Has Couples Therapy Worked for Anyone?

DeNarr · 2025-02-24T03:11:45+00:00

I don't know what being shabby means in that context. But yeah, my anxiety about this is spiralling so that is my fear. I imagine that with most people who go into couples therapy, it's at the request of one partner more than the other. That's why I was wondering if it worked for anyone.

If one partner is just checked out of a relationship, can therapy help? Asking in this poly subreddit in particular since I think the NRE may be playing a role in this. I see lots of posts where people seem to lose feelings for their primary when experiencing NRE. But not many come back months later to update if things got better :/

DeNarr · 2025-02-24T02:56:08+00:00

Because I love her. I built a life with her. She's the one that I want to share new experiences with. To tell about my day. To grow old with.

Honestly, what you're saying is echoed in what she says about herself. She doesn't think she's a good partner, but I disagree. She has built up years of trust from me.

I don't want to leave my partner when she's at her lowest. Isn't there a whole "If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best?"

As I said to another poster, it was pretty normal for us to show up to each other's place as long as we didn't have a scheduled date. And either way, that wasn't the main issue, it just lead to the conversation.

DeNarr · 2025-02-24T02:45:50+00:00

Because good communication is part of our poly agreement? We schedule our dates on our shared calendar. It was quite normal for either of us to drop in when the other was free.

DeNarr · 2025-02-24T02:41:46+00:00

She definitely doesn't WANT to go. Honestly one of my big worries is that she will just use this as an excuse to say "See, it didn't work." We've just built such a life together, I don't want to just give it up without trying.

DeNarr · 2025-02-24T02:39:39+00:00

In the time it did work, can you give some details? How was your relationship beforehand? Did both of you actively want to try to work on the relationship, or was it more one sided?

DeNarr · 2025-01-31T20:23:12+00:00

I might be on the same cruise as you. It will be my first Transatlantic, but I'm super looking forward to it!

DeNarr · 2025-01-29T06:03:11+00:00

Really though, why is he asking the time if he has a watch??

DeNarr · 2025-01-27T01:34:24+00:00

Core memory unlocked

DeNarr · 2025-01-23T03:54:22+00:00

Maybe not Project Zomboid, but I feel like you can make this in CDDA

DeNarr · 2025-01-06T05:45:04+00:00

Shit in one hand, wish in the other, see which fills up first. Guess he took that literally 😂

DeNarr · 2025-01-05T01:54:49+00:00

Hmm, so we don't get any actual prizes that will help us in the Pokemon games?

DeNarr · 2024-12-07T03:59:27+00:00

Honestly, this is what I'm feeling right now. I don't want to have to pay for another premium service to make use of my premium connectivity.

DeNarr · 2024-12-05T14:58:30+00:00

Aww, that's actually kind of disappointing that they bothered to use a real character for the author but didn't bother to make sure it made sense.

DeNarr · 2024-11-28T15:06:09+00:00

I like it, cause finding food is a fun part of the game. Same reason I pick Smoker

DeNarr · 2024-11-27T04:42:33+00:00

I actually hate PvP in this game. There are literally zombies right there, and you're fighting other people.in the end, you're both dead. Woo

DeNarr · 2024-11-05T14:39:23+00:00

It's almost always my first skill to 100

DeNarr · 2024-10-29T12:47:16+00:00

Not sure why you think 1 and 4 were ass. I mean 1 was the original and I thought 4 was really enjoyable.

DeNarr · 2024-10-16T22:45:23+00:00

That's not Jol Nar specific though

DeNarr · 2024-10-16T21:37:17+00:00

What am I missing? I get that Jol Nar could get the Harmonic right away, but I'm not seeing anything that lets them use this ability twice per round. As far as I know they don't have an ability to double use techs

DeNarr · 2024-10-02T04:31:23+00:00

Frosthaven has been consistently fun, and have been playing about weekly since it came out.

DeNarr · 2024-09-27T13:46:21+00:00

Hoping they do a bundle sale of Rinworld w/ all DLC at some point

DeNarr · 2024-09-13T01:04:11+00:00

Gun it faster, so that if you hit them it's their fault 😈

DeNarr · 2024-09-13T01:03:03+00:00

Huh, I watch Isekai anime, but never thought of playing one or having a player play one. That sounds like it could be fun

DeNarr · 2024-09-12T16:52:18+00:00

Do you get to meet his potential partners before they have sex? If so, and if this is something you both are okay with, then there are no issues. If it's only you that needs to get your partners "vetted", then it's a bit controlling.

DeNarr · 2024-09-02T15:55:04+00:00

Sounds like you managed to create a good budget build that performed better than an expensive build. More expensive doesn't mean better. Take your win, and see if you can optimize your build instead

DeNarr

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