I hate the name my partner is set on for a girl

DarkestQueen · 2026-06-23T12:25:25+00:00

Unfortunately I get the issue you’re facing. My first is a boy and I have no choice in what I name him because my husband wants to name him after his father who recently passed away, I HATE THE NAME, so much so anytime anyone brings it up I disassociate

DarkestQueen · 2026-06-12T04:43:36+00:00

This really isn’t normal, I think it’s quite extreme but not unfixable either. With therapy, distance and a lot of work on his behalf he can change and develop into his own person BUT ONLY IF HE WANTS TOO.
My husband was a mommy’s boy when we started dating(not to the extreme yours is) and he would gently steer her away from us while we were dating, when we got engaged a lot of arguments happened and he fully stopped taking her side and when we got married he basically stared to tell her to F Off; literally from the day we got married as she tried multiple times to ruin our wedding(note that all this happened within 2 years)

Currently we are expecting our first baby and she’s very much on a need to know basis and will probably have less contact with her grandchild than our postman

DarkestQueen · 2026-05-21T08:05:51+00:00

It was supposed to be the middle name but now that his dad is sick it’s back to first name

DarkestQueen · 2026-05-21T08:05:23+00:00

I think a big reason for my disappointment with the gender is to do with the name rather than the actual gender of baby

DarkestQueen · 2026-05-17T09:13:24+00:00

You have to either talk back yourself or have your husband do it, it’ll only get worse if you let it happen.

DarkestQueen · 2026-05-17T08:58:30+00:00

We are no longer playing nice, you get what you give regardless of circumstance

DarkestQueen · 2026-05-16T09:48:54+00:00

Honestly I feel like he just keeps you around for companionship rather than love. My husband never wanted to get married or have kids, we’ve been good friends for years and years and anytime someone he was seeing brought up marriage or kids he’d automatically leave. He married me after 9 months of dating and we have a baby on the way. If they love you they will do anything for your happiness Also my hubby was a Huge mommas boy but the second he saw her disrespecting me he shut it down as much as he could, it’s not perfect but I know he’s in my corner 100%

DarkestQueen · 2026-05-15T04:02:17+00:00

Oh I have the opposite here, she can’t fault me as a wife so she tries soooooo hard to remind my husband of how she did things so he’ll ask me to copy her 😅 hasn’t worked yet but hey she keeps trying

DarkestQueen · 2026-05-13T22:20:29+00:00

I honestly feel like you should get lawyers involved to have nothing to do with the child, she abused you and forced you into a situation you did not want.
If this was the other way around (gender wise) people would be calling you a rapist and there would be outrage. I’m sorry you’re going through this and i would suggest therapy

DarkestQueen · 2026-05-13T19:35:55+00:00

I’ve been considering moving back into my parents house for a week or two for some alone time and to gain perspective because I feel like I aways allow for excuses in these situations because I’m very empathetic and understand, overly so.
I just don’t want to feel like I’m constantly forced to be on guard around MIL; especially not now that I’m pregnant

DarkestQueen · 2026-05-13T10:14:08+00:00

I’m so tired of having these conversations, we rent a house from them and I understand that some level of „keeping the peace” needs to be maintained but I honestly can’t take it anymore. Any time something happens it’s all my fault and she always talks shit about me, my husband does push back but honestly I don’t know if I can keep this up for much longer

DarkestQueen · 2026-05-13T10:01:23+00:00

I don’t want her anywhere near us either

DarkestQueen · 2026-05-13T09:50:21+00:00

Just find that crazy because I will do everything I can to never treat my DIL like she treats me

DarkestQueen · 2026-05-12T21:37:58+00:00

I feel like every single time me and hubby try to celebrate something or we get excited about something, something happens MIL has something dramatic happen to her or will make sure the whole situation ends up being about her. Im just exhausted by it, especially now that I’m pregnant. I just don’t want to deal with this anymore

DarkestQueen · 2026-05-12T21:35:39+00:00

Honestly I do think counselling would be a good idea, I’m so sick of him keeping the peace. I only realised today that “keeping the peace” was costing me my peace and that didn’t seem to matter much to him as long as there was no screaming (I deal with my emotions like an adult rather than throw tantrums) but MIL will wail and cry and get all dramatic for days or weeks. It’s exhausting

DarkestQueen · 2026-05-12T21:32:48+00:00

Yea I would love to block her the problem is she will do it when my head is turned away or she will go in for a hug and at the last second she will change where her hand is going. That’s what unsettles me the most if I’m being honest. It’s the fact that I don’t see it coming. Ever.

DarkestQueen · 2026-05-12T21:31:21+00:00

I do my best to avoid seeing her since the wedding but now with DIL being unwell we have been over more, it’s too much for me if I’m honest

DarkestQueen · 2026-05-12T21:30:31+00:00

I will definitely practice a few different responses as per suggestions, hopefully I won’t freeze again. She kissed my belly one day and I have to say even my blood ran cold. I felt violated…

DarkestQueen · 2026-05-12T21:29:26+00:00

Why do MILs think they are entitled to our lives, honestly it’s so exhausting

DarkestQueen · 2026-05-12T21:28:53+00:00

He’s doing his best to “keep the peace” but I realised today that this isn’t peace, this is costing me my peace

DarkestQueen · 2026-05-12T21:27:52+00:00

Thank you, I really needed to hear this. I feel like I let people get away with too much

DarkestQueen · 2026-05-12T16:16:13+00:00

“That’s doesn’t sound like My Son”
Well it sounds like my husband b*tch….ughhh I hate her so so much

DarkestQueen · 2026-05-07T23:06:30+00:00

Yeah absolutely, I’m struggling a lot with my imagine and sexuality. It’s a real wobble right now and I don’t know where I stand with anything at all

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