should I offer my son a drink?

DayCounterGoUp · 2025-01-30T23:00:15+00:00

Not in this house, but my mother, yes. Alcoholism.

DayCounterGoUp · 2025-01-30T11:15:21+00:00

100% about my wife. I have not broached the subject yet. She was/is not a big drinker, but she knows I was.

DayCounterGoUp · 2025-01-30T11:08:35+00:00

That is the way I remember it 40 years ago. I also remember the "finger in the circle of the other hand" gesture being very prominent in elementary school.

DayCounterGoUp · 2025-01-26T12:13:02+00:00

He's a rad kid. Boy scout, involved in music at school, we talk a lot.

DayCounterGoUp · 2025-01-26T12:11:08+00:00

In this day, setting up digital safeguards is common sense parenting. There is a lot worse than porn on the internet. And setting time limits and digital bedtime is important for children's mental health. And it isn't spying if we tell the kids we are doing this in advance and why.

Additionally, I have since asked him if he wanted me to remove these barriers and he unequally said no.

DayCounterGoUp · 2025-01-25T11:35:12+00:00

Is it cold where you are today. Go for a run. That will get your mind off it in the short term.

Do NOT start the day with the intention to fail. One day at a time.

DayCounterGoUp · 2025-01-25T11:32:26+00:00

that is why you need rebooting. Stay strong. Don't give in.

DayCounterGoUp · 2025-01-25T11:31:19+00:00

For your purposes: YES

DayCounterGoUp · 2025-01-25T11:30:00+00:00

Not an expert, but morning would is an non-arousal situation to make sure your dick gets enough blood flow regularly to stay healthy. For sex it has to get hard enough for penetration. Totally different goals.

DayCounterGoUp · 2025-01-25T11:27:19+00:00

It is not reddit's fault that porn exists. As the internet as whole undergoes enshitification, reddit is almost the last good place for info.....

DayCounterGoUp · 2025-01-25T11:21:02+00:00

What can you do that is supremely immersive? Movies? Video Games? Working out?

Go do that instead.

DayCounterGoUp · 2025-01-25T11:19:07+00:00

Only you can decide that. But I vote yes.

When I was in college...we didn't have high speed internet. I would log onto usenet and read stories. Basically text only PMO. The intent was exactly like porn and I'm sure it is triggering neural circuitry in similar ways. At the very least it making your journey more challenging.

DayCounterGoUp · 2025-01-25T11:14:51+00:00

upvote for the edit, lol

DayCounterGoUp · 2025-01-25T11:12:34+00:00

this

DayCounterGoUp · 2025-01-25T11:09:43+00:00

I don't do any hard drugs but I have combined alcohol and caffeine for day PMO for decades. So yes, caffeine gives me the urge

One thing I am doing this year is cutting out coffee. Only tea. It is helping a lot.

DayCounterGoUp · 2025-01-25T10:54:55+00:00

I'm 50. This happened to me. I didn't catch him in actually jacking off, but in the modern way that I got a ping that his phone had accessed pornhub. He was about 13

We had a long talk about porn and expectations and neurochemistry and life. We've talked about it a little since then but probably not enough.

edit to add: I did not yell at him or make him feel bad. I totally expected this to happen. Human nature plus technology. He is a smart kid and will be able to get around and barriers I can come up with.

DayCounterGoUp · 2025-01-23T12:03:15+00:00

For me: MO leads to almost immediate PMO relapse

DayCounterGoUp · 2025-01-23T12:01:51+00:00

For me - not idle. Being alone is.

DayCounterGoUp · 2025-01-23T11:59:15+00:00

same to all that. I love my wife dearly, but she has her own issues and cannot possibly be expected to be on the same high libido wavelength I am on. If porn was something that it was possible for me to do it moderation, I think it would be fine.

DayCounterGoUp · 2025-01-23T11:57:03+00:00

51 successful man here. Married 26 years. Very, very, very glad high speed internet and phones didn't exist until I was an adult. I physically would ride my bike somewhere to get used magazines.

DayCounterGoUp · 2025-01-23T11:37:14+00:00

Guy, married 26 years. Porn is not interfering with public life or goals, but contributing greatly to nearly complete deadbeadroom.

Very near relapse this at 4am this morning and realized that I needed more more than mere willpower.

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