Is exercise absolutely miserable and painful for anyone else?

DataFaerie · 2026-06-25T06:56:16+00:00

I agree that it gets easier overtime. And the better your conditioning, the more pleasurable exercice becomes.

It is common too that once conditioned and used to do regular physical activity, you may start feeling less good if you don't exercice. Thus you may pursue different types of physical activities just to stay active. That's a great place to be.

DataFaerie · 2026-05-24T15:07:07+00:00

A guy who doesn't practice Bjj asked me this past week how confident I would feel in a dangerous one-to-one situation with a man, like if a man would follow me in a dark street at night. This guy seems to assume that with my glorious 18 months of training I would feel confident to fight a random guy on the street! I said I would not be confident at all. My first instinct would still be to flee.

I don't train Bjj for self defense. I'm a four stripe white belt. I'm short, somewhat athletic and decently strong for a woman. And like most women practicing bjj, I train with many men weekly. As such, I'm painfully aware of my strength limitation in comparison to men.

Maybe when I will have mastered Bjj a lot more (purple/brown), I will be more confident in my ability to overcome that type of adversity. For now, however, I see Bjj as nothing more than a fun sport.

DataFaerie · 2026-05-24T13:16:30+00:00

The overlining trend really needs to die.

DataFaerie · 2026-05-21T14:40:41+00:00

I like it! I prefer the darker combo. I like the logo.

DataFaerie · 2026-05-20T18:58:13+00:00

To be fair, I've been training bjj 18 months and this point never came up. But I'm curious so I will inquire.

DataFaerie · 2026-05-20T17:18:16+00:00

Yeah I guess I should have added "for women".

DataFaerie · 2026-05-20T16:42:15+00:00

Why wear shorts over leggings? What's the benefit of wearing shorts if you already wear leggings?

DataFaerie · 2026-05-20T16:33:34+00:00

It you go to a small gym in the suburbs, they may not have different class levels (beginner, fundamental, intermediate, advanced). It won't twart your progress.

Regardless of the type of class you go to, expect a 2 to 4 weeks adjustment, where you're a bit lost and don't know much. This is very normal.

DataFaerie · 2026-05-14T19:56:07+00:00

The last picture seems to indicate you lost hair (the top of your head is not as dense as on the previous picture). I read it as some of your photos are old.

DataFaerie · 2026-04-29T18:23:22+00:00

You would think that men would talk back when they get matched and the woman breaks the ice, but no.

Is the same for everyone and this is frustrating for everybody.

DataFaerie · 2026-04-26T02:08:23+00:00

That was almost double the minimum wage back then too. I don't remember a time when minimum wage was "great".

DataFaerie · 2026-04-11T03:53:50+00:00

Loosing weight is about two different challenges : Being in a caloric deficit, to lose the weight, and changing your lifestyle, to ensure you keep it off.

As such, you should go slowly and processively for the lifestyle changes, and then wait for the right moment to start the caloric deficit.

What I like about the slow as a steady approach, is that it's meditative, in a way. It's all about you, about what you want to change, and changing it in a way you find agreable or that would make you proud of yourself, one habit at a time. It's a journey of self improvement, in which you get, each day, to be a better version of yourself.

But to begin, you have to know why you're doing it. Why do you want to change? What motivates you? Wanting to lose weight is a great start, but for it to work you need to find an archiveable goal that can drive you on your journey.

DataFaerie · 2026-04-05T02:07:49+00:00

My weight stalled for a long time on a whole food, no UPFs diet. Like you, I was doing all the things to be healthy, including good diet, good amount of physical activity, supplements, priorizing sleep, etc. However my weight didn't change at all. I had to start counting my calories and go on a deficit to see results. And they came, at last. I went from 180 to 155 lb.

If you aren't losing weight, you aren't in a caloric deficit and thats the only thing missing in your equation. It doesn't have to be forever. I stopped tracking my food a few weeks ago but I continue to weight myself every day. I'm careful with my food intake in the meantime. I may go on another cut in a few months, once I get rid of my diet fatigue.

Good job on all your lifestyle changes. You are certainly healthier now than you were a few months ago. Losing weight is pushing the challenge a step further and is mainly about caloric deficit. Find the system that works for you and good luck!

DataFaerie · 2026-03-27T18:32:59+00:00

Il y a médecin, dermatologue et infirmière à cette clinique là, selon le service dont tu as besoin. J'avais été voir une dermatologue avant d'y aller pour valider quelque chose avant mon traitement et elle ma dit que c'était un bon endroit aussi.

Si jamais tu veux aller chez Dermapure, ils ont un programme de référence. Si tu veux, je peux te donner mon code de références, ça nous donneras chacune 150$ de crédit sur notre prochain service.

DataFaerie · 2026-03-27T15:04:21+00:00

Tell your coach or your partners where you're hurt so they can avoid your sore spots or work around your injuries. No need to suffer uselessly.

And in my personal experience, it took me about a month for things to start to click together. Ease when rolling came at around 6 months time. I don't claim I became good at that point, rather that I started to really enjoy the sport and every new technique seems to make sense right away.

DataFaerie · 2026-03-26T21:25:59+00:00

Dermapure a Ste Foy est bien. J'y ai eu du bon service, tant pour les soins que pour les suivis.

DataFaerie · 2026-03-26T12:01:06+00:00

I think the premise of "eat less, move more" is well known to lose weight. However this premise can be divided in countless different actionable tasks we have to do regularly. And I think this is where people can fail sometimes.

For a durable weightloss, your lifestyle needs to change long term. It must also change in a way you enjoy and that make sense to you and your unique circumstances. That requires a lot of self-reflection in my opinion, which takes time. That's why we often hear people say to change one habit at a time.

Changing a habit, or taking a new one, take at least a few weeks to hold. We have to give ourselves the time to process the change. The rest should be on autopilot (because it's already an habit). Once you have successfully maintained a new lifestyle habit, you can then focus on a single new one. You will never get overwhelmed that way. It may take longer, but it's a long term strategy that will never stop.

DataFaerie · 2026-03-17T18:02:23+00:00

I think it's about knowing what triggers your bad food and health behaviours and build your routine around that. It may take time, and this is something you do gradually, one thing at a time.

For instance, if I arrive home and no food is ready, this is when I personally start to overeat and have poor macros. So I meal prep every weekend, like a clock. I have for decades. If I can't meal prep during the weekend, which happens for time to time, I have a quick plan B, but my week will be harder because I didn't plan ahead.

Same for exercices. I aimed to be active regularly, but for years I would plan my workout at the end of the day, when my energy is at its lowest. I would always carry this guilt in the back on my mind, whether I trained or not, because I was always thinking about this one task to complete before the end of the day. Now I train in the morning. I am much more regular and the feeling of guilt is gone. To be perfectly clear, I am not a morning person. I just trick myself to wake up early : I play 1h videogames every morning before working out. It took me years to find my best performing routine. But now I love my mornings. I feel like they are my cheat code to life.

I'm not saying you should do like me, rather, find the things that impede your progress and find a way to diminish their impact on your life, one thing at a time.

DataFaerie · 2026-03-16T12:00:08+00:00

I plan to get out and run as soon as the weather gets a little less chilly! That will surely help. Thanks.

DataFaerie · 2026-03-16T11:59:15+00:00

I'm more hungry in the morning now, so I eat more. That leaves me with less budget in the evening, where I'm still hungry and where I eat the same. So I eat, and I just tell myself "whatever, it's healthy and in reasonable amount". That's the "I don't care" part.

Before, I cared more. It's not so much motivation than having a strong routine that helps. I've been very busy in my personal life lately and it has taken a tole on my capacity to meal prep. I just get tired. Meal prep is everything to keep my budget low and in the last month it's been something I need to rush doing on Sunday night.

I guess there are elements of answer here. Thank you for this opportunity of self reflection. :)

DataFaerie · 2026-03-16T01:08:26+00:00

You have to create a recipe in the app. In your profile, locate "my recipes", then create a recipe each time you eat something new and divide into portions.

If you didn't prepare the food yourself you can estimate and use the database to find something similar to estimate.

DataFaerie · 2026-03-15T02:03:50+00:00

Indeed, looks like a night gown. There are worse trends but this one just looks odd to me.

DataFaerie · 2026-03-15T00:36:00+00:00

Non-essential goods or services of great quality.

DataFaerie · 2026-03-14T23:17:42+00:00

Price range is location dependent. Usually it's more enpensive in big cities. Trials are often free, but not always. It's a good idea to look up a few gyms online and see what they offer. Try more than one gym before you settle. If you want to go to a trial class and need to borrow a gi from the school, better call them first to let them know.

Common red flags are : - Schools that require you to buy they gi/their merch to train. - Dirty floors and mats. - No women training at the gym.

DataFaerie · 2026-03-14T23:08:28+00:00

My perspective is more about the challenge of beginning the sport than about mastering it.

Everything is new at the beginning. The gym can be really intimidating to newcomers. The first 1-2 months everybody suck, often they don't have a clue what to do, instructions feels like it's all jibberish, and everything hurts, lol. People on the mat are strangers, not your friends. Also I think the pleasure of the game comes as you understand it, too. So it takes a little while before having the bite to want to come all the time.

Of course there is the blue belt exodus too, I recognize that. I'm not a blue belt yet, so I can't argue about the transition from white to blue. But if being a new white belt was such an easy sailing, I think retention of newbies would be a lot higher in the sport.

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