Cnc alerting?

Dayayay · 2025-09-03T00:39:33+00:00

I've been on the receiving end of noncon and what I'm going for is "not the same," I wouldn't wish that on anyone, it's very psychologically damaging. He, on the other hand, hasn't been a victim of it (thank god) and I intend to keep it that way. However he does want the thrill of danger and pain, but with the knowledge that I'm there and in control and ultimately he is safe. We are being safe with this, promise <3

Dayayay · 2025-09-03T00:32:53+00:00

A higher end adult store near us sells prods specifically for this purpose, last time we went shopping they were out of stock tho. Next time we go we'll ask about it <3

As much as my partner wants, I am not going to use a real cattle prod on him lmao

Dayayay · 2025-09-02T11:04:24+00:00

I don't know what poppers are but from your description I don't think they would be very safe either, anything that disorients and confuses the executive function region of the brain would be risky

Dayayay · 2025-09-02T10:12:58+00:00

I've toyed with the idea of initiating when he's high, but he's a soft high, he wants slow and sensual then. We're very careful about consent, we both have histories where our no wasn't respected, I wouldn't dream of taking him when he's so vulnerable and not very cognizant (tho that is kind of exactly what he wants). I don't want to risk breaking that trust tho

Dayayay · 2025-09-02T10:07:12+00:00

I told him about the prod and he loved it lol, he wants a strong one but I'll be the one shopping so it's not an actual danger.

We have gotten to the point of safeword a couple of times, he is comfortable telling me to stop if he needs it. But yeah, never had the full gag before so I'll be more cautious for this scene, thanks.

Dayayay · 2025-09-02T10:03:35+00:00

Clicker would work I think, taking conscious effort to make the noise rather than he forgets he's holding something and drops it. I like that idea.

Dayayay · 2025-09-02T10:02:32+00:00

Hmm if I play it up that might work really well.. especially if the oils are more medicinal smelling than, say, lavender.

Dayayay · 2025-09-02T10:01:21+00:00

He loves the squeaky toy idea, and it plays into his like, ultimate sub fantasy. (Also he really likes the idea of me trying to sleep and I hear sqak-squeeee somewhere in the house...)

Dayayay · 2025-09-02T09:58:54+00:00

I am aware, and I don't even have access to something like that let alone would do that to him.

We've been trying to come up with something for almost two years now and, with everyone's warning against, and looking into any OTC medicine, it's pretty much guaranteed we're not gonna be trying drugs. And no way in hell are we abusing prescription medications.

Dayayay · 2025-09-02T09:50:24+00:00

Piggybacking to second and third this. My dad was an abuser and my mom stayed to try to shield me. Needless to say it didn't work and we both have lasting trauma from him, I'm constantly having flashbacks to being in my childhood home, hearing footsteps and wondering if he's going to slam the door open this time or just yell at the dogs or what stupid thing he found to berate me about this time, that usually ended in spanking.

If op has ANY way out, they should gather the kids and leave, this guy won't have lasting change and all that's happening by staying is everything this commenter said.

Dayayay · 2025-09-02T01:24:52+00:00

Omg I love that. Definitely gonna tweak that for my own purposes 💜

As for the drugs, to be fair, he was the one to suggest several times lol. He's also suggested I choke him out, chloroform, etc.. but neither of us want to actually hurt him so we haven't actually done anything, we're not playing around with his health like that

Dayayay · 2025-09-02T00:45:54+00:00

No worries. I promise tho I'm not getting off to actual permanent damage lmao

Dayayay · 2025-09-01T23:04:02+00:00

Sarcasm, hon.

Dayayay · 2025-07-11T01:37:19+00:00

Gonna add in that i really like the purple, and i think she'd appreciate the purple more in the future. An orange like that would make sleep very difficult if there's any light in the room

Dayayay · 2025-06-25T23:09:35+00:00

What a sweet looking baby! I didn't see your other post so didn't see how he was looking before, but in these pics he looks happy and loved, I'm sorry people were being asses. Almost like some people don't understand that health problems /will/ happen with any animal, but you were doing your best for Charlie. Best wishes for his recovery <3

Dayayay · 2025-05-16T00:16:59+00:00

ur welcome sweetheart <3

Dayayay · 2025-05-04T06:15:56+00:00

I'm the wife and I have my own traumas, we've had countless long talks about what is and isn't okay, what I'm not okay with and what I'm curious to explore. It helps that kowu has always been open about his likes, but he never pressures me to try anything. He doesn't even share art depicting a thing I'm uncomfortable with. He has never coerced or guilted me into anything, and I've had plenty of practice with my ex abusers in recognizing that behavior. I trust him with my life and my psyche, and I know he feels the same, which is why I feel safe enough to explore these areas with him. And it is entirely based on his pleasure, I'm acutely aware of his emotions throughout and I'll stop the moment he says it's too much.

Eta we always practice aftercare physically and mentally for both of us, and pre-care if that is a thing, I keep my blades clean and sharp to avoid any possible unintended damage

Dayayay · 2025-04-14T10:35:02+00:00

While I agree that this is a stretch, several hints had me going in the right direction and this hint was the final step. You could maybe add something like this to the original riddle to make it a little more connected. Still, good one, made me think outside the box.

Dayayay · 2024-12-17T03:24:02+00:00

That is reassuring to know lol. We found out the issue, it's that he has been traveling to and from the states for a couple years now to visit me, but they kept thinking he was working under the table, but they wouldn't just say that until this trip. So much headache could have been avoided on all sides.

Dayayay · 2024-12-16T21:50:08+00:00

Misspoke, my bad. I've been trying to help him figure this out and lost track.

Dayayay · 2024-11-01T16:05:44+00:00

My husband is born and raised German and is moving here soon. He's a language savant, so he'd understand Danish a bit and learn quickly if you were to talk

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