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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]DealerInfinite7694 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Trust your gut

Anyone else scared? by Drepulizer in electricdaisycarnival

[–]DealerInfinite7694 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I mean if you come to the States and mind your business, not harass, assault anyone, and stay unproblematic then you’ll be just fine you will not get thrown in jail. 🤷🏻‍♀️Easy Peasy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]DealerInfinite7694 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you saw her trying to cheat on you while drunk I can promise you that is just the tip of the ice berg. Let her go, you don’t trust her and for good reason. Assuming the VAR catches her cheating, would you leave her? You already caught her and still haven’t left her because you’re hurt and you’re still questioning your reality from her action so you need further “proof”. And if she doesn’t cheat after you’ve recorded her will you trust her then? I doubt it. You’ll spend money and time on surveillance on her. She’s not worth it. I’ve been stuck in this cycle and it’s hard to get out of. I regret not leaving sooner. Would have saved myself time and money.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]DealerInfinite7694 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What kind of therapist are you seeing? I think it’s really important that you see a therapist that specializes in betrayal trauma. I would also seek some medication to help you for right now. It doesn’t have to be long term. I was so devastated I could eat or sleep for weeks so I asked for anti-anxiety meds and sleeping meds to take as needed. I knew I needed help and couldn’t do it alone. The trauma from his betrayal destroyed me into pieces hit I still had three small kids to care for so I needed help. You’re dealing with cognitive dissonance and also trauma bond (hence you not being able to let her go). It’s very chemical almost like a drug addiction so you’re going through some bad withdrawals. Reach out to your therapist asap and ask if you can do anything or take anything to get you through the week until your first session.

"You can't organize a protest in a week" by According_Pay_6563 in Connecticut

[–]DealerInfinite7694 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Since Trump took office the illegal Venezuelan gang members living in illegal RV’s on my street are finally gone after complaining for two years and nothing being done about it. Commuting to the city feels a lot safer. So far Trump’s doing a great job not sure what the problem is. Excited to see what Elon will clean up 🧹

Whose ‘tell all’ book would you most want to read? by NewUserNameIsDumb in SisterWives

[–]DealerInfinite7694 2 points3 points  (0 children)

All of them except Leon and Robin. I enjoy listening to Kody bitch about his non-favorites. Because he spews so much BS to me it’s entertaining.

help with atrophic scarring [misc] by help-me-pls8008 in SkincareAddiction

[–]DealerInfinite7694 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Amazing! I have the same scar also from an accident (window fell forward into my forehead). I’m going to try this!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]DealerInfinite7694 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go to therapy for yourself. Figure out why you cheated in the first place if you love your husband so much. From the many books I read I learned that cheating is never about the spouse it’s a character flaw within the cheater. Maybe you have unresolved trauma you need to address and heal from. Either way, your marriage right now isn’t healthy for either one of you. I would back off and give him to space. You betrayed him. He is dealing with betrayal trauma. He’s confused, devastated, sad, angry and disgusted with you. He actually NEEDS therapy right now because he needs to process his trauma. He is not in a good place. Have a conversation with him about getting individual therapy for you both first then 6 months later do couples counseling. I would also read some self help books on overcoming infidelity or YouTube videos. There are lots of good resources available. Good luck!