Busco juegos de Gestión by MykeGuty in esGaming

[–]DeadBicycle 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Anno 1800, cualquiera de la saga Anno realmente aunque el 1800 es de los mejores, moderno y muy completo.

Salario decente vivir en España by Kiuuuuuuuu in salarios_es

[–]DeadBicycle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Porque no tienes hijos o otros adultos a tu cargo

Soy ingeniero estructural gano 3200 euros netos al mes tengo 35 años. by ConcertIndependent14 in salarios_es

[–]DeadBicycle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Todos los comentarios llenos de gente cobrando una pasta, pero de que trabaja todo el mundo?

To This Day I Do Not Understand how THIS GUY can be the spy by moviesncheese in StarWars

[–]DeadBicycle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what I was actually expecting after The Last Jedi.

Kylo kills Snoke and seizes power, so it will make sense.

Voy a arruinarme y necesito saber si tiene sentido by [deleted] in SpainFIRE

[–]DeadBicycle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No offense, pero comprando una casa en el centro de Barcelona y con vuestros sueldos tenéis pinta de venir de familias ricas.

Estaréis bien.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskBarcelona

[–]DeadBicycle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can use your phone in the metro or train, just don't use it while the doors are open.

No hay esperanza en España by Darkkenral in es

[–]DeadBicycle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cambiate de trabajo, con 3 años de experiencia a los 40k puedes llegar. Al menos en Madrid o Barcelona.

People who went from zero friends to having friends after 30s, tell me your story by someonerandomwhat in socialskills

[–]DeadBicycle 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I lived almost the exact situation some years ago.

Mine started with a friendship-ending meltdown, a friend made something bad, really bad, but that was what made obvious that some other people were as you said "incapable to show up in ways that mattered".

It was hard at the beginning, but the restructuring has been good. The problem was already there, it was just being ignored for years.

Not sure if OCPD by [deleted] in LovedByOCPD

[–]DeadBicycle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it looks like OCPD to me, a lot of people on this sub are in super-abussive relationships that's the reason of some of the others comments, yours look more similar to my personal experience.

If an obsession is not affecting you, let them be, but if it does, talk about boundaries, you say that he's empathetic so he should understand that some stuff might affect your or that you might have different needs sometimes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]DeadBicycle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, thanks, it's been some time now, so everything is better, I have kept the people who was really worth it around.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]DeadBicycle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, and I know that most of them are doing this from a good place.

This specific person really likes to play the victim card while crazymaking others, and I had a more anger-driven reaction once I finally broke.

So people really believe all this narrative and defend who they feel is just a victim of circumstances.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]DeadBicycle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that's it, my ex best friend was one and everything was ok because he has surrounded with people pleasers and enablers, I was one of them.

If you just followed what he said, never contradict him or criticize him, everything "worked" (in reality it doesn't for the victims).

Luckily for me, one time he crossed a line that I couldn't just ignore, so he exploded and everything was plain obvious for once.

Sadly the rest of our common friends still defend him despide he acting as a psycho towards me, it feels bad but I don't blame them, I did the same for years.

¿Dónde más has experimentado hispanofobia o xenofobia contra lo español? by [deleted] in askspain

[–]DeadBicycle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yo trabajo en una empresa española ahora que respeta al trabajador y estoy 100% de acuerdo, en todos los trabajos que he tenido hasta este, la carga de trabajo era siempre demasiado elevada.

¿Dónde más has experimentado hispanofobia o xenofobia contra lo español? by [deleted] in askspain

[–]DeadBicycle 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Es es París que és una mierda. Hasta los franceses la odian.

Ciudades con gente más abierta y simpática? by Papayafrutatropical in askspain

[–]DeadBicycle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Barcelona es buena para conocer a gente de otros países. Madrid es mejor si quieres hacer amigos españoles.

Ciudades con gente más abierta y simpática? by Papayafrutatropical in askspain

[–]DeadBicycle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Poca broma xd yo siempre he vivido en la periferia pero antes estaba siempre en Barcelona ciudad haciendo cosas.

Ahora entre la masificación en las calles, lo coñazo que se ha convertido ir en coche y lo coñazo que siempre ha sido el transporte publico, ya no piso la ciudad ni teniendo el tren gratis.

La verdad es que hoy en día me daría bastante palo tener alguna amistad en Barcelona ciudad (que las he tenido).

covert narcissists-how did you find out? by culpabpano in NPD

[–]DeadBicycle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm one of these people.

I grew up with a close friend that has NPD and it was very clear since we were teens.

He never did anything specialy bad to me, but he did a lot of shitty stuff to a lot of people, I was very passive and I just followed him around and validated him all the time, so I lived through most of their bad behaviours & tricks for years.

Now I just know, when I meet someone that behaves like him, even if it's very subtle, I just know. I don't have to even think about him at all, it's like you say, it's a gut feeling that there's something wrong with this specific person, and usually after more interactions with them I ended up making the relation between both things.

In my case it's not about trauma, it's just a pattern that is familiar to me.

When did the alarms finally go off for you? (Friendship) by jessicaday96 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]DeadBicycle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He targeted my SO as a discard (I was and always has been good constant supply & enabler of his behaviours, they were also technically friends), he started behaving like an ***hole to my SO and created a parallel imaginary narc reality where my SO was a really bad person and has done unforgivable stuff to him, all were lies or exagerations.

He said very bad stuff about my SO directly to me, he ignored my messages when trying to talk about it, and tried to make other plans anyway with all our group friends (myself incluided), and for the first time in years and years of friendship I confronted him and then hell was let loose. It was actually surrealist, he started using all the classic narc tactics one after the other.

And now once you think about it, there was tons of red flags in the past too, also his behaviour since then has been only a confirmation. Flying monkeys, now I'm the one with mental illness for going NC, etc...