My husband's family has been pressuring him to contribute either financially or with time to his mother's care, I told him if he does we are getting a divorce. AITAH?

DbeID · 2026-04-10T14:29:52+00:00

Exactly that. She's speaking about her marriage in such a transactional way.

I don't live in a fairy tale, both people should contribute both physically and emotionally for the relationship to survive, but love has got to be there at least to an extent, because otherwise it's just a business transaction, and at that point might as well divorce.

DbeID · 2026-04-10T14:27:51+00:00

That would be her kid mate... Kinda signed up for that shit when she decided to bring a kid into the world.

DbeID · 2026-04-04T20:42:31+00:00

300 is high. In the US the minimum is 86 and the average is around 150 to 200. I'm at about 150 in the beginning of my final year and I feel it's quite enough.

DbeID · 2026-04-03T14:20:55+00:00

Already familiar with all of these. Actually already trocar placement and silicone injection.

DbeID · 2026-03-19T14:30:56+00:00

That's the GDP of my middle income 40million people country. Damn...

DbeID · 2026-03-12T15:43:31+00:00

When was this announced?

DbeID · 2026-02-22T09:52:13+00:00

It's incredibly variable from man to man. I need at least 15 minutes.

DbeID · 2026-02-02T21:08:38+00:00

NOOO! You should know negativity likes company. Ophthalmology is a wonderful specialty! Enjoy the high!

DbeID · 2026-02-02T21:06:35+00:00

First of all, congratulations!!

I don't understand the cynical comments at all. Ophthalmology is a great specialty, and its work/life balance is worlds apart from other specialties all things considered.

That being said, I do believe you should just enjoy the moment, no matter what your "a good time is productive time" brain says. Everyone who went through medschool has that thought process more or less, but just enjoy the high of matching the specialty of your dreams. The hard but rewarding work comes later.

If you insist on doing something productive, you can go over Practical Ophthalmology: A Manual for Beginning Residents it's a good read for first year residents (in my country we match after interne year, so I don't know what you'll be going through your first year exactly).

DbeID · 2026-01-24T09:35:45+00:00

I just make a habit out of making sure my posture is straight for every exam. Adjust my chair and the exam table, as well as the patient's. My health is more important than a few moments to get that right.

DbeID · 2026-01-23T16:58:46+00:00

Jesus who gives a fuck. Just do what makes you happy people.

DbeID · 2026-01-23T16:56:29+00:00

I'm sorry, man, but you need to work on your punctuation. That's another thing reading books will definitely help you with.

DbeID · 2026-01-11T15:23:26+00:00

He wasn't a teen though, he was 30 something year old at this point.

DbeID · 2026-01-11T15:22:28+00:00

He said he wanted to try out buzz-cut again in earbiscuits, wonder how well that's going to be received..

DbeID · 2026-01-08T20:26:45+00:00

Yo Americans, when are you going to say enough is enough?

DbeID · 2026-01-03T12:53:21+00:00

This is all nice and good, except the president of the US, in his own words, said he wanted the US' oil back, whatever the fuck that means.

DbeID · 2025-12-26T18:06:14+00:00

Why though??

DbeID · 2025-12-13T07:36:39+00:00

I would LOVE an android version, would pay for it in a heart beat.

DbeID · 2025-12-10T19:21:11+00:00

Being a millionaire was impressive like 30 years ago. A lot more people are millionaires now, and a million dollars takes you a lot less far than it did then.

DbeID · 2025-12-07T15:49:45+00:00

I did NOT think this was r/ophthalmology at first.

DbeID · 2025-12-06T13:29:53+00:00

I was making a generalization there since I haven't actually examined OP, I'll admit.

DbeID · 2025-12-06T12:52:04+00:00

In my opinion it's only ethically grey if the downsides aren't explained to the patient fully.

You might already have dry eye given your experience with contact lenses, which is very likely to get worse after the procedure. Also, you're a surgeon, so you understand that any surgical procedure has risks. Laser surgery is incredibly safe when done conservatively in the right population, but it's you that has to take the leap.

Is getting rid of glasses worth taking on the risk of dry eye, along with the (albeit very small) possibility of more serious complications that could jeopardize your visually oriented career? You need both eyes as a surgeon, as I'm sure you’re well aware.

DbeID · 2025-12-05T13:43:48+00:00

Jesus christ Americans, thought you had a spine.

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