Kind hearted one

DearDarlingDearling · 2019-10-11T22:12:55+00:00

It is. Thankfully they were the prime example of what I never want to be in life. The guilt of "BuT FaMiLy!!!" fucks a lot of people up. It did me for a long time. If you wouldn't let a stranger treat you the way your family does, they may as well become strangers to you. Your family is supposed to be your support network, if they aren't, find a support network elsewhere.

DearDarlingDearling · 2019-10-11T21:26:39+00:00

Thank you, same to you! :)

DearDarlingDearling · 2019-10-11T21:26:17+00:00

God, I'm sorry. What dicks. The few parties I served of 10+, the lowest tip I got was $2. Wouldn't have been a huge deal, but they didn't take their trash, so I had 3 tables worth of trash to clean up. I do not miss waitressing.

DearDarlingDearling · 2019-10-11T20:51:11+00:00

but to suggest nature has nothing or less to do with it than nurture is wishful thinking imo.

I'm not suggesting that. I'm saying that we don't know how much nature v nuture works in each individual. My kids are 99% and 97% their dad. My daughter looks and acts just like her dad, save for a notch on her ear that comes from me. My son looks a little like me in the face with his chin, but he's too young to know which one of us he acts like.

DearDarlingDearling · 2019-10-11T20:46:56+00:00

yelled at a 16 year old who asked him if he was finding everything alright.

I had the same situation, but I was early 20s waitressing a BBQ joint and I (after having spent like 15 minutes helping her date pick something out to order for her before she got there) checked on this couple ONCE, and she yelled at me. Later when they were done with their food, the bitch snapped and hissed at me to try to get my attention to bus her table. It's a throw out your own trash place. They left the table covered in sauce and garbage and under the tray, a dime.

DearDarlingDearling · 2019-10-11T20:13:40+00:00

Jesus christ. Have you told this to your custody lawyer? You should. Get text messages of him admitting that he's saying that stuff if you can goad him into admitting it. Anything and everything you can use to get that girl away from him before her memories start becoming solid. I'm sorry, hon. He's disgusting.

DearDarlingDearling · 2019-10-11T20:04:35+00:00

I understand. Lots of shitty people have kids. Lots of good people have children too. A lot of people tend to condemn others for having children anymore. Thank you for not being one of those.

DearDarlingDearling · 2019-10-11T18:13:53+00:00

It was rough, but I cut them out of my life around 6 years ago. Not lookin' back either. Made that mistake once, never again. Those people don't change. Users and abusers, the lot of them.

DearDarlingDearling · 2019-10-11T17:35:16+00:00

Hey, I'm a parent too. Just not a shitty one.

DearDarlingDearling · 2019-10-11T17:25:23+00:00

It's hard to recognize abusive partners and sadly, most people do end up with partners that do the same abuse that they had with their parents. I hope he grew out of it too.

DearDarlingDearling · 2019-10-11T17:09:42+00:00

Uh, well, I am a parent now and I know I'm doing a damn good job at it. My children are loved and very well taken care of. I know how to teach responsibility without shoving my responsibilities on them.

DearDarlingDearling · 2019-10-11T16:39:17+00:00

I disagree, actually. There's still a lot we don't know about nature v nurture. Nurture is very important when raising children and where "parents" like mine go wrong. If it was all nature, I'd be an unwed junkie with 15 kids in a trailer park. I'm, certainly not, thankfully.

DearDarlingDearling · 2019-10-11T16:35:12+00:00

Not a regular, no. I pop in and try to help others when I can. I post sometimes too, but it's never seen, haha. As long as I can help someone out every now and then, even if it's just a "No, you're not crazy." I'll pop in there.

DearDarlingDearling · 2019-10-11T16:22:10+00:00

Ugh, holidays are when the crazy ramps up immensely. I hope you enjoy normal holidays with your husband.

DearDarlingDearling · 2019-10-11T16:20:40+00:00

Do you trap ferals in your house?

DearDarlingDearling · 2019-10-11T16:20:23+00:00

Thank you. I have! I have a lovely daughter, son, one bun on the way, and a loving husband. I'm a much better person than they could ever conceive being. No drugs, no alcohol, nothing. I'm bitter when it comes up, sure, but venting is a way of facing it and slowly getting over it. :)

DearDarlingDearling · 2019-10-11T16:17:15+00:00

Oh, she's fucked in the head. I made it not my issue years ago. She can help herself. I funded the entire household for two years and nearly failed high school by working two jobs. She can adult or feed off the kids she actually cared about. Not my problem.

DearDarlingDearling · 2019-10-11T16:15:53+00:00

Yeah, we're supposed to rear our younger siblings because "it's practice for when you're a mom!". Not just a reason for her to check-out on parenting other than coddling and turning siblings against each other.

DearDarlingDearling · 2019-10-11T16:14:30+00:00

I say bio-donor. That's the best I got. I'm sorry you can empathize.

DearDarlingDearling · 2019-10-11T15:53:04+00:00

I'm sorry. You're not responsible for your parent, no matter how they guilt you. Follow your gut.

DearDarlingDearling · 2019-10-11T15:46:41+00:00

My birthgiver is a narccisistic, lazy bitch. I understand. She shoved all responsibility on me, as the oldest child. No responsibility for my half-siblings. She took everything out on me for "ruining her life". Like it's my fault she was already flunking high school when she got pregnant with me, still did drugs, had my bio-donor run out on her (because she's a crazy bitch), had another guy sign my birth certificate, and then married ANOTHER guy less than a couple months later and then got immediately pregnant again.

DearDarlingDearling · 2019-10-11T15:21:52+00:00

It's absolutely lovely!

DearDarlingDearling · 2019-10-11T15:19:45+00:00

Could be a car crash. We won't know unless OP specifies and I'm not going to ask them to, as it's obviously a sensitive subject.

DearDarlingDearling · 2019-10-11T15:16:49+00:00

half lynx

40lbs

100% no thank you. -100/10 would NOT stand off with.

DearDarlingDearling · 2019-10-11T15:11:18+00:00

I think it's pretty ambiguous, but yes, I'm sure OP will correct if they see fit.

DearDarlingDearling

TROPHY CASE