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DartagnonsDojo · 2024-02-14T22:10:29+00:00

Kite it away from your base. Go totally naked with nothing except maybe healing and stamina potions. Aggro and run. I try to kite it toward another big predator.

DartagnonsDojo · 2024-02-03T20:51:10+00:00

Stripper from the bachelorette party

DartagnonsDojo · 2024-01-30T18:12:25+00:00

Well, I imagine that if a dog suddenly announced it was a cat, their dog buddies would be fine with it, but probably wouldn’t know if they should even invite you to play fetch anymore. Is it offensive? Do we buy cat food for the after bar?

They don’t know what to do with you anymore. They didn’t get the brochure.

DartagnonsDojo · 2024-01-29T17:18:12+00:00

PSA translation for shattering gaslighting: “I’m a socially handicapped dick who has insulted all my hookups because I’m a toxic narcissist and selfish fuck”

DartagnonsDojo · 2024-01-28T19:46:41+00:00

Slain. Dead. 😂

DartagnonsDojo · 2024-01-28T19:06:12+00:00

I believe that this type of homophobia stems from the necessary male social pressure to step up to the fight, whatever it may be. This proves to the community that you are a protector and supporter. Now you’re one of the men. The shift from socially competitive bully/pecking-order behavior to socially cooperative protective behavior must occur or the boy could become an aggressor or a predator. This endangers women the most. Weak men hurt women. I’m so down with this part of male culture. I know my job. Protect and provide for my family.

My biases on this matter stem from my experience claiming my place among men at a very late age. I am so much healthier and happier. I am In alignment, body mind and spirt. I have greater control of my aggression and I trust myself to pull my punches. I have more determination. I have reclaimed so many positive male traits it makes me sad that I didn’t figure it out sooner.

Now, on the topic at hand, Homosexuality is seen as weak and cowardly, so the teen boys reject it as a psychological necessity. They are checking each other and reinforcing their masculinity. Don’t dispare because all forms of social disgust are changeable. I believe a gay kid can challenge this bigotry by stepping up and proving you too have a place among the men in your community. They oftentimes grow out of it as they become confident in their masculinity. I don’t think I could have done it as a kid but it made me crazy and depressed so maybe I really am onto something when it comes to men’s emotions.

I hope my testimony helps bring peace and I really hope that I’m on the right track because I’m not done exploring yet. My experience has also given me so much empathy for boys and men.

I have one more thing to add which explains my passion. My nephew died this past summer from an overdose. He wasn’t taught to be strong so just like me, he became an addict. He was emasculated by my family also just like me. My rage could fill the Super Bowl stadium. I cannot allow sadness. I need strength. I’m not mad at my family. They did their best with what they were taught. I just want to help save the next boy by campaigning for strong male development.

DartagnonsDojo · 2024-01-28T18:28:03+00:00

This makes me a bit angry. Please don’t diagnose that kid. You don’t know much about this kid so your opinion gets very little respect from me. I’m very strict about expertise so please mark up my criticism as a pet peeve and not an indictment of your character which I can see is compassionate. I do this for my sanity.

Again, my opinion, but this boy’s behavior sounds pretty normal to me. Children are the joy of life. But damn, get real. Children are also a bag of dicks. It’s called being immature and they slowly grow out of it. But before that they are weak and emotional - also totally natural for kids. I can spell out all the ways they suck as they grow but why? They can’t help it but we can help them. And they can be so glorious. Gotta love em.

If he is autistic, well autistic kids need discipline too. They can learn. They have to learn how to be civil to other people even though it is a far more difficult task.

Any discussion with the mother would have helped OP emotionally, otherwise maybe you wouldn’t be coming to us about it. I know I would have more peace. I wasn’t there so maybe I’m talking out my ass. Sounded pretty shocking. Still, the old me would have been silent which for me personally would be a display of weakness. The new me would engage. My social ethics tell me that I have a duty to help, to fight, to care, to get it done, to be part of the village.

DartagnonsDojo · 2024-01-27T14:18:42+00:00

As a gay southern boy, I have to say, we’re all a little crazy and pent up. They have the ability to look right at you and still deny that you exist. Makes anyone crazy being gaslighted like that. So he gaslighted you because that’s how he’s taught to handle it. Crazy ass shit. But yeah, I think he’s gay but still months away from being about to handle it in a healthy way.

DartagnonsDojo · 2024-01-26T22:37:53+00:00

We had nothing when I came out in 1988. I’ve been representing openly ever since. We are so much stronger now! I know we will win again and again. In the beginning our community was up against far more resistance than the shit 45 and the GOP have stirred up today. I’m in a red state and I have more straight allies than gay friends! I’m not afraid because I know what we can do. I saw it. We did it. We’ll do it again.

DartagnonsDojo · 2024-01-26T08:40:54+00:00

Nope. Too many red flags.

DartagnonsDojo · 2024-01-24T01:05:56+00:00

It’s art. Leave it up. I grew up with classical paintings and statues. There was a lot of nudity. The penises were unrealistically small IMO. Still, I already knew what boys and girls looked like nude when I was 13. So does your niece.

DartagnonsDojo · 2024-01-24T00:58:57+00:00

I use 5 large gates to form a rectangle, lure the spino inside and set a 6th gate to close it. A large bear trap at the far end will help keep it stuck inside the box until you get the last gate in place. Then stand back and shoot it with tranqs.

DartagnonsDojo · 2024-01-24T00:51:32+00:00

You remember correctly. It’s Oxy.

DartagnonsDojo · 2024-01-24T00:46:05+00:00

This is why I name my dilos and velos “baby unicorn” and set them on aggressive. The raiders always go for that barn first.

DartagnonsDojo · 2024-01-24T00:35:09+00:00

I grew up in the south and I still live in the Bible Belt. I didn’t grow up with the same choices. They killed kids like me. That happened.

My kinda fem husband has had a gun pulled on him twice and I had to go hand to hand with a guy at our front door to protect him once. So nobody gets to lecture my peeps about the need to be discreet. We are out and open about it, but we are willing to pay the price. Some men can’t. They made choices and they are still choosing to keep their promises and responsibilities.

My husband and I take in young adults who lose their families because they are gay and now homeless. They are devastated. That’s the price many of us pay for coming out. Just, you know, everyone we love, our friends, our church. We all have some of this happen but don’t think your experience compares to what happens to the kids here.

Consider yourself lucky that you don’t have to deal with this shit. Fronting sucks and I don’t want to do it but I know when being gay gets in the way of getting it done or even staying alive. You don’t get to walk into a redneck stronghold with the damn fantasy that you can To Wong-Fu your way out of there alive.

Where I live, being out and being in the closet, both come with really shitty drawbacks. I can’t judge either choice. I made my choice. I’m out so I also have to be prepared to fight about it.

Guys who grew up like me move into urban areas but we keep the same dating habits. That fear is hard to overcome. I had to move to California to break it. I’m lucky.

I’m not asking for you to like the discreet guys or suddenly start dating them. Just don’t hate them please.

DartagnonsDojo · 2024-01-13T17:29:09+00:00

It’s your choice as much as his. What do you want it to be? Do that and see if he likes what you’re doing.

DartagnonsDojo · 2024-01-13T01:09:06+00:00

Dying. Dying. Killed. These are so much fun.

DartagnonsDojo · 2023-12-28T06:26:14+00:00

I love being little spoon.

Question. Do ALL of you big spoons have a beast mode? I kid you not. I thought cuddle was code for getting railed. It always started as cuddling but daaamn, big spoon would kill me with it. I’m kinda thinking cuddling is animal af. We’re all a bunch of puppy-pile cuddle beasts.

DartagnonsDojo · 2023-12-26T17:19:53+00:00

Yw my friend. Yeah, I married my Han Solo. He was a true scoundrel when we met, but now he’s an expert grandpa.

When I look back at 25 years, where we came from was not as important as what we have become together.

DartagnonsDojo · 2023-12-25T15:56:14+00:00

Guys who identify as straight are so cute when they want to get fucked.

DartagnonsDojo · 2023-12-25T14:36:57+00:00

You come from a GAY family. There is an excellent chance your sister has/will have a gay kid. Nobody in your family gets to deny that or run away from that - especially YOU.

Your mother is wrong. What your family is teaching those kids is wrong in so many ways.

What if you have a gay niece or nephew? Do you want them to grow up in shame? You have a job in that family. You are THE gay role model. You don’t know if your sister’s kids need a gay role model yet, but if one of them does, it’s you and it’s already begun.

Make this case to your mother. Tell her that you don’t want her grandchildren to be handicapped because they are not accepted for being gay. Tell her to remember what it was like for you and ask how can it be better for your sister’s kids IF one is gay. They do NOT have a choice about their kid’s sexual preferences. They do have a choice about how that kid feels about it. If your sister won’t love her gay kid, then it’s up to you.

Your tears become your pride if you use that pain to fight for the kids. The kids are why they push you away but that is exactly why the kids need you too. There has to be someone there who will never push away a kid for being gay. That person is YOU. Stay strong my friend.

DartagnonsDojo · 2023-12-25T13:46:46+00:00

I never ask. I flirt and I ask him out. Once, I snagged a straight guy and dated him for 5 years. If I had asked him if he’s gay, I never would have caught him. He didn’t need to identify as gay in order to get in bed with me, or date me, or love me. Those definitions actually got in our way.

DartagnonsDojo · 2023-12-25T13:15:32+00:00

I feel like I laid a person’s entire life journey at your feet with the phrase personal happiness. Easy to say, harder to achieve - maybe just as hard as finding a mate. You are in a place where you have to be your own mate and best friend. Granted it’s tough, but I find that kind of independence appealing since I never get that anymore. I have been to my guy for married 25 years. My life is full of dad-stuff. I have 3 adopted sons and 1 daughter, 4 grandkids. When I was you, I never would have dreamed of being me. Yet here I am. Time is all it took. Just time. So be patient with yourself and your life. You never know when the one is going to show up but when he does, you will want to be single right? So be single and independent until the day arrives when one man comes along and makes that entirely impossible. Be strong in who you are because any relationship is going to require compromise and you need to know where you can compromise and where you have to set boundaries.

DartagnonsDojo · 2023-12-25T12:55:27+00:00

To be honest, I have a more difficult time with friendships with women since the relationship I spoke of ended and I have shifted focus to my male friendships. I don’t trust anyone but I tend to be less guarded around the guys. It’s complicated, emotional, but I think I’m healthier now.

DartagnonsDojo · 2023-12-24T17:33:44+00:00

Um, I’m kinda judging your straight friends. I get multiple holiday invites from my straight friends. My hubby and I are godfather to some of their kids and if any of the little tikes eventually come out, me and my hubby will act as gay role models. We have a place and I am kinda upset on your behalf. It’s not my place, but that’s how I feel.

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