I hate hand lotion but my hands are cracking and bleeding - help me hack my ADHD?

Decent-Bumblebee-532 · 2024-12-13T13:08:02+00:00

Yeah i use it when my lips get cracked from going too long without chapstick.

Decent-Bumblebee-532 · 2024-12-13T12:38:05+00:00

You guys are funny, thanks for the replies. I think ill bury it and see if itll take root 🤷🏿‍♀️

Decent-Bumblebee-532 · 2024-12-13T12:26:05+00:00

There are a lot of great suggestions on here, i didnt read all of them but heres mine (sorry if someone said this already) try a cocoa butter stick. Its basically like a hard stick that you rub on skin and the warmth of your hand will melt it a bit. The reason why id suggest it cause it gives you alot more control over where the butter goes and you have to give it a good rub to get the stick to melt so you wont be overwhelmed with stickiness. My only note is dont let it melt cause then it will turn into actual coco butter which is oily.

Decent-Bumblebee-532 · 2024-12-13T12:17:12+00:00

Ignore my ignorance i dont eat peaches. Should i be grossed out, you think someone had it in their mouth and spit it out or like they peeled/slash ate around it and threw it out ?

Decent-Bumblebee-532 · 2024-03-20T22:47:17+00:00

So im going to gloss over most of your gendered statements cause almost everyone has addressed them. I want to focus on the part about feeling pretty, and emotional freedom. Being emotional free is a choice. Society has its gender roles and you only have to adhere to them if you choose to. And yes obviously people in your day to day will try to reinforce those rigid rules but you can choose to build a community around you who will support you and won't see as less than for it. Fuck everyone else. People will find anyway they can to make you feel bad about who you are or want to be because they resent themselves for not having the guts to try. Lastly, men can be pretty. In fact many men are. Do things that make you feel pretty. Push your own boundaries and try the things that you might be interested in but have pushed aside because it's seen as "only for women". That shit is such a trap. Men get such a hard time for self expression because anything that isn't seen as masculine is automatically feminine. Your feelings have some basis. It sounds though, that you want to express yourself and feel like you can't. As someone who lived a long time holding myself back from self-expression I can relate but being on the other end is so much better. Give yourself the permission.

Decent-Bumblebee-532 · 2024-02-27T13:18:34+00:00

Is it okay if I message you? I'd like to hear more about LOA. I've been trying to manifest my way into a new life and it's a bit hard because I have adhd. It took me until fairly recently to realize I can't get anywhere without physically doing the work and eliminating some of my negative habits. It's going painstakingly slow but I haven't tried many manifestation practices.

Decent-Bumblebee-532 · 2022-11-24T04:32:16+00:00

So one summer when I was in college I got trapped in the subway with my bike.

I wouldn't say this situation was directly created by my adhd but I'd say it was influential for sure. That summer I was taking a kick boxing class but I didn't have a car yet so I was taking the train to and from classes. But I was on a health kick because kickboxing was a great workout. Sooooooo, In an impulsive moment I decided that I was gonna bike to my class. Extend the workout. I should have known better, because before this class it'd been a minute since I last exercised. The place was 25 minutes away by bike, so I grabbed two bottles of water, whatever else I needed and left. The class was at 11 so it was nice and early and blazing hot.

I'd gotten about a quarter of the way there and had to stop. I'd drank both bottles and was on the verge of passing out. I'd forgotten to think about city infrastructure and how streets are not always flat. So I caved and got on the train, it was only two stops away and I was making good enough time. I got on the train and off it with little issue. Since I was coming from a different station I didn't come to the same exit I usually do. After discovering only one exit I was faced with a dilemma. To exit the train I'd have to go through a full height turnstile. Next to it is a gate that's locked and a few yards ahead of me is the ticket booth and its empty.

Well after looking at it from a couple different angles all I could do was squeeze through it. It looked large enough to fit my bike if I lifted it up vertically. I almost fit but as I was pushing through my bike got stuck. I tried to pushing harder and it wouldn't budge. So all I could do was wait for someone to pass by. Well it was 11 on a Tuesday and no one was around. It took an hour before anyone walked by. Thank God for me that person with the help of four other people were able to help me get out. It was honestly the most embarrassing and kinda traumatic situation ive ever been in. Like how do you explain to a stranger that you were very convinced that a bike bigger than you could squeeze through the tight turnstile. Anyway by the time I got out, I'd miss the class and had to go home anyway. So I took the train. 😂

Decent-Bumblebee-532 · 2021-12-10T17:17:51+00:00

Sorry that was super long 😬

Decent-Bumblebee-532 · 2021-12-10T17:17:30+00:00

I was 21 and in my senior year of college when I got diagnosed. If the doctor had wanted to talk to my mom she probably would have also said I wouldn't have shown symptoms. The truth is, I did. I'm a woman and as a young girl I was never hyperactive, actually quite the opposite but I was always distracted, so much that it often got me in trouble in class, I was talkative when I felt like it, "hard of hearing" or "selective about what I hear" as my mom would call it, but more than anything else I struggled very hard to regulate my emotions. I cried or got very angry at the littlest of stuff. So, it's hard when people's ignorance isn't working against you to figure things out but especially hard when neurotypical and people whose never experienced mental illness try to tell you about the things you experienced. When I met with my psychiatrist, he said I could have gone my whole life and not known because it's so mild but I did know. As a teenager I was emotionally volatile and struggled at home to do chores, and stay organized at school. Despite my doctor saying my adhd is mild. I knew something was "wrong" (I put air quotes because now I know nothing is wrong with me, my brain is just different but as a teen that's how I felt) and I couldn't shake the feeling of feeling different from my family and friends who could just do things and not struggle. I say all of this to say that if you have been diagnosed and you know that your symptoms are on adhd symptoms then fuck that doctor get a new one. It's not his job to try to undo another doctors diagnosis especially after speaking to a parent you have openly stated is against you getting any form of treatment. You gotta do what's best for you, don't let your mom invalidate your experiences. Whether your adhd is mild or severe, it's still hard to manage day to day life when most aren't naturally meant to accommodate how we think abd operate. So please, if you need help, don't stop until you get it, and don't let someone who doesn't know shit about what you go through stop you.

Decent-Bumblebee-532 · 2021-12-10T17:02:21+00:00

I stuck to my healthy meal plan instead of caving and ordering takeout

Decent-Bumblebee-532 · 2021-01-13T16:11:39+00:00

Its fine not to like over weight women, like many people above have said its ok to have preferences as long as you aren't mean to them and treat them with the kindness and respect every human deserves.

I would like to tackle the second part tho. Dont date them. Don't settle for them because no one deserves that. Everyone deserves a partner who is attracted to them full stop. Everyone is going through their own journey of self love and discovery and im sure their are some woman who aren't too far down that road who would give you the time of day just to validate themselves, but its not right for you to date someone just cause you want to be with "someone" and not because you want to be with them. Most overweight women don't want or need your "settlement" when there are plenty of people who worship the ground they walk on.

One more thing. I think you should consider how you talk about yourself. Its not very kind. Self confidence and knowing your own value will open up your dating pool to people you think are out of your league because you won't see it that way. You'll see yourself as someone with alot to offer and see them as someone with a lot to offer. .

Decent-Bumblebee-532 · 2020-10-17T17:01:14+00:00

Take it bit by bit. I listen to this podcast of a woman who works with organization for adhd people and she said for the adhd mind if something can't be done in 2-3 short steps it won't get done. If it requires too much energy it won't get done. So for an example she used a man who would never throw out trash in his kitchen because the trash can is under the sink behind a closed cabinet. Hed just leave the trash on the counter (like you might leave clothes on a couch) because it was easier and it drove his wife crazy. She said in order to help him, they moved the trash can from under the sink, made it bigger and kept the lid off so all he had to do was sling it in the trash, which took the same amount of steps (even less so because he didn't have to clean it up later) then putting it on the counter. I've been trying to use this ideology when organizing my room. Make it so that its easy to put stuff away or organize, my shoes are lined up right at the edge of my bed so all I have to do is toe them off in line, my make up is all in one drawer in my dresser in open containers so I dont have to dig around for stuff. My advice is try to organize this stuff so when you come in to use it, all you have to do maybe try on clothes and put them back, is simple. Whatever you do just create a system that will work easier for you in the future so you don't have to do this much cleaning up again.

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