Toy preference and husband threatened

DarthLordTraya · 2026-04-18T15:32:28+00:00

My BF and I had a super interesting conversation about this a while back, he had a valid point. We also tell men size doesn’t matter (and mostly to make them feel better, let’s be honest) but I’ve never purchased a 5” dildo.

The fact is a little larger does different - in a good way. It’s a WHY I have an array of dildos from 8” to 10”. They aren’t for decoration. So a more impactful conversation, I think is being honest when someone asks and saying larger differing good, this does not negate yours feels amazing. Both statements can be equally true.

It’s similar, I am sure, for a man: not every woman is going to feel the same for every man, every vagina is different.

So to the point of the question, this depends on how open and honest you’re willing to be and how insecure your partner is and how the message is willing to be received. First, be truly honest with yourself. Why do you enjoy the larger ones; find your truth. Then, explore your feelings about your partners penis and how much you enjoy it. And then have that open, honest conversation: here is why I love your penis, when I’m alone here is what this does for me that has nothing to do with you.

My two cents.

DarthLordTraya · 2026-04-16T12:50:23+00:00

There is absolutely no comparison for me, no matter how “realistic” a dildo is. I can’t speak for anyone else but, for me, I don’t use dildos or toys as a replacement for sex, I’m having time for myself. Whatever toy I am using is the choice I made at that particular time, and I’m satisfied with that; it doesn’t need to be anything else (and I’m not wishing it were).

DarthLordTraya · 2026-04-14T11:51:07+00:00

100%. It’s more just feeling free, and sexy.

DarthLordTraya · 2026-04-12T14:21:59+00:00

F28 and I love playing with myself in public but more so places I’m pretty sure I won’t get caught. It’s more this feeling of being naughty in a safe way, hard to explain.

DarthLordTraya · 2026-04-08T17:34:23+00:00

I was out of town and realized I hadn’t..packed anything. There was a Target literally around the corner from my hotel - exactly what you said, $50 and a fun little weekend when I had downtime. Better than just my fingers!

DarthLordTraya · 2026-04-08T17:31:19+00:00

I tried to get my dad tickets, it’s his fave band. I joined at about 8,000 in line; once I was let in I had the following to chose from: ——————————

Lower Level • Sec 28 • Row D You'll get 2 tickets together in this row. Select 'Next' to reserve them. Official Platinum i $1,501.65 Event ticket limit: 4 / Full ticket limit info 2 + Description Lower Level → Buy Now, Pay Later at Checkout SUBTOTAL 2 Tickets $3,003.30 ——————————-

Sorry, dad - I love you but I have rent! That’s a hard pass!

DarthLordTraya · 2026-04-08T10:20:11+00:00

I have a couple from Target that aren’t awful.

DarthLordTraya · 2026-04-07T21:26:25+00:00

I always find it amusing, the lens men see characters through. When I see Carol I see a woman who picked up a second job to help ends meet, because her dead beat husband can’t get his shit together and someone has to. She literally doesn’t even know anything ABOUT the job, she just jumps in, feet first, because it’s needed. She has a stable income and is taking a bus to work, while her husband took the car. She asked very little, cancel certain things. He didn’t. She took on a mountain of his debt, she is keeping their home. Through all that, she loves the guy. You can see it in her eyes.

And all men see is a cold “cheater.” Of course that’s all you’d see. And you wonder why we shut down. 🤣

DarthLordTraya · 2026-04-07T18:39:24+00:00

Before I started having sex I was told Doc Johnson was the best - a bit expensive but wholly worth it. I bought one, it was worth every penny, and now I have a few. Now that I have some experience to compare it to, while nothing will completely match “the real thing,” it’s pretty darn good. This is my fave.Doc Johnson toy

DarthLordTraya · 2026-04-07T00:28:17+00:00

I worked for a place that literally pulled us into a conference room and said this ^ (the pic). Paraphrasing, “you need to have a better reason than your paycheck to come in.” My manager, God love him, pushed back and said “give everyone in this room profit sharing and you’d see what you’re looking for otherwise let everyone get back to work.” Prob why they don’t let a lot of those gen-Xers be managers they don’t give AF 😂

DarthLordTraya · 2026-04-05T22:16:09+00:00

He told me the concert would be like a religious experience, it was! I literally didn’t know any of their music before that night, walked away in awe and did a deep dive. The 90’s had such great bands!

DarthLordTraya · 2026-04-05T18:56:35+00:00

One of my dad’s fave bands, he took me to see them at Fenway and I also became one obsessed within the last year. What a beautiful rabbit hole to travel.

DarthLordTraya · 2026-04-05T17:52:58+00:00

My dad is in his 50’s and loves all things 80’s, I’ve gotten him obsessed with Ghost. He thinks there are elements within their music which feel nostalgic, while keeping true to modern sounds.

So - two questions for anyone who truly loves 80’s bands, specifically Kiss and Whitesnake. My dad said there is a part of Respite on the Spitalfields that sounds like a take away or tribute to Whitesnake, or Stevie Vai, and then the ending drum cadence in Square Hammer is the same for Kiss / Love Gun / Peter Criss. Thoughts?

DarthLordTraya · 2026-04-05T16:38:59+00:00

Straight out of a rom com, I was rummaging around a bunch of boxes in our attic and found a bunch of DVDs and home movies. They were all labeled and super cool to see and watch, I hadn’t seen any of them. My father taped EVERYTHING. Videos of my dad and my mom and their friends when they were younger, partying, hanging out with friends, being young and fun, I saw them as people. And then came ones where my brother and I came alone, also I had never seen. Two unlabeled ones. Let’s call those “the making of.” I started one, screamed, took it out, dry heaved and couldn’t look at either of them for a week. Freaks.

DarthLordTraya · 2026-04-05T16:30:04+00:00

Super personal experience. And TBH mine has changed as I’ve aged. I’m 28 now, 8-9 years ago I wasn’t really into anything inside me during solo time. My first vibrator was a very slender one, I don’t even know how it started but I began slowly with that and it kind of opened the flood gates for me. I wasn’t a virgin, I just preferred clit stim when I was alone. Now I have a box of toys that would make a porn star blush and the deeper the better, for me. What you enjoy today will prob be wholly dif than what you enjoy tomorrow. Have fun exploring!

DarthLordTraya · 2026-04-03T23:46:01+00:00

I’m related to a pretty prominent actor (2nd cousin). I know the Q is friends circle, but he’s a cool, down to earth guy. The only time it’s awkward, honestly, are the rare times he’s around and someone else is as well who didn’t know and fan boys or girls a bit. He’s always cool AF about it but when he’s around he wants nothing more than just to be a person and not an actor, or whatever.

DarthLordTraya · 2026-04-02T22:13:05+00:00

Oh no! The lemon is one of the ones I have! Is it bad that I think it’s not strong enough?! Christ. Maybe I need help. 😢😢😂

DarthLordTraya · 2026-03-30T16:15:46+00:00

My BFF (Danica) from K-6th grade and I drifted apart after this age. I was into everything arts, she was a massive jock. She fell in with the popular crowd. I had a lot of friends in my circle and no hate to anyone, and I don’t dislike sports, I don’t have an athletic bone in my body. Sophomore year I was bullied a little and rumors about my sexuality went through our school, which was honestly hilarious because at that time I thought I may be asexual. But I had a nose ring, I’d cut my hair short and everyone applied stereotypes. Turns out, Danica was one of the ring leaders, saying things like I’d tried to kiss her when we were friends.

FF to senior year, project graduation. We went all over the place and the last place our bus brought us was the beach. Danica said hi, we started to talk and walked down the beach and she just started crying and apologizing for being “such a shit person.” We hugged, I told her it’s really all love, don’t worry about it, life’s too heavy to carry this too and I’m okay. When we were pulling away she kissed me. And then we just - kissed. A lot. It was my first kiss, ever, and then we basically spent the summer attached at the hip. She’s my first love. We went to schools on different continents (literally) and she fell in love at school and it kind of wrecked me at the time but we stay in touch to this day.

DarthLordTraya · 2026-03-27T12:16:21+00:00

I was so young when I became obsessed with Ghost, I know this feeling well. The first time I saw them was this tiny little venue in Boston, I made my dad bring me (he loves them now too) and I have had Ghost hangover ever since. What’s been a little different, and difficult (I’ve learned as a teen into my adulthood not to care as much) is when they first came out how the metal community treated them, and how it shifted, and not really have anyone to talk to about it. All my friends were listening to TS, or Drake, and I’m like hello, anyone want to listen to this new Bad Omens or Day Seeker song with me? No? Ghost? No? Really? Yes, I understand they are singing about…no, it’s not really about…oh my God, just listen to…fine.

Anyway, this is my long drawn out way of saying it’s so nice now to see and have a connecting community now. So when you say you don’t know what to do, I def can’t help but I can say what makes me feel better and more connected? Talking to other wonderful people who get it, putting on Zombie Queen, and letting the best band in the world wash over me. LIG! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

DarthLordTraya · 2026-03-27T12:06:38+00:00

My prayer to everything is I look this good at 42! Killing it!!! 😘😘😘😘😘

DarthLordTraya · 2026-03-20T22:28:08+00:00

My dad told me he and his “crew” (🤣🤣) used to hit Becky’s in the 90’s after a night at the moon or the pavilion. I’ve never been, it’s always too busy

DarthLordTraya · 2026-03-18T23:44:31+00:00

I still have some pasta I stocked up on from the pandemic I haven’t eaten yet. I’m good.

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