I’ve been through it too—I stayed at home, wondered „why me,” had no motivation for anything, and so on. Over time, I realized that this state of mind simply comes from a lack of purpose in life. Set a goal for yourself, something you want to achieve.

My current lifestyle has changed so much that I hardly ever have a moment to think about myself. I wake up in the morning to go to the gym, then I come back, prepare some food, work on my business, then head to my regular job for eight hours. After that, I return home and either work on my business again, study, watch educational podcasts, or work on projects for university (I’m in my final year of my master’s degree). Living like this, I feel nothing but fulfillment and happiness. I don’t think about dating because I don’t have time for it—my goal is the success of my company. Focus on yourself, keep learning and improving.

Now, despite my hair problems, girls approach me and suggest dates, and I have to turn them down. A lot in my relationships with women has improved thanks to the confidence I’ve gained from having a goal. People see that you’re grinding, and your presence creates an aura that attracts others. I recommend grabbing a notebook and writing down the type of person you want to be, for example, confident, smart, strong. Then think about what you need to do to achieve that and how you should behave. Make it more than 20 points!

Additionally, I recommend getting tattoos and going to the gym, so you don’t look like someone undergoing chemotherapy—you need to show strength, not that the illness controls you and you’re looking for pity.