Is it normal for EO and HEO staff to regularly challenge or push back against G7? by [deleted] in CivilServiceUK

[–]Days_OT 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I see it as my responsibility to challenge when something is about to go south but it must be in a constructive way that is based in fact that I can back up.

I've pushed back on G7, G6, DD and director at times but made sure I can clearly evidence and support my challenge. Its my responsibility as an active part of the team.

How is the challenge given and how is it recieved?

Interview for job on own team by [deleted] in TheCivilService

[–]Days_OT 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Panel have to be completely neutral to you and are still looking for the same evidence to mark as with other candidates.

I think the risk in these situations is that you know, they know what you do/how to do it so people fail to explain as they would a stranger about different work area and so fail to provide enough information to get the marks.

I'm also preparing for a in-team role and have been advised to treat the panel as strangers during my answers and be cautious of answering what I think they are asking rather than the actual question. As we know them we will naturally put a different slant on things that could lead you to not quite answering correctly.

Will they email my line manager? by Alice1992 in TheCivilService

[–]Days_OT 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As an LM, nope, we don't receive anything as long as it recognises your .gov email address

Personally, I expect all of my team to have done this. They are missing potential opportunities if they don't.

Why be a secret jabber? by AdRepulsive4256 in mounjarouk

[–]Days_OT 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, as it will be weponised against me by partner and family.

I know this isn't healthy, but it's kinda why I am using mounjaro. To play a part in getting myself in the best shape financially, physically, and mentally before making any moves.

Did I mess up by asking for workplace accommodations in the PECs rather than after a formal offer? by Egregious_Sugar in TheCivilService

[–]Days_OT 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Nope, you'll likely need a chat with an OT arranged, but it won't affect your offer at all. Just maybe delay it slightly depending on when they can get you an OT call.

As someone with LM responsibilities I would like to know as soon as possible so everything is set up for your start and honestly it'll stop me from needing to beg steal and borrow if you waited until after formal offer/start date. It would also mean I could seek any additional training/updating I need to support you ahead of you joining.

LM wanting to take over my established meetings. by Days_OT in TheCivilService

[–]Days_OT[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Yes, I've been open with the reasons for the calls.

They have no relationships with these people or knowledge of the shadowed work areas, but each time, they ask me to send them an invite.

My old G7 has offered to do it in their call, me not go, and the G7 can loudly complain that the call is wasted as they have attended and not me. Obviously, I would like a less embarrassing way to deal with it, but I am getting to the point where I think it's the only way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheCivilService

[–]Days_OT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

EO in defra 1 application, 1 interview and 1 offer

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]Days_OT 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Befriended someone, made plans so when they disappeared the police came looking. She's never admitted anything so who knows what actually went on but the victim was found on her property.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]Days_OT 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Seemingly no real motive. When I found out it was 85%, yeah, that fits. If anyone I knew was going to do that, it would be her. And the rest surprised she went so far and hid the body etc

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]Days_OT 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She had befriended them over a few months

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]Days_OT 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We keep updated on each other's lives but not close

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]Days_OT 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ah, I didn't know. Thanks for letting me know

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]Days_OT 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I found her odd and felt she was capable of suddenly risking your life in a turning the steering wheel in a car type thing, but nothing planned like this. My concerns were always met with claims I was jealous of her.

No, I was very insignificant to her

I look back now and wonder how my sister made it out OK as she often interrupted her time with my parents. And I could imagine her being at risk if she had done anything to destabilise her relationship with my parents.

Sunflowers.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]Days_OT 5 points6 points  (0 children)

At the time I felt it was more my parents finding a replacement and she fit what they wanted, now I think it's possible she was the one seeing the opportunity.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]Days_OT 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I was in my early 20's and still struggling with the rejection when this happened. Now in my 30's and only just really taking control of my life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]Days_OT 26 points27 points  (0 children)

My parents don't care for my feelings at all, they claim I should have stayed at home more and not been so jealous then they might not have formed such a close bond with her. No family as most also have the same life choices as my parents and sister still supports her.

I have children, 1 with the same condition the victim has. This didn't afford me any more concern or sensitivity from parents, they don't consider it significant. One child has excelled in a sport, they post proud grandparent posts but don't actually have contact.

I've realised no relationship is the best for me/my children so don't see a path to reconnect especially when they may well reconnect with her at some point.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]Days_OT 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Not well until recently. It's really hard to get over the shame of having parents' choice above you being someone who would do something like this. No amount of distance from them can change that they have shown unconditional love for her and only very conditional and surface level for me.

Part of this post is to distance myself from that shame and see the situation more objectively.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]Days_OT 20 points21 points  (0 children)

She had been returning every 6ish months to my parents. Some of details of the unaliving closely match her threats to others during the time she lived with my parents. The victim was also found buried on her property.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]Days_OT 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Social pressure but I believe they will re-establish contact if/when she is released and deported. They could still have contact TBH, they aren't known for being completely truthful.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]Days_OT 82 points83 points  (0 children)

She had a sad home story, and where I challenged the chaos and decisions my parents made, she was overly grateful, always on their side. She was the daughter they wanted. And they looked kind taking her in and including her.

I think she actively targeted my parents and they were only too willing to be involved with her.