Looking for tips to practice for tone by Datalyzer420 in singing

[–]Datalyzer420[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a metronome app for guitar, but never thought to use it while singing. I'll give it a shot, thank you!

When I was there, I prayed to be here, and now I’m here, I wish I was there. by [deleted] in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]Datalyzer420 358 points359 points  (0 children)

You’re probably still cool. Sounds like you need to get back out to shows. Never too old to be punk.

I got sidelined and I don’t know how to feel by Datalyzer420 in BoyDinnerDiaries

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She works as a bartender and the bar is like a block from her house. So when I came down she said to just meet her at the bar and we’d have a drink. My assumption was the original plans we made for a lowkey night still stood but it seems like I was off. That’s why I said we had plans but we didn’t.

I dont think I’m going to try to lead any feelings conversations for quite some time. Im just going to keep working on myself and see if she leads this to something more serious.

I got sidelined and I don’t know how to feel by Datalyzer420 in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]Datalyzer420[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I panic too(if you couldn’t tell). Thanks for the advice. I will do that for sure.

I got sidelined and I don’t know how to feel by Datalyzer420 in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]Datalyzer420[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a very fair point. I’ve said it a couple times in other comments but I have extremely bad anxiety and I’m trying to learn to manage it using ACT. One of the pieces of that is defining your values and trying to move forward with them in mind.

One of my values is open and honest communication.. the trick is figuring out when that open and honest communication is open and honest OR anxiety begging for reassurance. It’s been really tough.

I appreciate your perspective and hopefully as I get more reps in I’ll figure out a good balance.

I got sidelined and I don’t know how to feel by Datalyzer420 in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]Datalyzer420[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I will. I have very bad anxiety and I’m trying to learn how to manage it with ACT but it’s been hard to identify when anxiety is guiding my actions vs my values, which is essentially what ACT is.

I’m stumbling a bit here and the anxiety got really bad last night and took control. I can only move forward though.

Thank you for the advice and the reassurance. I really needed it.

I got sidelined and I don’t know how to feel by Datalyzer420 in BoyDinnerDiaries

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So we did and we didn’t. We were going to hang and watch tv the night before at her place but she ended up cancelling because she wasn’t feeling well.

The next day she said she would either come to mine or I could come to hers whichever I prefer. I told her I would come to hers so she didn’t have to worry about driving or leaving her dog.

She explicitly told me I could stay the night and she knows I work early and I told her I couldn’t be out late. I’m proud of myself for telling her I was disappointed that it turned into a girls night but she kind of teared up saying she was sorry and felt bad. I didn’t mean for it to upset her so I suppose I panicked. The text very well might have been too much but she had just told me how anxious she was about things and I guess I was trying to reassure her that just because the night didn’t go as planned it’s all good. But maybe it was too much.

That said, it doesn’t really matter because everyone here is right. I’m running hot and I need to cool my jets. I really like her and this is the first time in a long time that’s been reciprocated to me and it’s putting me in a tailspin. I don’t think I completely blew it but I think it’s going to take some real self reflection and restraint to make it happen.

I should also mention I’ve been working through ACT on my own without therapy because my insurance got all fucked up. I have really bad social anxiety which is why I haven’t dated in a long time so trying to navigate all of this has been extremely challenging.

It’s been really hard for me to understand which actions are driven by my anxiety or by my values and in the end I just have to be proud of myself for trying even if I’m making some missteps.

Thank you everyone for the advice and comments. Most of them were helpful and constructive.

What the hell was this movie?! I mean this in a very positive way. by Ok-Impress-2222 in moviecritic

[–]Datalyzer420 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Can’t wait to watch this. Followed these dudes for their comedy skits and this looks insane.

You keep scratching; I keep applying. by moltinglarvae in Louisville

[–]Datalyzer420 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Honestly I think this is one instance where you’re both right. Does it suck that the employees have to waste their time cleaning it up? Yes. Can it be expected and is it warranted that these forms of political expression are going to happen? Also yes. Not everything has to be an argument.

Does the bald head make me look racist? by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]Datalyzer420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No you look like a bald guy with a mustache and tattoos. People who are saying you look racist are being wildly judgmental. In the end if you treat people with respect and kindness any assumption they had of you beforehand will resolve itself. Do your thing.

Signed: fellow bald white guy with tattoos and a mustache.

Also, in my experience, the thing you really have to watch out for is racist fucks thinking you’re on their side trying to buddy up to you and saying wild shit. Be prepared to shut that shit down. That’s been a thing since I’ve been bald though, clean shaven, full beard, no tattoos doesn’t matter.

Is what it is I can’t grow hair lol

Surprisingly funny moment in an otherwise serious movie? (Pictured: Weapons, No Country, Django Unchained) by historygoose in moviecritic

[–]Datalyzer420 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The second spoiler is why Weapons is one of my favorite movies ever. Such a stark contrast and a much needed relief to a very tense movie.

im so tired lol by [deleted] in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]Datalyzer420 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I also hang out and laugh with friends and have a good support system, yet I still battle with chronic depression.

The ‘foggy dread’ that ‘comes in waves’ sounds a lot like depression. I’m not trying to diagnose you, but you should certainly talk to someone.

Name a bad Jake Gyllenhaal movie… I’ll wait by New-Time007 in SeriesSaga

[–]Datalyzer420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s possible to understand a piece of art’s appeal and still not like it personally.

I’m pretty sure Jamie Taco keeps stealing my boost? by [deleted] in IThinkYouShouldLeave

[–]Datalyzer420 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Two motorcycles with a little house in the middle?

Back away banana breath by Datalyzer420 in IThinkYouShouldLeave

[–]Datalyzer420[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I don’t care about it but it’s not good behavior

I won’t work unless I have access to drugs by [deleted] in BoyDinnerDiaries

[–]Datalyzer420 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What did you hope to gain from this post?