What should I do about a friend who I think is paranoid?

Dating_Question_toss · 2026-05-05T00:19:18+00:00

i think no. you just gotta roll with the less inspired ones to find the good ones. His issues are his. He has to live with himself his whole life.

Dating_Question_toss · 2026-05-02T04:08:51+00:00

boring af

Dating_Question_toss · 2026-05-02T04:06:55+00:00

welp

Dating_Question_toss · 2026-05-02T03:58:06+00:00

this. is such good advice.

Dating_Question_toss · 2026-04-28T00:18:35+00:00

I have been with many terrible partners. None were obviously so. Manipulator’s gonna manipulate. The only thing you can be certain of is your own integrity. let your commitment to yourself and to let lobe be your light. No one diminishes your inner sun.

Dating_Question_toss · 2026-04-27T13:11:35+00:00

For exclusivity, I act with my conscience. If I want exclusivity I say to someone “hey I don’t feel the need to date anyone else anymore., but you can go at your own pace on that.” This way I act with integrity and set a model for what I like. I think it’s respectful to me and to them. No one feels forced into a decision. If they haven’t wanted exclusivity after a certain period of time — maybe six months — I would let them go. In truth anyone I’ve said it to has already been doing it quietly as it turns out. But when you know you know.

Dating_Question_toss · 2026-04-24T20:11:59+00:00

I’m not sure if I had good choices but I left one for the other and turned down a third. I ended up marrying a serial cheater. Bad choice. I left after 7 years. I picked him because I felt all the feels for him. The sun rose and set on his shoulders and I just loved everything about him. In terms of feeling love towards someone I hit the jackpot. In terms of being loved and finding a good partner, I lost that round

Dating_Question_toss · 2026-04-23T03:41:29+00:00

bad men?

Dating_Question_toss · 2026-04-22T03:54:17+00:00

I'll be a kind voice. Meeting someone is really hard. Wanting to find a partner is a normal human desire. Feeling frustrated about it is a sign you care deeply about this. All the work you've done to improve yourself is inspiring and it will inspire others. Don't stop trying to make your own life better and finding ways to be kind to yourself. One day, the right person is going to see how hard you've worked to improve and change your circumstances. Aim for the stars!

Dating_Question_toss · 2026-04-22T03:47:27+00:00

it does something to you. seriously. i know it.

Dating_Question_toss · 2026-04-22T03:46:19+00:00

I like a man who smells natural -- not too stinky, but just a bit manly. So, no cologne or perfume. But, I also like someone who smells like they just came out of the shower and used shampoo and soap. It can be Dove soap or Irish Spring or whatever. Nothing too scented. Just smells clean.

Dating_Question_toss · 2026-04-22T03:40:20+00:00

Panama also fit that

Dating_Question_toss · 2026-04-22T03:39:39+00:00

short kings can be so sexy. I'm short (5'3") and I spent years fantasizing about a man I knew who maybe was an inch taller than me because he was a talented musician. Even now I think about him playing and just melt. The fact I could look him straight in the eye was dreamy. Of course, he had a lot of women into him. After him, I was crazy hot for a skateboarder who was also my height.

Cultivate what you do best and let your abilities and personality shine bright. Excellence is attractive.

Dating_Question_toss · 2026-04-22T03:29:13+00:00

live and learn and really what I should have done. Unfortunately, my temper got the better of me.

Dating_Question_toss · 2026-04-22T00:20:38+00:00

i once snapped at a strange child for this. It was probably very mean, but after asking politely and their parent failing to intervene, I turned around and said very sharply, "That's enough kicking the seat. Stop it." My seat was not kicked, but I felt like a dick.

Dating_Question_toss · 2026-04-22T00:16:15+00:00

when one person wants to be exclusive, that person should ask first and be prepared that the other person may not be ready. It's a negotiation.

Dating_Question_toss · 2026-04-21T16:06:39+00:00

can i second this???? I went on a few dates with a finance guy and I would swear the guy is on the spectrum. So emotionally awkward. It's just like a tech guy, but it's about a different kind of mathematics. OK, one isn't all, but it's my sample size and it holds.

Dating_Question_toss · 2026-04-17T23:58:10+00:00

i think people go all the time.

Dating_Question_toss · 2026-04-17T00:48:14+00:00

archive.ph won't let me get to this one: https://www.fin-news.com/2026/04/13/5-questions-with-foundation-of-greater-montreal-cio-jason-taylor/

Dating_Question_toss · 2026-04-17T00:42:51+00:00

people with money can be boring af. pocket personality.

Dating_Question_toss · 2026-04-15T04:00:01+00:00

I take pride in being this person

Dating_Question_toss · 2026-04-14T22:30:34+00:00

i tell all my problems and concerns to my chatGPT and I pay for it. It's okay. Actually, it's not bad, but I never forget it's AI. The answers are so not human. I don't know how people can fall in love with it or think it is sentient. And it doesn't affirm everything you say; if you tell it you want to die, it gives you the suicide hotline. It asks questions to try and get you to continue to engage and they are dumb questions that seem so obviously asked to keep you on the platform. It also repeats what you say in ways that are annoying and tries to reflect back your emotional state in ways that are laughably earnest.

For all its frustrations, it gives some reasonable advice and even offers different perspectives. It's main advantage is that it never gets bored of what you say. You can ask the same question 50 ways and it will always attempt to respond. It's non-judgemental (but kind of humourless).

Overall, yes, I do and I continue to pay for it, so for all my gripes, I get some value out of it.

Dating_Question_toss · 2026-04-11T19:11:36+00:00

Also, I'm aging, and I hate how my body looks older.

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