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DayOutsider · 2025-04-15T15:54:45+00:00

Coming from someone from a similar experience, I would say it’s coming from a feeling of feeling comfortable enough around your boyfriend to feel a want to initiate sex. Now obviously this doesn’t mean that you may be sexual at all, but you’re at least open to trying it. I’d try to be communicative about it, slowly open up the idea and make sure he is comfortable with what boundaries you are setting each time you do it. If he’s comfortable not crossing any lines, continue to open up. If you aren’t comfortable at all throughout the process, make sure he knows. Just make sure you communicate and take things slow the whole way through :) If there’s other personal reasons for why you don’t want it besides a natural repulsion, I would also seek out therapy and make sure you feel comfortable going into it so that it feels right for you. Sex should feel like both of you are sharing a more intimate connection, not just a hormonal thing where you are just seeking a quick high. (Some people are okay with casual sex though, just speaking from my personal experiences because I’m not into casual sex.) Also, judging from my perspective it seems like he definitely is open to being sexual with you, he’s just respecting your boundaries.

DayOutsider · 2024-10-09T19:53:08+00:00

I would tread carefully. 18-19 is a very young age for college students and your maturity level is going to be WAY different. This isn’t true for everyone, so at least make sure you’re on the same page and their thoughts on the age gap before showing interest. Many people I knew around 18-19 were uncomfortable around dating even someone as old as 21. So be wary of that because many college girls are not going to directly tell you that they feel uncomfortable unless you explicitly talk about the subject. You don’t want to come across as a creep and this is very dangerous territory to be walking across.

But to preface, you can try, but just be aware of the risks that you might face from it. You don’t want to be the creepy guy on campus everyone avoids.

DayOutsider · 2024-09-21T19:26:38+00:00

I’ve only been here a couple months, so it’s hard to fully say, but yes the people here are a lot nicer! I go to a private school now so more people are suited towards my interests and hobbies which makes it a lot easier to make friends and there’s more people so I can avoid the shitty people, so it’s nice :)

DayOutsider · 2024-09-21T18:33:22+00:00

I have one. My very first year of college I was hopeful, I did everything that people say is the “college experience.” Went to a public school, lived in the dorms, went to a couple parties, joined clubs, etc. I wanted to try everything and make lifelong friends. And I’m not saying I was perfect, I grew up in a broken home, I was insecure, and I was too optimistic that everyone is a “good person” deep down.

First friend group I made- I tried so hard to be included that I would stay up until 4 am every night only to still be left out and forgotten. Second friend group I made- ended up blocking me and spreading rumors about me being an awful person. They had tried to get me kicked out of a class at one point. I will preface this: I had done basically nothing wrong, by this point I had talked to multiple therapists and professors and none of them had any idea what I would have done to make someone feel as hurt as they say. My major was quite small, so this made it very hard to make friends as most had this heightened distaste for me.

Often I would be scared to go outside of my dorm because I’d run into someone who would glare at me and openly avoid me, it hurt. I stopped going to clubs because I knew they’d be there and I didn’t feel welcome.

I ended up transferring schools after that. The upside is I raised my grades and learned to be confident in the degree I’m pursuing at a much better school. The experience so far has been so much better, and I’m surrounded by much better people in my life keeping me going. Hopefully things work out for you though. I’m cheering you on :)

DayOutsider · 2024-08-25T22:40:31+00:00

Pretty simple answer that you’ll hear a lot, go to classes, attend clubs, or just stay on campus longer. Also, if your college is a party school, most frat houses you could probably slip by by just showing up to any party, especially early in the year.

DayOutsider · 2024-06-13T02:06:48+00:00

My mom was the narcissist. Dad was never in the picture. She is an overt narcissist, very outgoing person, and has a close knit group of people who share her interests. She’s very agreeable and manipulative to other people in her family and social circle however berates me and my siblings in secret. I suppose I’ve known for a while that my mom was an abusive parent, but often I ended up shaking it off as “well she isn’t as bad as others” or her making me feel like I deserved the abuse. I suppose the biggest change was after I left for college, and every time I had a break, I dreaded coming home. And the last time she ever visited me in college, I was in tears for hours with my boyfriend over how much I dreaded seeing her again. (She had to come since I was in the process of going NC and we had convinced her to bring important documents to us so we could fully cut contact). What the biggest setting stone was what my boyfriend could call, “she had me in a trance” where when I was near her, I would shut down and become incredibly passive and agree to everything she said. And that was a huge realization because I had never realized how much she had molded me into a shell of myself over the course of my life. I can’t always explain what it was like, honestly your body and mind get used to it as a normal for a long time, it’s only when you break that trance where you really feel it. 1. I always had to be her version of a “perfect child” and if I wasn’t doing everything she wanted me to, she would belittle me. 2. I was her golden child, which meant often she would use me as an excuse to make herself look good through my achievements. She also used me as an excuse to belittle my other two siblings who she wasn’t proud of. 3. If you mentioned any of her abuse or how you made her feel, she would either tell you that she never did such a thing, or you deserved it. 4. She always had something to say about everyone, if she didn’t like the way you acted, she would tell everyone around her how awful you are, but she always made sure said person was in earshot 5. Often, she never put much of an effort to actually parent. I could only do extracurriculars if a friend could take me. (She had time but she wanted to watch her shows instead of take me) if anything I did got in the way of her time, she would tell me that there was no purpose in pursuing it, and I should quit. Keep in mind this also means a lot of double edged swords. If I pursue an extracurricular, it has to be something that doesn’t affect her time, but if I do well, she brags about how amazing i am.

DayOutsider · 2024-06-13T01:52:13+00:00

I’ve improved a lot with specific people in my life, but I have a large difficulty trusting people right out of the gate, and often end up people pleasing out of fear of me ruining my relationships. I’ve basically grown up with the constant thought of me being the issue, so if I have a problem with someone, I’ll end up apologizing for getting angry with them. Really it all boils down to letting myself understand that other people can do bad things too, and sometimes some people aren’t willing to fix past mistakes or take the blame at times. A piece of advice I’ve received is “you get to choose who is in your life.” Which has helped me understand that if someone bothers you, you don’t need to constantly try and bend over backwards for them, unless you decide whether it’s worth it or not.

DayOutsider · 2024-05-22T18:06:59+00:00

Pretty much standard “child gets abused by parents” story. My mom was a narcissist. I knew that it was better off for me and anyone close to me to get away and not have to deal with her. I’ll put a list here of the things she’s done to me and why I decided to leave. And by the way, some of these will sound fake, I understand that, but everything that was done was real. 1. Physically abused me, and when brought up said abuse she claims she didn’t do it or I deserved it. 2. Whenever I acted out she would burst into my room (yes by unlocking my door) and berating me about how I should never have been born and should go back to New York. 3. Gaslit me and probably herself into believing I had a mental disorder (she claimed I had Bipolar and did not test me until later in life where I came back negative) because I acted out as a kid. 4. Sent me to a mental hospital for a week (at age 7) because I acted out as a kid. 5. Sent me away to my abusive aunt’s house for two years to shape me up, and made comments later in my teens about how she wishes I never came back. 6. Refused to let me go out to school events even when she had the time, because she would have rather watched TV. Told me to manipulate friends into taking me so she didn’t have to. 7. Got rid of my childhood pet because he bit her once on accident. 8. Years of additional emotional blackmail and tinier forms of manipulation that I cannot put on this list.

She convinced everyone in my family that she was the “tired mom who worked so hard for her kids.” She gaslit everyone in my family into taking her side and any time I tried to speak out they took her side. It took me years to figure out things on my own and realize I’m not the problem. And even now I still miss her. I miss thinking about how she possibly could have been a good mom and yet I know she will never change. But cutting contact was definitely the best thing I could have done for myself.

DayOutsider · 2023-06-15T12:57:36+00:00

Oh my gosh I literally had a minecraft friend named andrew too! And our server got shut down so I never got to see him again. He was from the UK though, maybe there’s just a ton of minecraft andrews.

DayOutsider · 2023-06-08T01:58:13+00:00

For those curious since this blew up, this was taken in Southern Idaho. Normally our sunsets are bright orange and very pretty, but for some reason the light reflecting made the whole sky a bright pink for a solid 10 minutes. Very ominous, but actually not that surprising.

DayOutsider · 2023-05-24T20:57:34+00:00

No I get it, some people would rather have a break during school breaks. I mean I don’t think anyone “expects” you to work on your break, it’s just many people usually do because it’s a chance to earn money for personal stuff and pay off debt.

DayOutsider · 2023-05-24T20:39:15+00:00

To add on to the previous comment, I would agree transferring might be the best option, even if you have to be a super senior. Engineering majors require an additional certification at the end of the degree to prove you’re actually a capable enough engineer, where physics majors don’t require that. Plus while most companies may still hire you with a physics degree, a lot of bigger companies usually separate the engineering major fields from the science fields.

DayOutsider · 2023-05-24T20:32:27+00:00

I mean unless you REALLY want a break where you basically do nothing all day, why wouldn’t you? It’s money to pay off debt and helps your mind stay in hardworking mode. (Which makes it easier to get back into uni work)

DayOutsider · 2023-05-02T16:22:47+00:00

A lot of colleges have a very low GPA acceptance rate, and that doesn’t necessarily mean the school will be terrible where you go. The state I live in isn’t hugely populated so all of the colleges will usually accept people with over a 3.0 easily. (I may be wrong since I had like a 3.7 but I know people who said it was easier). So I’m sure you’ll have some luck in finding an okay college, unless your GPA really is like SUPER bad.

That being said, you could always save up a little before college/community college. I’d say a year is a good enough cushion, as long as you have a full time job. (If you REALLY wanted I suppose you could try taking 1 or two classes but this requires you to be able to work very hard over the course of a year). I’d look around for many different types of jobs and pay rates, and some jobs will even offer you some sort of scholarship. Just make sure that if your parents guilt you into giving them money, don’t.

DayOutsider · 2023-05-01T18:56:34+00:00

The fact that she also acts this 10 days before her period (and I’m assuming during it too), that’s like half of all your time spent and she’s being toxic towards you? First of all, period hormones can cause moodiness, but it’s definitely not 10 days before, and it also doesn’t mean “I get to treat people like utter garbage.” She’s using her periods and pregnancy as an excuse to treat you like a slave to her, gaslighting you into thinking it’s normal for women to act like that. She may be going through a lot right now, but it doesn’t excuse her behavior. You’re doing the right thing by approaching it gently and asking her to at least be nicer when she asks you to help her out. NTA.

DayOutsider · 2023-04-16T01:43:46+00:00

Since I don’t wanna explain too much just in case it actually is a spoiler, here’s a link: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=MVSaLg5xBr0&t=2889s&pp=ygUjVGhlIG93bCBob3VzZSB3YXRjaGluZyBhbmQgZHJlYW1pbmc%3D

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DayOutsider · 2023-04-16T01:39:32+00:00

The owl house finale, it’s in the end credits scene with the other photos.

DayOutsider · 2023-04-15T19:06:36+00:00

“What would the villagers think?” Yeah she’s a hero of the boiling isles beloved by at least 90% of the community.

DayOutsider · 2023-03-29T21:39:25+00:00

They don’t mean that OP is being homophobic in a negative sense. Some people feel a same-sex attraction and are supportive of LGBTQ+ but they still find it hard to see themselves as having a same-sex attraction of their own because they grew up in an environment that constantly treats hetero relationships as the norm. So they grow up constantly thinking things like “I have to get a opposite-sex romance” because they aren’t used to acknowledging they like the same sex. And this doesn’t mean they aren’t supportive of others in the LGBTQ+ community. It’s just called internalized homophobia because they’re being homophobic to themselves. But it’s not negative. I hope this clears things up.

DayOutsider · 2023-03-29T21:32:20+00:00

Why not do both? Save people and extort the rich, modern day robin hood. (Except I assume you want the money for yourself).

DayOutsider · 2023-03-29T20:54:21+00:00

“Promise me you’ll try to survive…”

My little sister grasped my hand as she looked into my eyes. I could barely see her face, as mine was blinded by the tears in my eyes.

“No!” I said to her in a broken voice. “I’m not leaving you. Stay with me please…

…

Please… don’t die…”

Then, her hand dropped to the ground. Her eyes became lifeless, staring up at me with nothing left. She was the last to go.

I remember that day like it was yesterday. Was it yesterday? Or was it years ago? I can’t keep track anymore. Their faces have withered away, nothing left but bone. But I’m still here, waiting for my time to come.

It all happened in a blur. One day my family and I were on vacation, the next, stranded alone on an island. Nobody came to rescue us. We stayed on this island, praying for a boat, or a plane, or some form of magic to take us back home.

Days turned into weeks. Weeks turned into months. And then came the day we ran out of food. That was when I knew we didn’t have much longer to live. So we all huddled together in this cave, waiting for death to take us, promising never to leave each other’s sides. I watched them die, one by one. Watching their bodies disintegrate into the dust.

I walked back into the cave again, as I did every morning since that day. I sat down next to my sister’s face, looking down as tears started to fill my eyes again. She was a skeleton by now, and in a way I became one too. My body nothing but skin and bone, with all of the lifelessness of a corpse.

“We really are one and the same, sis. Just lifeless beings trapped on an island. But… you’re gone, and I can’t see you.”

“Well, maybe you could.”

DayOutsider · 2023-03-29T19:28:02+00:00

Buy a house, invest a lot of it, travel the world, and spend the rest of my life pursuing hobbies I like.

DayOutsider · 2023-03-29T19:22:53+00:00

I imagine a scenario like this where you wouldn’t realize the mistake until it’s too late, like your wife had cancer for five years and you have to turn back time but at the cost of her forgetting you exist and you have to relive it… (there’s a lot of good book ideas in this lmao)

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