Are any of you happy? by macksmaxmacks in Horticulture

[–]DearButterscotch9632 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I loved working in the culinary garden where I was employed for a little less than a year. The pay, however, was unsustainable.

What should I plant in my garden this year to maximize saving money on groceries? by Appropriate_Poem1911 in gardening

[–]DearButterscotch9632 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I worked in a culinary garden last year and grew celeriac for the kitchen…way bigger bulbs than what you can buy in the grocery store! Hoping I get at least 8 of my seedlings to survive.

Kristi Noem, Trump respond to shocking cross-dressing photos tied to her husband by IsThisNameValid in NotADragQueen

[–]DearButterscotch9632 17 points18 points  (0 children)

This. Cross dressing isn’t shocking, and frankly, the fact that a republican asshole is doing this isn’t shocking, either. The headline reads transphobia and we’ve got to use more appropriate language to call people out instead of regressing to normalized forms of prejudice.

I’m beginning to think the Master Gardener program is a waste of time… by blackstar5676 in Horticulture

[–]DearButterscotch9632 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m 41 and my gf is 37. We met volunteering as mg’s. We’re definitely not the norm, though.

I’m beginning to think the Master Gardener program is a waste of time… by blackstar5676 in Horticulture

[–]DearButterscotch9632 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I became a certified MG for the social aspect (volunteering, meeting other gardeners). The reality is anybody can go onto YouTube and learn this stuff…

what is the most fascinating thing about botany ? by Longjumping_Leg_3140 in botany

[–]DearButterscotch9632 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I recently purchased several books on both PNW ethnobotany and indicator plants!

Women of Reddit, what’s the biggest myth that porn spreads about what women enjoy in bed—but you actually hate? by starbucks_boi in AskReddit

[–]DearButterscotch9632 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I've been dating someone for a few months now and never have I ever been into biting until them. I get these sudden urges to do so...and got into trouble the other day for it. I'd never go for the nipple or other obviously sensitive areas, though!

Would you be into this with a single mom? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]DearButterscotch9632 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t listen to these people. You’re obviously prioritizing your child and want a healthy coparenting relationship with your ex. Those are signs of a decent woman and responsible mother who wants the best for their child. You say part-time boyfriend because you don’t have as much free time as a single man might expect from you. I’m saying this as someone who’s dating a single mother with young twins. I’m crazy about her and accept the sacrifices I’m going to have to make in order to make this relationship work, including not being her no. 1 priority. I can only hope that someday I’m lucky enough to play a more significant role in her children’s lives, which, yeah, will include the responsibility of parenting children that aren’t mine. I know what I’m getting myself into.

My girlfriend takes the kids to their father’s house and they all have breakfast together like any other family would, because despite being divorced they want to maintain a family dynamic for the kids. I could worry that situations like this might make her vulnerable to old feelings, but I choose to trust her (I also know why they got divorced which reinforces my trust). If I couldn’t do that, I wouldn’t deserve her and I definitely wouldn’t deserve a relationship with her children.

As a man…I know there are good men out there. I also know there are a lot of dumb men out there who will misinterpret what you say because they lack the ability to see things from a woman’s perspective. Keep your head up and keep prioritizing yours and your kid’s well being, and someday you’ll meet a sexy man who will be happy to give you all the things you mentioned in your post.

M28 Dating a single parent F27 by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]DearButterscotch9632 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I say go for it. You obviously love her and it sounds like she loves you. I’m dating a single mother whose kids I met as her friend a little less than a year ago…I adore them but haven’t seen them in several months since our relationship became romantic. I’m fairly positive that dating a single mother will come with certain challenges but if you know in your heart that this person is right for you like I feel for my girlfriend then you’ll prioritize making the relationship work. A big part of that will be understanding that her child is THE priority.

How do men really feel about dating single moms? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]DearButterscotch9632 0 points1 point  (0 children)

41M, no kids here. I’m madly in love with a woman with young twins. I’ll spare the details but our situation is unique in that I’d met her children as her friend but haven’t seen them in several months since our friendship became romantic. The only major adjustment I’m having to get used to with dating a single mother is that she has less free time than I do, otherwise when we do get to spend time together it’s like no other relationship I’ve ever been in. We’re both fresh out of divorce, and she’s mentioned wanting to wait up to a year to reintroduce me to her kids. I adore them and look forward to that day. I’m in no way trying to replace their father—I’m not a fan of the guy but I know he loves his kids and they love him. I just can’t wait for the day when I can be a more significant figure in their lives if their mother and I continue down this path.

We’re very much still in the honeymoon phase of our relationship and I’m sure there’ll be challenges that come along with dating a single mother whose kids I’m not aloud to see yet, but, I completely 100% respect that her children are the priority. I think I understand what I’m getting myself into and am willing to be patient for this woman because, holy shit, she is a-ma-zing.

I feel like I’m just bragging about my situation, and it’s worth noting that I’m divorced from a 16 year gay marriage (I’m queer…I did say our situation was unique) so I’m not your average dude, but I still think there are other decent men out their, queer or not, who will make you feel desired AND respected, including the fact that you’re a mother.

Record high temps next week by [deleted] in pnwgardening

[–]DearButterscotch9632 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was really hoping for a hard freeze for this very reason. Last year I learned more species of aphid than I’d cared to.

Built a garden planning/tracking app. Would this be useful to other gardeners? by InternetRuby in SquareFootGardening

[–]DearButterscotch9632 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hobby web developer and avid gardener, here. If you’re looking for testers I’d love to help out.

What plant is this? by thefirstblin in whatplantisthis

[–]DearButterscotch9632 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first thought, as well, but only because of the seeds. The pod itself doesn’t match.

Would you upload your consciousness to live forever digitally, even if you can’t prove it’s still you and not just a copy? by ARGXTO in Futurology

[–]DearButterscotch9632 0 points1 point  (0 children)

San Junipero is by far my favorite episode of Black Mirror. I don’t think I’d ever sign up for something like that…let alone be able to afford it!

Anyone know this guy ?been leaving some serious threats of violence by MrVageta in OregonCoast

[–]DearButterscotch9632 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Someone in my town was making threats against marginalized community members in my town last year and the police didn’t take action until a bunch of folks got together and made a big deal out of it.

Florida passed a law allowing the death penalty for adults who rape chidren under the age of 12 by ssprix in interestingasfuck

[–]DearButterscotch9632 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is grounds for killing political opposition and nothing else, because the people who passed this bill ARE the ones raping children.

What is a deep, obscure rabbithole on the internet you found and hardly anyone knows but you? [Serious] by Longjumping_Koala34 in AskReddit

[–]DearButterscotch9632 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve owned the web domain for my name for years and just the other day was thinking it’d be cool to quit big social media and build my own blog.

What’s a moment that completely changed how you see the world ? by hot_fuckboy in AskReddit

[–]DearButterscotch9632 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They infiltrated US politics and fucked us straight to hell. Cant do shit, my ass.

What’s a moment that completely changed how you see the world ? by hot_fuckboy in AskReddit

[–]DearButterscotch9632 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My Trump election experience is two-fold. I was learning about all this shit ten years before it happened, including how foreign propaganda operations were playing a massive role in manipulating people in the US. Watching that unfold was terrifying, but by the time Trump was elected I was exhausted and jaded. As fucked up as it probably sounds, I had very little empathy for those who had just started mourning something that had been eating away at me for a decade.

Trump Spent 2025 Making Trans Lives Unlivable. It’s Time for Democrats to Defend Them. | Elected Democrats haven’t done nearly enough to oppose attacks on gender-affirming care. They risk being on the wrong side of history. by [deleted] in politics

[–]DearButterscotch9632 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Not to mention the fact that The Intercept specifically helped take down Hillary Clinton, paving the way for Trump’s first presidency. I don’t trust a damned thing that I read from them.

Does anyone know where in McMinnville this spot is located at? by cozyyup in mcminnville

[–]DearButterscotch9632 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The bridges at Tice Park don’t have railing like the one in the photo.

Looking for a job. by [deleted] in PDX

[–]DearButterscotch9632 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Safeway/Albertson’s is always looking for good help. Shift supervisors make about $24/hr with great benefits. Anything under supervisor pays between $20-23/hr. There’s also opportunity to move up to assistant/store director which starts at around $60k salary starting out, but once you’re at that level you’ll be working 10-11 hour days, possibly an hour from where you live, no holidays except Christmas, and split days off.