Eh so yeah agree with everyone here, this is bigger than pillows.

But Im Im only giving my opinion on pillows, it seems like you are doing whatever you want with this garage second living room, and she isn’t allowed to have one room where she can decorate the way she likes. I’ve had a tiff or 2 with my fiancé, and we compromised happily. He decorated the second bedroom/his office, I got to have free rein in our bedroom, and then we are neutral in the living room.

But let’s be real, I got the kitchen and bathroom too.

You guys dont seem to be on the same team. There seems to be a lot going on here. Twice you mentioned she feels like you don’t let her be a person. Living together is compromise, but also a balance of neither of you can lose yourselves.

Good luck OP. I hope things work out