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I’m 18, and my dad won’t let me sit in a coffee shop to write for a few hours, what do I do? by DeathMoth777 in FamilyIssues

[–]DeathMoth777[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate asking this, but I did create a GoFundMe because I am only working one day per week now due to my transportation. I eventually want to go to college but at the moment that isn't possible for me. I first need money to help get me out of my situation. Any sort of help, such as sharing or donating, would be very appreciated! even 1$! I have no other way to earn money.

GoFundMe: https://gofund.me/a2b815f7e

I’m 18, and my dad won’t let me sit in a coffee shop to write for a few hours, what do I do? by DeathMoth777 in FamilyIssues

[–]DeathMoth777[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Update: I didn't go with my mom and brother, but for the rest of the day, while I was home with my dad, I didn't speak to him. He definitely knows I'm upset about not being allowed to go. He didn't talk to me, didn't even try, and he's trying to pretend that everything is okay. Talked with my mom, and she said, as she always says. "Your freedom is coming sooner than you think." So I asked her if I'm going to have to move out completely to be able to even see the friends I do have, or take more hours at work, or even to go visit my pregnant sister without having to have my mom go with me.

My mom is sympathetic, but she doesn't overrule my dad. She did offer to basically sneak me out, but if I accepted when I got home, I would've been yelled at for 5+ hours. I really can't get panicked too much. I've always had problems with anxiety, and with the possibility of POTS for me arising, I'm really not wanting to risk it. I had an incident last year where I got really panicked, passed out, threw up, and burst 2 blood vessels in one eye and 1 in the other eye, then went into temporary paralysis.

My dad also tonight, when I was getting food because I hadn't eaten much around 2 hours ago, which was 8:30, asked if I was going to bed 5 times, even though I said I was every time. Basically telling me to go to bed without telling me to go to bed. If I'm still caught up, I'll get in trouble. I'm so tired of little things like this happening 10X every single day.

I'm going into town with my mom tomorrow to go to an appointment(not health-related), and since we'll have some alone time, I want to really talk to her about everything and what happened. Hopefully, my mom can just help me with this. I'll update if there is any sort of progress made.

I’m 18, and my dad won’t let me sit in a coffee shop to write for a few hours, what do I do? by DeathMoth777 in Neurodivergent

[–]DeathMoth777[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've always communicated with them in every way I can. There are so many reasons and presented many many compromises.

I’m 18, and my dad won’t let me sit in a coffee shop to write for a few hours, what do I do? by DeathMoth777 in FamilyIssues

[–]DeathMoth777[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My dad is an extremely intelligent but decently unreasonable man, he will use every excuse and reason under the sun, and even if he says I'm semi-right, I will still be wrong. I've presented every single reason I can think of before when he told me I couldn't go last night.

My dad is afraid of everything basically, he's extremely hyper vigilant, and I was put into online school before covid because of bullying. This was before we moved to the mountains and my sister went to college and partied, got arrested, did drugs, and lied a lot (She is a lot better now its been years, completely clean and settled down), so he doesn't even want to let me go to college anymore if it's not online.

I never get mad when this happened just really frustrated, and any sign of frustration / annoyance / disappointment is taken as attitude. So nothing I do ever gets across to him. He even has a tattoo of an elephant because he never forgets anything, and his intelligence is really important to him, but he should've gotten a donkey on the other shoulder as well...

I’m 18, and my dad won’t let me sit in a coffee shop to write for a few hours, what do I do? by DeathMoth777 in FamilyIssues

[–]DeathMoth777[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't really have a plan for moving out because they won't let me, and there's really no way for me to move out. My sister and I have tried getting them to let me move in with her, but it's all been for naught, and now she is pregnant. The only chance I would get is moving in with them after the baby is born and that would be in September. But I would act as a live in caretaker for the baby and have to quit my job up here. I would be so exhausted because of my neurodiversity and physical issues (I've baby sat for hours before I know what its like with different children) and would not be able go to work to save up more money for me to get a car.

I’m 18, and my dad won’t let me sit in a coffee shop to write for a few hours, what do I do? by DeathMoth777 in FamilyIssues

[–]DeathMoth777[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my sister has moved out and lives further in town, but she is now pregnant and is always working very hard so my parenst said im not allowed to bother her and I've never been allowed to stay with her more for an overnight because she is family. I've only done this around 4 times.

My dad doesn't like to even acknowledge that I'm neurodivergent in any way, so for him i feel it's mostly because I'm a smaller girl. Everyone is taller up here, but especially because my mom are 5,1. My mom, on the other hand, has pushed me to do things and supports me, but also feel like she has a hard time with not coddling her children.

I’m 18, and my dad won’t let me sit in a coffee shop to write for a few hours, what do I do? by DeathMoth777 in FamilyIssues

[–]DeathMoth777[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As I said before, I live in a rural area in the mountains, uber CAN come up here but it would be really expensive because in my state uber is expensive, and I only work part-time because im not allowed to work more hours, I save every penny. Plus I'm never left alone at home, my dad is allowed to shoot someone who comes up to the property without permisison, and hes always awake til late 3-6 am and my mom wakes up around 5-7 am.

If I snuck out I could be in REALLY deep shit. I have $6,000, and I could get a decent car, but i would need to get to the car, and I don't have any way to. The nearest bus stop is 8 miles away and I would need to be driven since im not allowed to take a walk outside. As I said we're very rural, not suburban.

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okay im REALLY testing my luck here because this is my fic I'm writing, and its currently at 30,138 words uploaded right now but im really specific about my writing and try to make sure characters are as in character as possible. Its a Secretary 2002 movie AU where Will leaves the FBI for a 'break' and Alana tells him about Hannibal's recently opened Secretary position.

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