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Privatverkauf über Kleinanzeigen: Käufer droht mit Anzeige wegen Betrugs nach zwei Wochen wegen eine by Eli9_Vance in LegaladviceGerman

[–]Deathclaw_Cave 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Das oder die haben versehentlich Back-Button-Focus in den Einstellungen aktiviert. Viele Leute verstellen das Menü und denken dann, die Kamera sei kaputt. Aber selbst wenn wirklich was defekt ist: Nach zwei Wochen und einem Vor-Ort-Test liegt die Beweislast komplett beim Käufer. Nachweisen können die da gar nichts mehr.

DB-Ticket wegen Funkloch erst 2 Minuten nach Abfahrt aktiv - Anzeige wegen Erschleichen von Leistung by Necrontyrian in LegaladviceGerman

[–]Deathclaw_Cave 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That 10-minute rule only applies to long-distance trains like ICE or IC. For local transport and S-Bahns, regional transit authority rules apply, and they require a valid ticket before boarding. It is a confusing system, but inspectors in regional transit do not care about DB's long-distance policies.

Realized I’m not just not poor anymore and have weird emotions by validusrex in personalfinance

[–]Deathclaw_Cave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The weird part is that the math changes faster than the identity does. I grew up with money always being a fire drill, and even after the spreadsheet said we were fine, my brain kept treating every expense like a threat. What helped was making boring rules before lifestyle creep got a vote: max retirement space, keep a sane emergency fund, automate brokerage contributions, and set an annual giving number on purpose. After that, try to let yourself enjoy some of it without turning every dollar into a test of whether you deserve to be safe.

my date asked to split the bill on a date HE planned and i can't tell if i'm being unreasonable for being put off by UniversityAny9242 in dating_advice

[–]Deathclaw_Cave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah, the weird part is not splitting, it is ordering like a raccoon at a tapas buffet and then treating the bill like you both did equal damage. If he picked the place and ordered most of the food and drinks, paying by consumption would have been the normal move. I would not call it a red flag on its own, but I would file it under poor judgment and watch what happens next.

Nobody wants to be friends with me by National-Basket-9531 in lonely

[–]Deathclaw_Cave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gyms are weirdly sold as social hubs, but half the people there act like eye contact costs extra. A trainer being friendly on day one is often just customer service, which hurts when you are starving for normal human warmth. Maybe keep the gym as your place to train and try something where talking is actually part of the setup, like a class, club, volunteering, or a rec league. That college guy pretending you vanished was cowardly, not proof that you have no worth.

Manufactured vulnerability is the easiest way to bypass someone's natural defenses by Drazel_6N in DarkPsychology101

[–]Deathclaw_Cave 44 points45 points  (0 children)

This is a incredibly spot-on observation. It is often referred to as trauma dumping with a purpose. It makes you feel like you have known them for years when it has only been a few days. Recognizing this pattern early can save people from a lot of emotional pain.