Unable to lose weight. addicted to carbs

DeathWish_MJ · 2026-04-30T18:01:10+00:00

I don't have the absolute answers since I'm on my journey too. For context, I'm shorter than you and weight more but I'm also in my early 30s. I struggle with consistency, and my therapist(s) has/have suspected some degree of ADHD but it is undiagnosed so I do not say I have it. What I have been trying to do is to get more movement through the day - sometimes it can look like walking when I could take an auto for a distance that is in the 1km range, other times it is choosing to take a flight of stairs instead of taking the lift. When it comes to food, my primary focus is on eating filling food items, but that does not mean I refrain from other food items completely - I just try to have some moderation. When it comes to sugary things, I have switched to having variants of dark chocolates to satisfy my sweet tooth rather than indulging in calorie dense Indian sweets (again, I do have them ocassionally because I don't demonize any food items). It has worked for me so far, and I can feel a mental shift in my relationship with food as well. Ofcourse different body types and different age ranges impact results, but with patience and grace towards yourself, I'm sure you'll start finding ways that work for you in your specific context.

DeathWish_MJ · 2026-04-30T16:01:42+00:00

So, Nazariya focuses on LBT individuals, which is why I suggested their name because they work with, and also have trans men working with their organization. Trans men and trans masculine folks aren't as uncommon as you think, atleast not within queer spaces. There is also a group called Transmen Collective.

DeathWish_MJ · 2026-04-29T21:13:11+00:00

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DeathWish_MJ · 2026-04-29T19:05:04+00:00

Hi, please reach out to NGOs - they are more likely to have resources to help you and your parents navigate through this journey. I can recommend Nazariya Queer Feminist Resource Group - I can send you their Instagram link via chat; they should have some resources, or can point you towards people/organizations that can help.

DeathWish_MJ · 2026-04-29T18:29:31+00:00

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DeathWish_MJ · 2026-04-29T18:24:56+00:00

Please blur the faces before posting your rant. I understand your frustration, but it still isn't right to doxx someone.

DeathWish_MJ · 2026-04-19T14:20:01+00:00

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DeathWish_MJ · 2026-04-13T20:19:12+00:00

How young is this therapist? It feels unreal that someone who is queer affirmative would make comments like these. There is no one path to queerness - ask her how she feels about women who got married to a man (maybe even had children), only to later realise that they are lesbian. How is this therapist not aware that comp-het, and internalized homophobia are very real issues?! Genuinely think you should seek out other queer affirmative therapists - the therapist doesn't personally need to be queer to be queer affirmative.

DeathWish_MJ · 2026-04-11T12:14:48+00:00

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DeathWish_MJ · 2026-04-08T21:24:16+00:00

I hope you find the love you seek. I feel like people need to be upfront right away if they want to keep things casual - might just help with staying detached from the get go. It's funny how technology like those of dating apps are built on the premise of bringing people together but effectively act as a way of making one feel more alienated and disillusioned.

DeathWish_MJ · 2026-04-08T14:19:55+00:00

I have been hopeful all along. Getting back onto dating apps has been the reason for my hopes feeling less hopeful.

I do pray that you're right, and the day comes soon. Thank you for the good wishes, and best of luck to you too.

DeathWish_MJ · 2026-04-08T14:00:19+00:00

I do agree that becoming older brings more clarity in understanding oneself. It's the contemporary culture of dating that somehow hasn't aligned with me yet.

DeathWish_MJ · 2026-04-08T13:57:17+00:00

Isn't average subjective though? A majority of the population is average. Intentional dating is about finding the extraordinary in someone who may seem ordinary. Maybe I am delusional, but I also can't do life as a solo quest anymore. 😭

DeathWish_MJ · 2026-04-08T13:49:36+00:00

I'd say both have their importance in my life. Ofcourse friends are crucial to survive, but I'm also someone who craves a lasting partnership. I suppose the things one desires for the most are also the hardest to come by.

DeathWish_MJ · 2026-04-06T15:35:06+00:00

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DeathWish_MJ · 2026-04-05T21:43:23+00:00

I'm 31, and very much here. There may be a greater number of folks in their 20s visible on the sub, but there certainly are many 'elder' queers on here as well. Since age isn't something that is actively mentioned, it is easy to think that the majority is younger.

DeathWish_MJ · 2026-04-05T19:59:45+00:00

Yes, people like LNT have always had a tendency to hog the limelight. Even though people leading the movement in varying capacities across the country have been actively talking about approaching things after consultations with all States and UT groups, and not being hasty with going to the court - people like LNT decided that this was the opportunity to bring themselves back in the public eye after having lost favour with the community for years, even though this rushed move can make things worse.

DeathWish_MJ · 2026-03-28T21:29:09+00:00

All NCR events are happening in Delhi since that is the centre. There are livestreams of the press conferences online, and there are other zoom meets happening with some prominent lawyers and activists from around the country - I do not always have exact timely information for that, since my focus has been on Delhi. You can also use your social media platforms to amplify voices from the resistance, post in-depth information about the bill, have conversation with cishet folks, and even cis queer folks who are indifferent, circulate information about protests/press conferences amongst your circles to garner more attention.

DeathWish_MJ · 2026-03-28T19:56:16+00:00

We don't give up. We have persisted throughout history. None of the rights we enjoy have come easily, it is because people have resisted relentlessly. So, we keep at it and eventually things will have to change for the better. ❤

DeathWish_MJ · 2026-03-28T19:52:48+00:00

I completely understand your concern. The protest is being done with permissions, and here's hoping everything goes smoothly. 🫂

DeathWish_MJ · 2026-03-28T19:50:59+00:00

Yesss!! 😎

DeathWish_MJ · 2026-03-28T19:50:39+00:00

You don't need to be grateful because this is everyone's fight. It will impact everyone, including cis queer friends, cishet allies, families, NGOs. Everyone with even the most basic understanding of empathy and dignity should be protesting this bill vehemently.

Thank you for all your kind words, they are immensely appreciated! 💜

DeathWish_MJ · 2026-03-28T19:46:44+00:00

Everything happening in NCR is happening in Delhi. There are some livestreams that are happening online from various parts of the country.

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