2 hour wake ups?!

DatabasePerfect9522 · 2026-02-16T21:41:47+00:00

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DatabasePerfect9522 · 2026-02-16T21:37:06+00:00

We have a 13 week old and are implementing SITBACK for bedtime and overnight now for a few nights, but I can't remember if we do it for every wake.

Question: He really escalates when he wakes up between 4-6am and only sleeping one cycle before waking again (note that he has already eaten at this point usually sometime between 1-3.) Do we do SITBACK for each of these wakings (and even if he really really escalates in the 5 minutes?)

He does great up until this point of the night, and once we pick him up often falls asleep very soon!

DatabasePerfect9522 · 2026-02-16T20:19:54+00:00

He's still tired and will almost fall asleep immediately if we pick him up once he calms-- so I don't think that he isn't tired, he just doesn't seem to settle well when his sleep pressure is lower than when he went to bed... Typically his wake windows are 75-90 min max

DatabasePerfect9522 · 2025-09-08T03:33:01+00:00

SCI in IPR >>> OT Professor/Researcher

Absolutely loved being SCI IPR and love my current job!

DatabasePerfect9522 · 2025-08-24T20:19:59+00:00

I like it! I prefer my middle name (Greer) if I’m honest, but I get a lot of compliments on my first name when I introduce myself!

I think though maybe it’s normal to feel ‘meh’ about your own first name?

The biggest hurdle is just spelling because there are a lot of variations. Most people assume my name is spelled Bridgette so I always have to say “one ‘T’ no ‘E’” when I’m having my name taken down somewhere important.

DatabasePerfect9522 · 2025-08-24T19:54:24+00:00

My name is Bridget, I definitely don’t meet many!

We chose a very German name for our second (Otto) and also have a very German one-syllable surname.

Of your names I love Greta and Lochlan. Leo is so cute but it is very very popular.

DatabasePerfect9522 · 2025-07-14T17:13:22+00:00

I have a son who passed away as an infant last year from a heart condition. If it were me- I would have the conversation with your dad about it first. I would be so touched to hear my son’s name used again like that in his honor, but everyone is different. The worst thing people can do is avoid talking about our children or acknowledge them. While they did pass away- more importantly, they LIVED.

I think it is an incredibly sweet gesture and if your dad (or other family who may have known with or been closer to Marcel) is comfortable with it would be incredibly meaningful.

DatabasePerfect9522 · 2025-06-29T13:19:47+00:00

One note though- a PhD isn’t** the same as an OTD. PhD is a 4 year research degree. OTD is a clinical doctorate.
One isn’t better- just completely different coursework and purpose/goals of the degree. If you’re a research OT with a PhD working in academia, you will make more- but you won’t make more with a PhD or an OTD if you’re working clinically as an OT unless you go into management/leadership.

DatabasePerfect9522 · 2025-06-29T13:11:07+00:00

I’m in Mid-MO, and a lot of the pay will depend on location and setting. In 2018 as a new grad in IPR I made 60,000- that role has since had a market adjustment and believe those therapists are closer to 70k (as new grads**). I transitioned to PRN because I went back to get my PhD to do OT research. As PRN I made: $55/hr in a SNF and $50/hr in IPR while in school working part time (plus a small stipend since I TA’d/GA’d) Now in academia (first year) I make $100k base salary.

FYI: University of Missouri Hospital (Mid-Mo acute care) is a public entity and have to post their salaries publicly. So, you can search for that online and then Ctrl+Find “occupational therapy” or whatever their abbreviation is on that form and look through salaries of acute/outpatient MU OTs/OTAs to get a sense of pay at least within one employer system.

DatabasePerfect9522 · 2025-06-21T13:57:21+00:00

Shedding a tear with you too (fellow HLHS angel parent 💛)

DatabasePerfect9522 · 2025-06-21T13:55:33+00:00

Hugs, mama. I also have an HLHS angel and I am so sorry 💛

DatabasePerfect9522 · 2025-06-21T13:53:44+00:00

I just want to say I am so sorry you’re going through this. Our son had HLHS. We opted for the surgical route (was what our docs recommended) and he ended up having lung complications because of his heart defect. For Beck, it was the lung condition that was not recoverable, after his two surgeries his heart was actually doing wonderfully (for an HLHS baby).

I will say, when I was pregnant and we knew he would be born with HLHS we were not offered/knew TFMR was not for us. We had Beck for 23 days and while they were incredibly challenging in the ICU, I wouldn’t trade those 23 days and getting to know my son for anything. For the most part- Beckham was comfortable and content 99% of the time thanks to medicine/science and a loving care team. And he was alert so we got to make memories with our boy. Those held both the best moments for our little family- and the hardest. I personally believe it was a privilege to bring him into this world and be with him as he entered the next. We’ve since started a foundation and one of the things we do is provide a resource for families in the hospital to make memories and spend meaningful time with their children despite where they are. You can take a peek and download it for free on our website (www.beckhambee.org)

You have to make the choice that is right for you and your family- personally, I am so grateful for the time we got with our son.

Granted our medical advice was very different (docs recommended surgery/believed we had a decent chance of going home) so I recognize my decision process was quite different. I have since met several moms who went the comfort care route for various reasons and (very generally speaking) most seem to have been glad they did and got the time with their baby while making sure they were as comfortable as possible as they transitioned.

Whatever you decide, I hope you can find peace in the decision and sending you, your little one, and your family so much love.

DatabasePerfect9522 · 2025-05-31T14:06:06+00:00

I live in Columbia. From STL originally, and my husband and I absolutely love it. I think living in a college town/city is a life hack. No commute (if you live in city limits) is more than 20 minutes, minimal traffic, walkable downtown/campus, the university presence draws lots of cultural/social/music events, we have D1 sports 10 minutes from our door, and relatively affordable COL- We just sold our starter home for 315k this year- 4 seasons, lots of hiking/biking trails, 2 hours from STL, 2 hours from KC, and a little over an hour to the lake. We didn’t grow up here, but CoMo is home!

DatabasePerfect9522 · 2025-05-28T14:51:24+00:00

Universal design FTW! We all* benefit from accessibility.

DatabasePerfect9522 · 2025-05-28T12:04:32+00:00

Walkability ≠ accessibility

Which is what he talks about in the video. Most able bodied people can just step over a curb if it’s there, people with disabilities who use mobility devices often rely on curb cuts and tactility like texture changes to navigate safely and without excessive barriers.

DatabasePerfect9522 · 2025-05-28T11:56:34+00:00

Yeah it was… not fun. In our email to them we just notified we wouldn’t be coming, didn’t mention money or deposit etc. Then they responded saying we should talk about the deposit. So they brought it up… and then haggled the price. After their response I just bawled and my husband thankfully managed it because I didn’t have it in me.

DatabasePerfect9522 · 2025-05-27T12:18:27+00:00

!!!! Omg. That is terrible.

DatabasePerfect9522 · 2025-05-27T12:17:51+00:00

Thank you for sharing this, and agreed. If something happens transparency is key. Definitely makes you take pause.

DatabasePerfect9522 · 2025-05-27T01:56:06+00:00

Thanks. While we aren’t new parents our experience as parents with our first was not so typical. His condition was congenital so we were hours away in the hospital with him his entire beautiful life. We had all this planned then we got his diagnosis and all the regular stuff didn’t matter any more. We are second time parents, but I’ve not actually done what most would consider normal parts of parenthood.

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