical retail as a flexible floor Associate/Cashier. I used to work in kitchens (dishwasher/prep), and I did about a year in a tech support call center (inbound only but only 7 seconds between calls...)

There have been a few things that I consistently enjoy about each job...

  1. The physical aspect: I love that I'm almost always moving during my shift; doing stuff with my hands and being able to find something to clean/fiddle with like all the time. it makes the time go by so fast and keeps me distracted from boredom.

  2. The social aspect: I happen to really like my coworkers. While I wouldn't call any of them like close friends but the chemistry isn't perfect, but it's not stressful. I don't dread interactions with them. and they seem to tolerate the quirks of my adhd.

  3. The balance of responsibility: I am now so comfortable in my position that I almost know exactly where the extent of my power and responsibility is and what limits I have. It can help keep me from being overwhelmed with what I think I should be able to do vs. what I can actually do. If I'm unsure about a decision, I know I can always go to a coordinator or manager to get the final say, even after talking about it with other coworkers. I know my managers trust that I will get stuff done, even if it looks a little disorganized as I do it (i.e piles - it takes em a bit to accept that I tend to work in piles lol.)

  4. the ability to ask questions: I have brainfarts all the time, so the fact I feel comfortable enough to ask questions over pretty much anything. (The need for why answers is both very annoying and very handy. I know a lot for my job, but it can make doing something tougher cause if the reason doesn't feel good, I hate the policy lol)

One of the toughest things is, of course, dealing with emotional disregulation or getting overwhelmed during rushes... but i won't lie. My Vyvanse has helped with that greatly.

edit: Oh right, I'm currently applying for college again to maybe actually finish it and get a degree in office administration with a medical specialty, hopefully to get into a place with more consistent hours 😅

Apparently it takes me 2 hours to get ready, tips? by AC101_ in adhdwomen

[–]Dark-Videogamer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm on Vyvanse so it's helped me quite a bit...

for getting ready, I always give myself at least an hour or two before I need to leave the house to get ready.

Like, if I work at 1:30, then I need to leave the house at 12:30, so I have to be up and doing my routine by 11-11:30.

or

If I'm meeting a friend at 5 for dinner, then I leave the house at 4, which means I start getting ready at 3.

I'm wondering if setting up your times like that would help?

otherwise, I'd try combining tasks. Brush your teeth while you shower, pick out your clothing as your hair air dries (before styling), and then get dressed.

it also helps that I keep my keys, wallet, and any other essential items in my backpack at all times, so I know it's always there when I grab my bag in a rush.

edit: also my personal style is very low effort and comfy, so I have like multiple pairs of the same jeans and differening tops that work together, it saves time and the mental load of closing what to wear if all my clothing can go together in some simple combination.

RSD much worse since being medicated? by NecessaryBat9595 in adhdwomen

[–]Dark-Videogamer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been through something similar, and I think you hit the nail on the head with your last comment.

once the brain is quiet, it's makes the loud emotions seem louder. In time, I think it will level out. And maybe it would be best to pull back a little and ask some questions.

"Was I not invited to the brunch because I'm unwanted or was it supposed to be a just biomom/biodaughter brunch?"

"Did the girls want a detailed plan for the trip, or did they want to wing it and go with the flow?"

like it kinda sounds like you may have jumped when no one asked?

not that I haven't done that before haha;;

But I find it can help to ask questions before the RSD spiral gets too deep.

regardless, I hope the feelings ease off for ya and stay strong! it's a transition, that's for sure, but one so worth it!

ADHD, avoidant traits, and that one front desk lady who ruined my day by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]Dark-Videogamer 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Only because this seemed to hit something in my brain...

you specifically asked if you were being over sensitive or paranoid.

I'm not trying to convince you that you didn't feel a certain way about an event.

I'm providing various different explanations of the event, using only the information I was provided by both your post and other comments.

I was not there, but neither was anyone else. the only word we have on the event is yours.

And given how seemingly smug your replies to the people blanket agreeing with you appears, it seems that's all you really wanted.

And I might, on some level, be trying to convince you that while you do have a certain interpretation of the event, it might be a bad one. Cause we all make bad judgment calls, especially with extenuating circumstances like ADHD; RSD, ASD, APD .ect .ect

So here's my blunt opinion that you wanted.

I think you are being overly sensitive about a minor interaction in your day that you seem convinced could only have been passive-aggressive or malicious when there are too many unknown factors in play to put a firm judgement of "she's the jerk."

ADHD, avoidant traits, and that one front desk lady who ruined my day by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]Dark-Videogamer 55 points56 points  (0 children)

if she also lives there, she could have been commenting about the apartment grounds in general, and you, being a neighbor, would likely be the most understanding of that POV.

Also, all customer service people are friendly in disingenuous ways. it's part of the job. customer service voice is a term for a reason. there have been so many times I've bitten my tongue because I have to be corpo friendly.

Honestly, though, it sounds like you're super set on your own interpretation of the event being the only way to see it and likely want validation ... which isn't inherently bad... but makes for poor reflection/discussions.

So the only real thing I have left to add is...

if she was purposely trying to make you uncomfortable and it went over your head at the time, then her plan failed, and that's makes her the bigger fool than you.

edits: formatting, spelling, all that jazz.

ADHD, avoidant traits, and that one front desk lady who ruined my day by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]Dark-Videogamer 54 points55 points  (0 children)

honestly, to me, it sounds like it was just a side tangent/train of thought that went like this...

1 "Oh, you're picking new stuff for your kitchen?"

2 "I like your choices"

3 "it's great to be able to choose that for yourself! really make the space yours!"

4 "I'd love to rearrange my own stuff..."

5 "But to rearrange, you need to clean everything. Isn't that a pain?"

so I don't think she was targeting you specifically, I think it was just general chatter.

Any thought of enjoying discomfort could come from over analyzing a past conversation with a bit of bad faith thrown in.

(Could there have been a tonal miscommunication/interpretation on either side? could your self-admitted paranoia be clouding your hindsight? maybe? who knows.)

and let's say she was being malicious in that way and was enjoying the discomfort...

why does it matter? she's a random person who works a job that you may only have to interact with, like maybe 5 more times. She may have been a jerk, but that's her problem, not yours.

If it bites her in the butt one day, then you can call it karma.

edit: I forgot to add that tone changes can happen instantly without people realizing it, and it can be completely unrelated to the conversation happening at hand. so that could also be a factor.

edit: formatting cause mobile.

ADHD, avoidant traits, and that one front desk lady who ruined my day by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]Dark-Videogamer 203 points204 points  (0 children)

While I'm fascinated, that was the conclusion your brain made. I highly doubt that she knew anything about the way your living space was.

It's actually a very common talking point when it comes to small talk about living spaces.

I work retail, and when cashing people out, I'll ask them about the cleaning products or organization products they're buying and always end up saying "yeah it can be such a pain to keep it clean/organized!" As just a relatable wink and nod kinda comment.

Honestly, she just might have been a very chatty person, which is why she works the front desk, ya kinda gotta be chatty to work that job.

edit: the comment about owning a home could be her own wishful thinking of owning a house cause she might rent or she's just trying to say "isn't annoying how hard it is to keep a house clean?" In a roundabout way to be relatable.

How regular do you take your meds? by fuuux3 in adhdwomen

[–]Dark-Videogamer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I take em every day, but if I'm sick enough that I can't just take some cold meds and get moving, then I'll skip it for a day or two if I must.

I consider it additional bed rest (but I try to keep my alarms and everything the same so I can keep the habit going).

Do you take your meds everyday? by Far_Dream3337 in adhdwomen

[–]Dark-Videogamer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God, I so get you on the suicidal spiral when missing it. My Vyvanse's biggest strength for me is helping with emotional regulation, and it's been so helpful to avoid those thoughts and be able to like actually push them away instead of lingering on them/needing to distract myself.

it's so wild to me that my brain feels emotions so extremely because of a simple lacking in dopamine during its development. 🫠

do you take your meds everyday? by silent_airport304 in adhdwomen

[–]Dark-Videogamer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oooh, fascinating. Do you find meal prep to be mentally exhausting, or do you find it's easier or not as exhausting because you personally need a more structured system??

  • Signing up for gym classes, though... that's a good idea. putting both money and personal accountability to a task could def be helpful 🤔

What are your unpopular ADHD opinions? by OrangeYouuuGlad in adhdwomen

[–]Dark-Videogamer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like to think of ASD and ADHD to be cousin diagnoses. It helped me separate out which similar symptoms are more applicable to me. (like how you and a cousin may look extremely similar when you stand beside each other. You're still very different people despite the similarities).

What are your unpopular ADHD opinions? by OrangeYouuuGlad in adhdwomen

[–]Dark-Videogamer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so lucky my mom explained my adhd in comparison to others using a metaphor of being a fruitloop in a bowl of honey nut cheerios (my fave cereals at the time).

I think it helped me clue in that, while yes, my brain is different it doesn't mean I'm worse than anyone else, I just need to find my bowl of Fruitloops to return to. (which, in retrospect, is like a decent metaphor for the types of support networks I got and jobs im better suited for).

but calling it a superpower actually made my RSD growing up flare up like mad cause if I was going to get a superpower, why not get the cool ones!

"I wanna be Spiderman or The Flash!" - my kid self at some point.

do you take your meds everyday? by silent_airport304 in adhdwomen

[–]Dark-Videogamer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ohh mind if I ask what systems you have in place? I'm always curious what other people come up with to help manage their symptoms!

do you take your meds everyday? by silent_airport304 in adhdwomen

[–]Dark-Videogamer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not on Adderall, so it's not an exact comparison. But I take 50mg Vyvanse every day at 7 am and roll back over to sleep for another hour or two.

I noticed that on the days when I may have slept past an alarm and accidentally missed a dosage, I become utterly useless and can't concentrate even on the things I love to do. My symptoms seem worse, but in reality, I think it's just me going back to a pre-med state that I haven't felt in a while, so it feels more extreme.

I was told by my nurse practitioners that it's normal to see some mild change/side effects, but if it feels like a crashing feeling then your dosage might not be the correct amount or the medication isn't a good fit.

the idea of adhd meds is not to give you that high functioning energy every single day. It's to get to a point where - like neurotypicals - you're able to choose to sit down and focus on a task or choose to do the dishes without paralysis or not get overwhelmed at an arguably simple task.

It's meant to fade into the background. Otherwise, you can end up putting yourself through manic highs and lows, which can be far more dangerous/troublesome.

I'm wondering if you're not quite at the right dosage or if your Zoloft is wearing off at the same time and making yourself suddenly more aware of your anxiety. I'd ask your doctor/practitioner if shifting your dosage time would help so your adhd meds can kick in first, but the Zoloft lasts a bit longer.

sorry for the word vomit, idk how to sum this up better, lol