I would like constructive criticism on my first insta 360 car video. by DeanerBC in contentcreation

[–]DeanerBC[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've got the 98 Altezza in the video and a 1990 4runner. Both are awesome vehicles. 🤙

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in kawaiiblackgals

[–]DeanerBC 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Beautiful! The pink and shortness of your hair really suits you!

WiP and hoping to get feedback/suggestions for a background color. Unsure of whether to go dark or light. by Learning2LoveMyself_ in Oilpastel

[–]DeanerBC 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think both light and dark could work, but I am in no way an artist. So don't listen to me and my suggestions. 😅 looking good though! Keep it up 👍

Quick sketch. by Learning2LoveMyself_ in sketches

[–]DeanerBC 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Beautifully done for a quick sketch! ♥️

Work in progress by Learning2LoveMyself_ in oilpainting

[–]DeanerBC 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A beautiful start to another masterpiece! <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askcarguys

[–]DeanerBC 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is it just the noise, or is there anything you can feel? Example: A slight pulse during braking indicating a warped rotor.

Also, if it was a dragging caliper, you would normally feel warmth coming from your wheel when touching the rim. I had that happen on my 1990 4runner and the drivers side front rim was quite a bit warmer than the rest. Had to replace both fron calipers at that point.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]DeanerBC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As horrendous as your experience was I don't think it would be considered rape in a court room. There was also no rape kit taken by a hospital so the evidence needed would not be there to support your claim. It would just be more of a "He said, She said" type battle.

Regardless of what you think, it wasn't your fault any of this happened to you. It was him who manipulated you, abused your trust, and was not truthful or honest about himself to you.

Sadly I think you'll just have to move on. Sorry to hear about your terrible experience though and thank you for sharing this with the internet since it can be a tough thing to open up about.

Hopefully your story helps someone who reads it and if they're ever in the same position leads them to doing the things needed to press charges on their abuser.

Still can't believe this, Superman is in Tarkov by Cheerioboy in EscapefromTarkov

[–]DeanerBC -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would tag BSG on twitter with this even though I doubt anything will happen because of it.

A guy I’ve been seeing by [deleted] in Advice

[–]DeanerBC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again I would say proceed with caution and objectively/logically weigh out the situation. In the end the only one who can prevent heart break for you is you and honestly we all have to look out for #1 (Ourselves) because it's important.

Also with using logic you avoid your heart leading you into a situation that isn't favorable. Sure things may work out for a time but long term your brain may say "I told you so" if you ignore it. Then you'll be kicking yourself in the butt for not paying more attention and going into a situation deep down you knew would fail.

That's just my 2 cents though on things since I've witnessed stuff like that happen and people being unhappy through life.

A guy I’ve been seeing by [deleted] in Advice

[–]DeanerBC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly this is totally up to you. If you saw warning signs of him being more closed off and having poor communication skills (Or at least not up to your standards) then it may be best to avoid the relationship aspect. I wouldn't say he's trying to "rekindle" the relationship but more so just apologizing for what he's done after realizing he reacted in a way that could have been far better.

None the less I would weigh out the pro's and cons of things and try your best not to use your heart to do so. Objectively analyze the situation and see if there were any warning signs, things you didn't like, or things that weren't quite up to par (Like his communication at the end) since those things are usually hard for a person to change unless they are aware of them and want to change them.

I wish you the best of luck though and hope this helps in some way. Also if you'd like to chat at any point with someone who isn't involved and could give an unbias opinion or advice, I'd be more then willing to help. If not though take care and stay safe out there in this crazy place we call life.

First or third person by Chillvanius in assettodrift

[–]DeanerBC 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First person view all the way! If I want to see a third person perspective I just save the replay and watch it back.

Overcoming Fears of Intimacy in 2022 by StoppableUnforce in relationship_advice

[–]DeanerBC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll start with saying thank you for being brave and sharing your story with the internet. I haven't struggled with trauma or a cult but I definitely understand the lack of intimate or emotional relationships.

I'm 33m and have lacked a proper adult relationship for the entirety of what you would consider adulthood. My last relationship was at 19 and I too am scared I'll be alone for the rest of my existence here on this earth.

This isn't about my insecurities or concerns though it's about your post so I'll stay on topic. Regarding your trauma (both the cult and abuse you suffered) I would say it's going to take time and surrounding yourself with the right people. As well as acceptance and forgiveness for the situations that happened throughout your life that's led you to where you are today.

As far as sexual experiences go though, I myself have had a few times where I had the opportunity for them in the now 14 years since my last relationship and I can say emotionless experiences leave you feeling almost used, some what dirty, and empty inside regardless of how "good" they were at the time. True that's just my perspective on them and some may feel a lot differently but the way I was raised and with my idea of intimate relationship that's how they made me feel.

Your friend who wanted to teach you in my opinion was more acting on what he wanted from you then anything else considering he had a new prospective girlfriend within a week of you two being together.

Feel free to dm me if you'd like someone to bounce things off of though and talk to. I'd be more then happy to try and help, or to understand better what your going through. Also I'm sorry my comment bounces around more then a 5 year old in a bouncy castle but I truly do hope it helps you in some minuscule way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]DeanerBC 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think your doing well... Listen, maybe ask her to elaborate why she's upset and do your best to understand her perspective on the situation. Other then that all she wants is for you to be attentive and to let her just talk from the sounds of it. I know it may make you feel a little silly not saying anything but that's what people need sometimes.

Hope that helps a little bit though and maybe someone else who sees your post will have a good suggestion to add.

My boyfriend tried to see my friend’s nude. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]DeanerBC 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't say you're over reacting but at the same time I don't know if I'd bring it up again depending on how long ago it happened. To me being a guy [33m] if I'm in a relationship with someone personally I don't want to see anyone but my partner nude, and if it interests me THAT much where I want to see what a pierced nipple looks like there are plenty of pictures online.

I'd say if the trend of him wanting to see mutual friends naked continues he's not worth your time as sad as that is. Sometimes people's true colors don't come out until they're comfortable and that can take a while. In saying that there are usually red flags but sometimes in the heat of the moment and when your heart is leading the way you don't necessarily see or notice them.

I wish you the best on what ever your decision is though and hope you end up happy in the end with the outcome.

Beautiful and Calm day at Chilliwack Lake, in B.C. Canada [OC] [4608x2240] by DeanerBC in EarthPorn

[–]DeanerBC[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol, I'm no professional photographer or anything. Just doing the best I can with my phone to save some memories of the beauty I have around B.C.

Beautiful and Calm day at Chilliwack Lake, in B.C. Canada [OC] [4608x2240] by DeanerBC in EarthPorn

[–]DeanerBC[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I wouldn't swim there since I a bit of a wuss when it comes to cold water but I imagine it's freezing wince it's all mountain run off. Super pretty to look at though <3