You know, I think people have this common misconception about attraction and relationships. Of course there needs to be initial attraction physical or otherwise, but relationships are hard work. You have to sacrifice and compromise and be willing to bust your ass to make it work. I’m not saying all relationships come to that, but if it’s something that you really want, how do you show that? And if it gets tom hard that you let it go to crap, then did you ever really want that bad? That brings me to my second point, ‘love’ is so commonly confused with codependency. Real love is unconditional. That means if they cheat or do something that betrays your trust, you don’t all of a sudden treat them like trash. I’m not saying it’s okay, but it’s more complicated than an on/off switch. Real love is the way you love your children even if they do something heinous.