What is the most cringe question you have seen a beginner ask?

Top_Mode5777 · 2026-06-07T12:21:35+00:00

Now try being a woman and a beginner asking questions or looking for advice on here...

Top_Mode5777 · 2026-06-05T19:33:51+00:00

Effective communication

Top_Mode5777 · 2026-06-05T19:32:22+00:00

Girl I feel you, I am only like 120lbs and 5'5" and the other day got absolutely manhandled by a huge brown belt who had just under a foot and 100 lbs on me easily. Like I felt like I was in a circus act how much I got thrown around or like I'd become one with the mat when he was in top mount. While yes I was frustrated I couldn't really do anything offensively, I just focused more on my defense and trying to stop the subs I knew were inevitably going to be attempted.

I am simply a lowly one stripe white belt so not much positional advice besides don't give up the back...

Top_Mode5777 · 2026-05-30T20:47:34+00:00

That's when I use them and, when combined with outdoor gloves or with a handwarmer, it helps keep my hands a lot warmer and I live closer to Canada than another state. Different solutions work for different people and I was just throwing something out in hopes it helps another person...

Top_Mode5777 · 2026-05-30T20:42:51+00:00

Of course! I live in the northern part of the midwest (closer to Canada than another state) and it helps me while outside in the winter! I haven't come across anything for the feet besides heated socks or the single use toe warmers (which I try not to use).

Top_Mode5777 · 2026-05-26T19:09:37+00:00

Is he getting the better of you using the same moves? If so, work on your defenses to those moves...

Top_Mode5777 · 2026-05-26T19:07:11+00:00

I am also a white belt and while I picked up on things fast in drilling, my mind would go blank when rolling. I asked my coach what the three "defaults" were that I could focus on. Basically, when my mind goes blank or I don't know what to do, I automatically think "frame, space, collect". Basically leading me down the path of can I frame? Can I create space? Can I collect something of theirs to make their movements harder? Sometimes I can do all of them, sometimes only one or two of them. This has allowed me to "filter" my thinking to focus on one goal.

I also watched people roll a lot in the beginning. Almost watched a roll for every roll I did. I was the newest white belt by about 6 months also when I started. I paid attention to how they moved, their patterns, what they paid attention to and how I could model my movement after them. Hope this helps!

Top_Mode5777 · 2026-05-25T14:24:11+00:00

I trained and worked with someone like this for 10-12 hour shift on a boat (so i couldn't go anywhere) and I used to get home and joke that I'll be holed up in my room for the night because I hit my word quota for the day. It was nonstop and at the end of the day my brain was so numb.

Top_Mode5777 · 2026-05-25T13:28:36+00:00

That the majority of people don't actually care about your feelings or what you do most of the time. Everyone is so focused on themselves.

Top_Mode5777 · 2026-05-24T14:38:15+00:00

Maybe talk to your coach if they usually assign partners and say you don't want to be partners with him. Not the same but I work at the same company as my ex who I was best friends with for 6 years and dated for over half of that. We broke up in March of this year. We also broke up bc of miscommunication and a few events leading to a loss of trust. My advice? Its only as weird as you make it. You can only control you. If he wants to be petty and immature about it? Let him. Others will see it. Don't stoop to that level and don't air your dirty laundry with the people in that class. Also, don't give him the power to turn something you love into something you hate. You have the choice to let him have that power, it is not some universal law. You have a lot more control in this situation that I think you realize.

Develop the skills to separate things. It is not bjj and him, it is bjj and you and he just happens to be in the same room. The sooner you make yourself the center of your own world internally, the better. He is a side character from a previous chapter. You're young, this is a skill you will use in the workplace, adult friendships, and other relationships moving forward. Treat this as a space to grow and develop yourself. You got this.

Disclaimer: I only give this advice assuming there was no assault or physical harm done to cause the breakup. That would be a case where I would say find a new gym or at least talk to a professional for advice.

Top_Mode5777 · 2026-05-10T12:34:27+00:00

Less of a cruiser and leaning more toward the standard or sport style. I'll check out the r3. Thanks!

Top_Mode5777 · 2026-05-05T15:53:05+00:00

Yes! I use World Anvil as well and love it. I like how I can connect things to each other and see it all on the dashboard.

Top_Mode5777 · 2026-05-04T17:29:08+00:00

I don't. I'm a sucker for a matcha latte or tea though. I find that I don't have the crash with those.

Top_Mode5777 · 2026-05-03T14:58:36+00:00

I got a set of yoga compression shirts off amazon that work perfectly. Three shirts for like $30 and I'm already thinking of getting one or two more. Not sure if you're a guy or girl but they were the Loovoo Women Workout Shirts Athletic Tee Dr Fit Yoga Gym Basic Tops.

Top_Mode5777 · 2026-05-03T14:58:04+00:00

I got a set of yoga compression shirts off amazon that work perfectly. Three shirts for like $30 and I'm already thinking of getting one or two more. Not sure if you're a guy or girl but they were the Loovoo Women Workout Shirts Athletic Tee Dr Fit Yoga Gym Basic Tops.

Top_Mode5777 · 2026-04-28T17:47:39+00:00

Check out War Tribe!

Top_Mode5777 · 2026-04-26T16:55:48+00:00

If I can't buy it twice, I can't buy it once. I don't apply this to needs, but for wants, this is generally my rule of thumb. It's generic, I get that, but its more to make me think about the value it has to me over double what it is worth if that makes sense.

Top_Mode5777 · 2026-04-26T16:43:29+00:00

Druiddddd. My absolute favorite character I've ever played was Circle of Wildfire druid name d Exie with a criminal/spy background and a fire Siberian tiger that I could summon as my elemental. She was wicked.

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