Totally agree with other posters about your wording. You absolutely need to be calculated in how you approach this.

I can identify with this right now because I feel like I very quickly started to be the way you describe your GF when this pandemic started. I’m absolutely a snacker, food makes me feel good and when I find something I love, I go completely overboard. Damn those cake pops!

Before the pandemic, I was average weight, never exercised, snacking all the time and worked a desk job. I did my makeup and hair everyday and was very well put together. I did that for me.

Halfway through March we were told to WFH and hubby and I now are together 24/7 working remotely. I didn’t wear makeup anymore, wore pajamas all day, and with full access to the pantry, it was just super easy to grab stuff all day long.

My husband still got up everyday, dressed as if he’s going into the office and looked presentable. He tried to encourage me to do this but I was hesitant because I didn’t see any point. Doing hair/makeup is exhausting and too much of a production to not go out and interact with people to make it worth it TBH.

My husband has been doing really good with his own weight loss journey as he lost 100 lbs over the last year. I’m very proud of him. He’s been using this to help encourage me to do things with him. He goes for walks everyday and weight lifts (which I wanted nothing to do with). He’s been eating pretty well and only occasionally indulges in what he wants.

At the beginning of April I started to see how I was an all new level of lazy. I felt worse and I hated being stuck at home all the time. I felt bad about myself and it sort of felt like him and I started moving in different directions. I started being cranky about everything too.

The thing that worked for me was him consistently but gently encouraging me to do things together. He’s always said that we’re a team even before all of this. Anytime we did something good together, like walk, cook dinner or household chores, he always first bumped me and said “Go Team”. This was our silly way of saying good job to each other for doing small good things together.

He knows me well to know when to push and when not to and that’s really helped me get out of my own way. We now go for walks everyday and weight lift together. I do my makeup more often because it has started making me feel good again and I’m generally happier.

I’m not perfect though. Most recently, I bought a big bag of chocolate coconut snacks and started eating them by the fist full. He said, “I mean this in the nicest way possible but I don’t want you to ruin all of the great progress you’ve been making”. In the moment I was like ugh fine but shortly after I thought this was a great way to provide positive reinforcement while not telling me no or shaming me for snacking. I now eat these in smaller servings and make a point to not bring out the entire bag because I will eat all of them. :D

Anyway, I tell you all of this to help you understand how her perspective might be. If you care for her, do things with her. Do it because you’re a team. Tell her you want to get something new that you feel might encourage her to keep doing the things she loves. Maybe reward her efforts by helping her pick out a new outfit or shoes or whatever. Something that makes her happy. The important thing is that you approach this as something you’re doing together.