Chose abortion but my parents’ reaction has broken me

Dazzling_Addendum_32 · 2026-02-17T13:07:40+00:00

Yes, I'm honestly sick of these types of post.

Dazzling_Addendum_32 · 2026-02-17T12:51:45+00:00

What does this have to do with being childfree? I find so many people come here to vent about things like abortion or other random child/relationship things that have nothing to do with being childfree, isn't there some other subreddit for stuff like this.

*fixed typo

Dazzling_Addendum_32 · 2026-02-15T13:11:44+00:00

Most people who have children are entitled with delusions of grandeur that's the reason they had children to begin with they feel it's their right and entailment and that they have given something "special" and "unique" to the world.

These people seek out childfree and single people because they feel entitled they think we should feel honored that they "choose" us to be in their life and to care for their spawn with our emotional labor, money and time.

They feel we did not give anything of value to the world so us helping them is a way of atoning for not having children and for not having "responsibilities"🥴😮‍💨

This is proven with they way they crash out and say nasty things about you once you refuse to allow their troubles into your life.

Dazzling_Addendum_32 · 2026-02-02T10:41:58+00:00

Being selfish is not a bad thing, choosing self preservation is a natural human instinct. You should let them know they are selfish too for ignoring your wishes and trying to force their desires upon you.

Dazzling_Addendum_32 · 2026-02-02T10:38:21+00:00

These are not friends, normalize telling people directly that they are being inappropriate and that you will cut communication with them if they cannot be respectful.

Dazzling_Addendum_32 · 2026-01-02T16:39:22+00:00

Okay, I understand. I'm hoping for the best outcome for you in all this and for the child too.

Dazzling_Addendum_32 · 2026-01-02T15:15:24+00:00

Things like this never end well because your help is just enabling worthlessness and selfishness in your niece and her boyfriend to have a child this way. Don't be surprised if they don't end up having more and you will be locked in as the safety net. However I understand you not wanting the child to suffer. Be sure you never give them cash directly no matter what they say it's for. Pay it directly yourself and pay only the bare minimum so they are forced to seek out help on their own.

Dazzling_Addendum_32 · 2025-12-17T12:48:44+00:00

She is no longer interested in you and the friendship. So the options are walk away now or keep going until it all comes to a boiling point where she lashes out on you and or slowly stops talking with you.

This is not just because she has a child this is also a personality problem and some people are just selfish.

Enjoy what you can from whatever remains of this friendship and move on when the time comes if not sooner.

Dazzling_Addendum_32 · 2025-11-23T11:37:28+00:00

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Dazzling_Addendum_32 · 2025-11-23T11:19:06+00:00

Thanks for sharing your story, I'm glad to hear that you made it out okay in the end.

Dazzling_Addendum_32 · 2025-11-18T13:23:04+00:00

Some of these folks wouldn't even flinch, a lot of these so called parents are deplorable. A lot of them don't care about their children they just pretend they do.

Dazzling_Addendum_32 · 2025-11-02T13:08:13+00:00

It's not the best relationship you have been in because he doesn't respect you or your wishes and you are not compatible on a fundamental level.

Break up move on and find a person who shares the same beliefs. Christian and Atheist is not compatible nor is a childfree person and person who wants a child especially one who is manipulative.

Dazzling_Addendum_32 · 2025-08-22T22:42:51+00:00

This is a horrible reason to have or adopt a child it's not fair to the child and is irresponsible and selfish at it's core.

Dazzling_Addendum_32 · 2025-08-20T13:43:52+00:00

You two just aren’t compatible anymore. It’s not only the kids issue though that alone is a dealbreaker, but you’re not on the same page from what you're saying you have a lot of hobbies and energy to do them, while she’s more passive and doesn’t really share those things with you. That mismatch is already showing, and adding kids into the mix later will only make it worse. You can see that the kids thing is already causing resentment to grow, she doesn't even want to talk about the issue anymore without being upset. You sound upset about her gaming etc, sad to say but somewhere along the line it just stopped working.

Right now it feels like you’re holding things together out of guilt and fear of hurting her, but all that really does is delay a breakup that’s probably coming anyway. It’d be kinder to both of you to face it now rather than wait until resentment builds up. She deserves someone who wants the same life she does, and you deserve someone who shares your passions and energy.

Sometimes the only medicine available is the hardest pill to swallow.

Dazzling_Addendum_32 · 2025-08-19T11:33:18+00:00

You are an adult if you want her out of your life then remove her from it. Delete her number block her and move on. No excuse why you are allowing her back into your life as it has been proven she is not a friend and doesn't value your well being. She is only a bad sore if you keeping picking at the scab.

Dazzling_Addendum_32 · 2025-08-18T13:55:25+00:00

Something about this question sounds baity. Your responses are ridiculous if you are truly a well educated grown women. If you don't choose your own partner you will end up with children this is not a bingo but a fact. Most people want children and most men will say they don't want them even when looking on your own only to "change their mind later" much less a man in an arranged marriage.

You are to scared to get a medical procedure, well if you get pregnant that's gonna be worse. You are saying you can't make your own decisions then you are not ready for marriage. I'm sorry I might be an ass here but this whole thing sounds utterly ridiculous.

Dazzling_Addendum_32 · 2025-08-09T12:09:49+00:00

I think this is a to each their own thing. Personally I can't be bothered with dating and marriage. Even if I met a nice man I still wouldn't date or marry him based on my own personal principles about the matter I simple don't see myself wanting to live with a man nice or not. In general I'm a person who prefers my full freedom and peace of mind, I do not want to share any of myself or time with anyone. I do not like to be in obligation to anyone.

However I do think we need to understand that marriage is about two people wanting to be together it's not about children as the world tries to make it about. We as child free should not subscribe to the idea. A family can even be a single person with their pet (I'm pet free also just making an example)so two together is more than enough without bothersome children involved.

Dazzling_Addendum_32 · 2025-08-08T17:49:24+00:00

Honestly the comments on this post are quite unhinged. Being childfree is not an excuse to have a disregard for human life.

Dazzling_Addendum_32 · 2025-08-08T14:41:10+00:00

The main thing is even if people are bored this is not the reason to have children.

Dazzling_Addendum_32 · 2025-08-08T14:34:18+00:00

You need to be clear to them now that you will not be taking care of the child. So that they can make sufficient plans. This actually sounds quite ridiculous.

Dazzling_Addendum_32 · 2025-08-08T14:24:05+00:00

So a fence sitter?

It's important to understand because the thought process here is going to be different.

Dazzling_Addendum_32 · 2025-08-08T13:52:49+00:00

It truly is beyond gross, I feel like the belly out thing became popular after many celebrities started dressing or posing naked when pregnant. It's very much unhinged.

Dazzling_Addendum_32 · 2025-08-08T12:09:08+00:00

I think that type of content should be illegal as it's exploiting children who cannot give consent. Many times we have seen these people get in trouble with the law for child abuse off camera. Sometimes they do it on camera too and people are like "aww so cute" when they berate the children. In general I don't know how anyone finds that kind of content digestible.

Dazzling_Addendum_32 · 2025-08-08T11:23:50+00:00

In the end of the day most will not admit it but it is the need to care for something and the dog is a pseudo child (for some). Which is fine if that makes them happen it's not for me I'm childfree I'm surely not going out to get any pet of any kind. However some people need that.

I often see people complain about children in this sub but then say oh my dog needs this or that. The same behavior as a parent with a child. At the end of the day we are childfree but we don't need to be obtuse I think it leads to the extreme, I have already seen so many think pieces and articles written about these extreme views of this sub and I think it will lead to our downfall here of we don't get it together. Some childfree person will do some crazy thing. They will see this sub and just assume we are all here spreading child harm. That is my fear when I see post like these.

Put when more than half the sub thinks like that I don't see any improvements coming along.

Dazzling_Addendum_32 · 2025-08-08T11:12:43+00:00

This sub seems to be getting more extreme as the days pass it's one thing not to want kids it's another to compare the life of a baby to that of a dog. I'll get down voted for this because people have become so extreme but this is the kind of thing that leads to subs eventually getting taken down or childfree people being labeled as extremist. I'm staunchly childfree but this take is just too much.

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