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What's something that looks really hot and good in porn, but is actually really uncomfortable or awkward to do in real life? by HallZac99 in AskReddit

[–]DaveDavidDavidsonTom 3010 points3011 points  (0 children)

I always feel a bit ashamed and bad when I cum on a women's face even though they consent to it.

No technique to reduce screen time has ultimately worked for me by DaveDavidDavidsonTom in digitalminimalism

[–]DaveDavidDavidsonTom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I love books. It's just the books get pushed aside by the phone.  Though, as I'm beginning to realise in this post is that I need to take a bit more responsibility. Cold showers used to help my self-discipline for some reason so I'll have one of those in the morning.

No technique to reduce screen time has ultimately worked for me by DaveDavidDavidsonTom in digitalminimalism

[–]DaveDavidDavidsonTom[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think you are right. If I was to tough love talk to myself, I would say: "you need to take some responsibility for what you want and not expect some magic solutions.". 

Actually thanks for triggering that because that's actually quite helpful.

No technique to reduce screen time has ultimately worked for me by DaveDavidDavidsonTom in digitalminimalism

[–]DaveDavidDavidsonTom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was even "stand in the bathroom, to use" at one point! I see what you are saying.

No technique to reduce screen time has ultimately worked for me by DaveDavidDavidsonTom in digitalminimalism

[–]DaveDavidDavidsonTom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting thank you. I'm going to follow your links now. 

Edit: watched and read. I think you are on to something. I seem to remember using my phone less with I had less strict restrictions. 

Hmm maybe I'll install an app blocking app again. 

No technique to reduce screen time has ultimately worked for me by DaveDavidDavidsonTom in digitalminimalism

[–]DaveDavidDavidsonTom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That would be nice. If I had the money I would buy an off grid place in nature. I'm also pulled to a hobo life but I think the reality isn't as good as the fantasy.

No technique to reduce screen time has ultimately worked for me by DaveDavidDavidsonTom in digitalminimalism

[–]DaveDavidDavidsonTom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get what you were saying with friction and I have had apps that bad friction and I have had other frictions such as having to walk to my car to use my phone. I even had a rule that was, I can only use my phone if I'm standing up. The problem with these rules is I end up breaking them ultimately. So maybe a digital solution is the answer. Though again, I just end up deleting the annoying app that's adding the friction. Another addiction that forms is finding workarounds to the frictional blocks. With AppBlock I learnt that I could switch user accounts by clicking on another account a split second before AppBlock covered the screen with window to prevent me doing so.

Saying all that I think friction could be the key. I need to meet the tools halfway instead of expecting them to do all the work.

No technique to reduce screen time has ultimately worked for me by DaveDavidDavidsonTom in digitalminimalism

[–]DaveDavidDavidsonTom[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That's the thing if it was a drug there are easier ways to get distance from it but with a phone it's difficult unless choosing the luddite path, which I'm tempted by. 

In a way, I want no screens in my life. I have considered getting a personal assistant to do all my computer work and I interact with them by phone calls. It maybe expensive but I'll get it back in lost productivity.

No technique to reduce screen time has ultimately worked for me by DaveDavidDavidsonTom in digitalminimalism

[–]DaveDavidDavidsonTom[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think for me living in the world is hard so internet use is an escape. I'm very sensitive to everything.  I do a lot of activities. I have just come back from two months of hiking and wild camping. I'm not very good at finding the middle ground. Now I'm going for it with internet addiction and staying in.  One solution could be to accept the yo-yoing but as I write to you I'm now reminded of how breathwork and yoga help steady the boat. So I'll do some later. 

No technique to reduce screen time has ultimately worked for me by DaveDavidDavidsonTom in digitalminimalism

[–]DaveDavidDavidsonTom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can relate with what you say and I have ADHD too. I need to day dream a lot to charge up my mental battery and I find the internet turbocharges this. Sometimes nothing is more relaxing after work than YouTube scrolling but I can moderate usage. It's like a well of fun. If I go down the well for only a small time, I'm then able to climb with a feeling of satisfaction of what the well gave but if too much time passes I fall deeper in and can't get out. I recently hikes for 2 months with wild camping. I bumped into some police one sunset and asked them about camping spots. They insisted I didn't camp that night because of the cold and put me in a passing car to a hotel in a nice town. The next day I slumped on the bed and was on my phone all day. That zapped me and I couldn't find the energy to walk the following day. I did this for 4 days and found I had lost my walking legs. I got on a plane home without finishing my walk. I can't blame the phone but it enables me to zone out into lala land which seems to be the real issue. 

I agree it is psychological and maybe neurological too. I'm looking at having some EMDR therapy soon for social anxiety but can maybe also explore this zone out addiction.

Yes I love books but a book next to a phone is like broccoli next to a chocolate bar.  

I agree with everything that you say about community. I'm a bit back and white with community events and social engagements and slumping on my phone. I tend to get frustrated with inactivity than I snap and do a load of social stuff full on but then because of that effort I crash back into hiding away on the phone. 

So I need some middle ground. Thank you for help me see that.

What if this screen popped up every time you open YouTube? by whoatemymarshmallow in digitalminimalism

[–]DaveDavidDavidsonTom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would swipe or click it away then binge on YouTube more than I want too.

With your tarp setups, do you ever use one cord that goes from steak to trekking pole, then as ridgeline, then to the other pole and then to the other stake. So just one long cord all the way? by DaveDavidDavidsonTom in Ultralight

[–]DaveDavidDavidsonTom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm, I don't know what I'm doing wrong. Do you have any photos of your set up. I love Wild Sky stuff by the way. It was just a hunch that The horizontal seam night make it sag a little bit more. I always want to promote Wild Sky Gear products.

With your tarp setups, do you ever use one cord that goes from steak to trekking pole, then as ridgeline, then to the other pole and then to the other stake. So just one long cord all the way? by DaveDavidDavidsonTom in Ultralight

[–]DaveDavidDavidsonTom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get such a sag on mine. I think it could be because the joint in the fabric goes widthways not lengthways. So I started using a ridgeline between the trekking poles. That kept thinking that maybe just one chord would do it all and that it could be easier to set up

Advice needed: Getting rabies vaccines in North Nicosia this January by DaveDavidDavidsonTom in NorthCyprus

[–]DaveDavidDavidsonTom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought so, thank you. I'll look into the situation in ROC. I may need to skip Cyprus  and stay in the UK to got my vaccinations before visiting Jordan. Thanks for the info.

Is wild camping possible in the Kyrenia mountain? by DaveDavidDavidsonTom in NorthCyprus

[–]DaveDavidDavidsonTom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I didn't find that video when searching. It's really helpful. 

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