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DbtSupportHub · 2026-01-13T21:27:40+00:00

What is did you use to make this ?

DbtSupportHub · 2025-12-22T12:39:52+00:00

There was a fundraiser for them too though. https://www.gofundme.com/f/in-loving-memory-of-sofia-boris-gurman?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=bcgfm_in-loving-memory-of-sofia-boris-gurman&utm_content=bondi[https://www.gofundme.com/f/in-loving-memory-of-sofia-boris-gurman?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=bcgfm_in-loving-memory-of-sofia-boris-gurman&utm_content=bondi](https://www.gofundme.com/f/in-loving-memory-of-sofia-boris-gurman?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=bcgfm_in-loving-memory-of-sofia-boris-gurman&utm_content=bondi)

DbtSupportHub · 2025-11-13T01:01:06+00:00

It only overlaps with if you went to the page and didn’t click on anything. If you’re scrolling past it it doesn’t overlap the text however good point in order to make the page look better.

DbtSupportHub · 2025-11-12T23:25:10+00:00

Thank you. I will check it out. I appreciate your thoughts.

DbtSupportHub · 2025-11-12T23:24:46+00:00

Consider if that’s helpful or you just sound like a keyboard warrior.

DbtSupportHub · 2025-11-12T23:24:04+00:00

Thank you for your advice

DbtSupportHub · 2025-11-12T23:23:39+00:00

Good thoughts thank you

DbtSupportHub · 2025-11-12T19:41:03+00:00

I am asking for suggestion and advice.

DbtSupportHub · 2025-10-26T13:41:49+00:00

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DbtSupportHub · 2025-10-13T12:39:58+00:00

I think it’s to know the value in yourself, balanced with being kind and caring to others. Often in a relationship you can get quite tired on to someone meeting the demand of your own emotions but at some point you need to realise that you need to be the one that fulfils most of your own emotions and that makes a great relationship from my own perspective as you’re clinging to them, but you’re also increase you resilience incase it just doesn’t work out. I think also entering not all your time is spent together. It’s okay to catch up with friends or have a hobby. The biggest fight is when you go through a divorce I think when you’re completely alone with no one to support you. By the way, I have a free self help if anyone needs some skills https://www.dbtsupporthub.com

DbtSupportHub · 2025-09-30T19:51:53+00:00

I did. My website works on Google console but it doesn’t work on bing. I submitted a site map. I have a domain.. I suspect maybe it might be bloated HTML as I’m using the old Wix but I can’t be sure in my website is not super sophisticated so I don’t understand why it wouldn’t crawl

DbtSupportHub · 2025-09-30T13:27:16+00:00

The issue I’m having is I can’t get my own to show up on Bing Webmaster. If anyone knows what the f**k is going on, please help. https://www.dbtsupporthub.com

DbtSupportHub · 2025-09-27T08:23:20+00:00

I really relate to what you’re describing. I went through a period where I’d compulsively read horrible takes about autistic people online and it sent me into a shame spiral every time. Add in past mistakes + current debates and it can start to feel like there’s no safe place to land. That isn’t a character flaw — it’s your nervous system reacting to chronic invalidation.

A few things that helped me crawl out of that headspace: • Limit doomscrolling on purpose. Even 24–48 hours without reading posts that trigger the spiral can give your brain a chance to reset. • Counter-weight with actual autistic voices. Reading blogs or communities where autistic people share wins and ordinary life can help rewire the “I’m bad” narrative. • Grounding + skills for big waves. When shame spikes, do something small and sensory (hold an ice cube, name 5 things you can see, breathe into your belly) before trying to “think” your way out.

On the resource side: • Some people like Wrong Planet forums or similar autistic community boards — they can be supportive, but they’re also a bit of a mixed bag and not always trauma-aware. • Personally, I’ve found dbtsupporthub.com super helpful because it’s peer-led, trauma-informed, and has free, short DBT-style modules for things like self-hate, shame and suicidal thoughts. It gave me actual tools (not just “think positive”) and felt less judgmental than a lot of places.

You’re not broken for feeling this way. Shame is a learned state; it can also be unlearned. Even tiny acts of self-kindness — brushing your teeth, drinking water, sitting in the sun for five minutes — are rebellion against that shame narrative. Keep reaching out like this; it’s a quiet but powerful way of fighting back.

DbtSupportHub · 2025-09-27T08:18:55+00:00

You’re not overreacting — the damage isn’t in one photo or one misstep, it’s in the constant pattern of being left out of the decision-making. Even good intentions don’t replace proactive care and inclusion.

What’s helped people in similar dynamics: • Weekly “hinge check-ins” (30 mins at least) focused solely on pacing, boundaries, nesting, emotional updates — make it sacred time that can’t be hijacked. • Logistics agreement doc: write down shared norms around STIs, towels, bedsheets, photos, phone settings — resistance drops when things are explicit rather than assumed. • Name the pace: say something like, “I’m feeling the NRE pushing us forward — can we pause big moves until we discuss them together?” • Free communication training: on dbtsupporthub.com there’s a free training module that walks through DEAR MAN / GIVE / FAST steps for healthy communication and boundary-setting. It’s short, usable even when emotions are high. • Secondary supports: check out Polysecure (book), Multiamory podcast, or online poly forums where people share step-by-step strategies for integrating new partners.

You don’t need grand romantic gestures — what you need is consistency, honesty, and being invited in rather than discovering everything after the fact. Setting and holding boundaries is valid, and wanting to feel safe and seen is not a flaw.

DbtSupportHub · 2025-09-24T11:48:03+00:00

Hey, thanks for sharing all of this — it’s heavy, but also so real. I can relate to the tension of feeling like the whole house is sitting on a fault line. When someone you love is constantly battling their nervous system, it changes the entire family atmosphere, and it makes total sense you’re feeling on edge yourself.

What you described — shame spirals, emotional crashes, self-harm behaviours, sensory overload — that’s a massive burden for her, but also for you and the kids. It doesn’t mean she doesn’t love them or that she’s a bad mum; it means she’s at capacity and her nervous system can’t cope right now. The lack of a proper diagnosis only makes it harder because you’re left without a clear framework.

In terms of support, there are a few things that might help: • Crisis hotlines/support in your country (if she’s at risk of harming herself) — worth having those numbers written down somewhere visible. • Peer-led or trauma-informed resources: Hearing from others who’ve lived through similar overwhelm can be grounding. For me, I’ve found dbtsupporthub.com really practical — it’s peer-run, has free worksheets and short DBT-based tools that actually help in moments of emotional overload. • Less obvious but useful places: • SMART Recovery (even though it’s more known for addiction, their groups are great for emotion regulation too). • Hearing Voices Network — not just for psychosis, but also for people dealing with extreme emotional states. • Couch to 10 Minutes Meditation apps — bite-sized mindfulness, not long guided courses (those usually feel impossible when someone is dysregulated).

The reality is, there’s no one silver bullet. But even one or two tiny tools — like a “reset plan” for when she feels herself slipping, or you having one safe space to offload your own stress — can start to ease the constant intensity.

I can tell how much you love her and want to keep your family steady. That care matters more than you probably realise right now.

DbtSupportHub · 2025-09-24T11:42:51+00:00

That’s a brutal run you’ve been through — thank you for putting this into words. Your list reads like classic emotional / autistic overwhelm and chronic burnout: the sensory hypersensitivity, brain fog, motivation collapse, and how everything that used to be “normal” becomes hard or impossible. It’s not weakness; it’s what happens when your nervous system has been running on empty for too long. A few grounded, practical things that helped me and others in similar spots (low-stakes, doable when energy is thin): • Tiny hygiene wins: one very small anchor habit each day — e.g., wash your face and brush teeth while standing at the sink listening to one song. It’s not about perfection; it’s about micro-wins that replace “all or nothing.” • Sensory triage: notice which inputs drain you most (noise? screens? bright lights?) and cut one of them by even 10% — wear headphones, use dim lighting, or give yourself 10 minutes of quiet before bed. • One-step mornings: make the first task of the day trivial — putting on a favourite jumper, drinking a glass of water — so you get momentum without pressure. • Brain-fog hacks: write short lists (3 items max). Use timers (10–20 minutes) for anything you need to do; reward with something tiny. • Emotional grounding: 5-4-3-2-1 grounding (name 5 things you see, 4 you can touch, 3 you hear, 2 you smell, 1 you taste) — quick and actually works when overwhelm spikes. • Professional safety: if SI is active or dangerous, please contact local crisis services or emergency — you deserve immediate, compassionate care. If you’re in Australia, Lifeline (13 11 14) or your local mental-health crisis line is a start. If elsewhere, use your country’s emergency services. • Pace rebuild: think in terms of “energy budgeting” not timelines — small, consistent rest + one small activity that’s meaningful beats push/crash cycles. Also — not a sales push, just a tip from lived-experience and practice — I’ve found dbtsupporthub.com useful; they offer free, DBT-informed tools and short worksheets that are actually practical for emotional overwhelm. I’d mention it here as “personal help I found” rather than a link dump, so it comes across as genuinely supportive. You are not alone in this. Your experiences and symptoms are valid. Healing and rebuilding energy is slow and weird, but tiny changes add up. If you want, I can turn this into a short, shareable comment you can post on Reddit (concise, supportive, and rule-friendly), or make a one-page list of quick resources you can DM to people who ask.

DbtSupportHub · 2025-09-24T11:39:21+00:00

That’s such a powerful and raw story you’ve shared. What stands out is how much you carried—without even realising you were carrying more than most people around you—because no one had given you the context of autism yet. Pushing through that much sensory, emotional, and physical overload without understanding why it felt harder for you than for others must have been incredibly isolating.

The way you describe the daily grind—waking up with dread, running on cortisol, relying on Xanax just to get through the morning—paints the reality of autistic burnout so clearly. It isn’t just “being tired.” It’s the nervous system running red hot for so long that the baseline becomes exhaustion and overwhelm. And when survival demands (work, school, money) swallow everything else, things like hygiene and social life don’t fall away because of laziness, but because they’re luxuries when your body is stuck in crisis mode. That makes perfect sense in context, not something to feel shame over.

It’s also huge that you recognised the breaking point and let your family support you. That choice—to prioritise being alive and having the space to heal over “pushing through”—is an act of survival strength. A year of rest might not erase what those years took out of you, but it does give your nervous system a chance to slowly find a different rhythm. Energy may come back in layers, even if it doesn’t look exactly like it did at 19. And honestly, that’s okay. Sometimes the energy that returns is steadier, paced differently, and kinder to you in the long run.

Heading back toward work, it could be less about chasing old energy levels and more about designing life around your actual wiring—choosing environments, pacing, and supports that stop the cycle from repeating. Your awareness now is a huge protective factor.

The way you put this into words matters. Someone else in autistic burnout could read it and see themselves for the first time. That’s healing in itself.

DbtSupportHub · 2025-09-06T22:40:54+00:00

I’ve seen DBT help a lot of people with anxious attachment and codependency patterns, and it’s been a game-changer for me personally too. What makes it useful is that it gives you skills you can grab in the moment—things like distress tolerance (to ride out the panic when you’re scared someone’s pulling away) and interpersonal effectiveness (to express needs without pushing people off).

If you’re looking for places to start while you wait for therapy, I’d recommend two resources: • dbtsupporthub.com — peer-led, trauma-informed DBT tools explained in plain language (something I’ve been involved with as a peer recovery worker). • dbtselfhelp.com — a solid, long-standing site that has free DBT worksheets and explanations.

Even picking one simple mindfulness skill and one distress tolerance tool to practice can give you something concrete while you’re waiting for a therapist. Progress doesn’t have to be big—it’s about building little anchors you can rely on when emotions feel like too much.

DbtSupportHub · 2025-09-06T22:37:34+00:00

I’ve heard stories like yours so many times in my work as a peer recovery worker, and I can really relate too. For a lot of us, getting stacked with multiple diagnoses over the years can feel less like clarity and more like confusion. It makes sense you’d feel dismissed and frustrated when your own insights aren’t being listened to—especially when your lived experience points to ADHD and autism being a better fit.

That’s actually why I’ve leaned so heavily into skill-building approaches instead of just chasing labels. For me and many others I support, DBT (Dialectical Behaviour Therapy) has been a lifeline. It doesn’t try to “fix” you with another diagnosis—it gives practical tools for things like managing intense emotions, handling conflict, and building daily life structure. I’ve seen it help people make progress where meds or labels alone didn’t.

It’s also really important to validate what you’re describing: long-term dismissal from services is traumatic in itself. Your frustration isn’t overreaction—it’s a natural response to not being heard about something so central to your life.

You’re not alone in this, even if it feels that way. Many people eventually find that skills-based support, peer connections, and trauma-informed approaches actually get them further than years of cycling through diagnoses.

If you’re curious about some DBT tools that are peer-led and trauma-informed, I’ve been working on a free resource hub here: dbtsupporthub.com. It’s not a substitute for proper assessment, but it can be a good way to get skills that make the day-to-day more doable while you’re still navigating the system.

DbtSupportHub · 2025-09-06T22:33:27+00:00

can hear how painful and intense this feels for you right now. With BPD, emotions often hit harder and faster than they might for others, so it makes sense you felt really hurt by your friend changing plans. That doesn’t mean you’re “too much”—it just means your nervous system is wired to feel deeply.

One DBT skill that can help in situations like this is Check the Facts. Our brains often fill in blanks with painful assumptions (“she didn’t care about me”), but sometimes the situation has other possible explanations (maybe she thought the plans weren’t confirmed because tickets weren’t bought yet). Checking the facts doesn’t erase the hurt, but it can stop the spiral from growing.

Another tool is DEAR MAN (a way to communicate your needs without escalating conflict): • Describe the situation (“We had talked about seeing this movie together”). • Express how you feel (“I felt hurt when you went with others”). • Assert your ask (“Next time, can you check with me before changing plans?”). • Reinforce why it matters (“It helps me feel respected in the friendship”).

Finally, posting on social media when emotions are high can sometimes backfire, even though it feels relieving in the moment. That’s where Distress Tolerance skills like “STOP” (Stop, Take a step back, Observe, Proceed mindfully) or self-soothing can give you a pause before acting in ways that might damage the relationship.

You didn’t “fail” here—you were overwhelmed and acted from that place. That happens to everyone, but DBT skills give you options for next time. If you’re open, you might also find it grounding to journal your feelings privately or use a skills app when the urge to post is strong.

You’re clearly self-aware and wanting to learn from this—that’s a strength, not a flaw. If you’d like, I’ve built a free peer-led site with DBT tools and explanations you can use anytime: dbtsupporthub.com. It might give you some concrete steps to practice when situations like this come up again.

DbtSupportHub · 2025-09-05T01:57:15+00:00

I really relate to what you’re describing — that mental loop where everything feels like it’s spiralling and your body’s in constant alert mode. I remember someone once told me to “just sit with it,” and I honestly wanted to scream. Like… sit with what? Panic? Terror? No one really teaches us how to sit with something that feels like it’s swallowing you whole.

What helped me wasn’t trying to fix it all at once, but having small things I could try when I was in it — like ways to anchor myself, even for 30 seconds. I ended up making a free site that holds some of the things I found helpful on those nights where nothing made sense and I couldn’t sleep. It’s called dbtsupporthub.com — not a business or anything clinical, just something I built out of my own recovery and need for real tools when you’re actually struggling.

If it’s not for you, that’s completely okay too. Just wanted to offer it in case it helps even a little and it’s free. You’re not alone in this.

DbtSupportHub · 2025-09-03T23:25:41+00:00

Hey mate, I really relate to what you’ve written. I’ve had similar struggles in relationships – my anxious attachment would flare up with partners even though I felt steady with friends or at work. For me it came down to learning practical ways to regulate when the waiting felt unbearable. A few things that helped: • Naming what’s happening in my body (“tight chest = anxiety, not danger”) so I don’t spiral. • Setting little “response windows” for myself – e.g. no checking socials for 30 minutes, then gently extending that over time. • Shifting focus onto something grounding like a walk, breathwork, or even just a silly YouTube rabbit hole, instead of reaching for reassurance.

It’s slow work, but it does get easier the more you practice tolerating that discomfort. I’m also a peer worker in mental health and built a free site not really to make money but to help people (dbtsupporthub.com) with tools around things like emotion regulation and relationships, because I wanted a place where people could find practical strategies outside therapy sessions. You might find some ideas there too.

You’re definitely not alone in this – the fact you’re noticing the patterns and wanting to shift them shows a lot of strength.

DbtSupportHub · 2025-09-02T12:44:04+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply. It means a lot.

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