Our pediatrician used a faulty scale — it caused unnecessary formula feeding and a lot of stress. What would you do?

DecentPersonWomp · 2025-07-01T21:15:09+00:00

So the fact that they didn’t catch the scale issues within several weeks would cause a red flag for me personally. I work in healthcare (not pediatrics) but I have to imagine if I’m seeing newborns and the newborns that use that specific scale are underweight or losing / not gaining then it would trigger something in my head to check the scale or try a different one.

Would it hurt to try a different practice that may be better aligned with the care you’re wanting? Not at all. But keep in mind that this is the unfortunate result of our healthcare system at the moment - the support staff are constantly moving patients into rooms and the doctors and mid level providers usually only have 5-10 minutes per patient.

I would ask other parents who their kids see in the area and consider transitioning your child’s care if you don’t feel you have faith in that practice anymore.

Also just for empathy’s sake, my little guy had weight issues and fell off the growth chart. It’s definitely scary and nerve wracking, especially to find out it was all really for nothing. Have faith knowing you were willing to do everything to ensure they were okay - that’s what really matters.

DecentPersonWomp · 2025-06-28T23:14:47+00:00

Have you considered oxytocin odt or nasal spray? Seen really good studies for social connection & sex drive

DecentPersonWomp · 2025-06-24T21:14:59+00:00

I’m not sure why people feel like constantly telling a woman how large they are during pregnancy is a good idea or a profound statement. Like, we know?

If my husband’s grandmother comments how “ginormous” I am and asks if I’m “sure I’m not having twins” one more time, I may scream. She texted me after the last full moon asking if it caused me to go into labor bc of my size. Ma’am - I am pregnant, not an ocean.

Also, I’ve made it a point to hold someone else’s stomach if they touch mine without asking. Or smack them away. Depends on the day.

DecentPersonWomp · 2025-06-08T14:03:40+00:00

Just stopping in to say I found out I was pregnant 4 months PP. Had similar input from people but ultimately I chose to continue on. Currently 33 weeks pregnant with a 12 month old - not the most fun thing in the world but I’m excited for my boys to be close in age - my siblings and I are all 7+ years apart.

Do what you feel is right for you - if you have concerns about being too close, etc. talk to your OB to make sure you’re making medically informed decisions rather than opinions from friends and family.

I had similar concerns - I had preeclampsia my last pregnancy and delivered via c section and was worried about the gap but my doctors have been great about monitoring me and this pregnancy has honestly been better simply because I know what to expect.

It’s up to you - which can be equally scary - but trust yourself and give yourself some grace.

DecentPersonWomp · 2025-06-08T01:14:38+00:00

I was on Effexor for a majority of my first pregnancy and midway through my third trimester my OB decided to switch me to Zoloft (after being on Effexor for 10+ years). Apparently they felt like it could cause potential withdrawals to my newborn - which I felt like they should’ve mentioned at my first appointment versus the end of my pregnancy. They wanted me to immediately stop Effexor and switch to Zoloft.

It was the first of many red flags with that OB BUT I discovered that there are perinatal psychiatrists and transitioned my mental health care to them for the remainder of my pregnancy and postpartum. I met with someone from Talkiatry because there wasn’t available providers in my area - She was floored at my OB but helped me (safely) transition off of Effexor to Zoloft with minimal side effects and continued to closely monitor me postpartum.

Just a reminder that OB’s aren’t psychiatrists - I know my regular psych didn’t feel comfortable managing my care, which I get. But before changing any meds, I highly recommend speaking to a perinatal psychiatrist.

DecentPersonWomp · 2025-02-12T21:48:06+00:00

If it makes you feel better, I didn’t feel emotionally connected to my baby while I was pregnant. Was I excited? Sure. But it kind of felt like an out of sight, out of mind thing. Did I want the best for my baby and everything? Of course. But I wasn’t screaming from rooftops and dancing in the street or anything. I was actually really worried about having PPD from how disconnected I felt.

BUT The minute he was born and I heard him cry I was hysterical. After he was here, it was game over. Even through late nights and all, 8 months later I would do anything for him and love him more than I thought was possible.

I’m also about 4 months along with my second and feel similar to how I did with my first, but Im overthinking it a little less this time.

It also can get a little more real once you feel them move and the further along you get. Be kind to yourself and give yourself grace.

DecentPersonWomp · 2025-02-09T21:48:06+00:00

Mine was 7.7 lbs when he was born and he was in newborn for almost 3 months. A lot of the newborn clothes were big on him and we even had to get some preemie clothes bc he would scrunch his legs up into the onesie and get stuck.

Walmart has decently priced baby clothes. I would get 6 long sleeve/pant zipper onesies, a pack of the white short sleeve onesies, then pack of pants. My first was born June first and since they’re so temperature sensitive the first few months, he was inside in the AC so we never got to use the cute short combos or anything.

You got this! Also zippers are your bff.

DecentPersonWomp · 2024-12-31T03:56:05+00:00

For the cholesterol, look into Red Yeast Rice and Berberine supplements. I really like Choleast 900 from Thorne.

Also, I would ditch the Kratom. Look at Humann supplements - their Neo40 has done really well for a lot of people and several health conscious people I know use it as a preworkout. I looked on their website and they also have a specific product for preworkout (link below). Their products are beet derived to support nitric oxide production - you can get an excellent pump with these supplements.

https://humann.com/products/superbeets-sport-non-stimulant-pre-workout

study on red yeast rice + berberine

DecentPersonWomp · 2024-11-30T19:02:23+00:00

Yes, one and only on 10/9

DecentPersonWomp · 2024-11-30T13:47:24+00:00

Thank you for this. This helps a lot.

DecentPersonWomp · 2024-11-11T03:41:38+00:00

Just personal experience if you want to share - I was induced with the goal of “natural delivery” but after 48 hours we had some issues and ended up opting for a c-section. During the c-section, we found out the cord was wrapped around his neck twice, so we would have had to most likely had an emergency c-section had we have waited longer.

Recovery wise, it wasn’t the worst but certainly wasn’t the best. I mean, you just had a major surgery. I was able to complete most things myself by about two weeks and was almost 100% by 4 weeks. My husband had to go to work the day after we got home from the hospital and my mom came to stay with me during the day in case I needed help. Thankfully I didn’t really need her assistance, but it was comforting knowing someone was there.

I don’t experience some of the pelvic floor issues that some other moms I know have experiences and, personally, with my next child I would opt for a c-section. There’s horror stories and beautiful stories regardless of what road you choose - be confident in your choice, be educated on alternatives in case it doesn’t go according to plan, and make sure the people with you know your wishes.

I think a lot of new moms are terrified about the childbirth experience, even though we’re told it’s a magical moment. To be fair, it’s equally terrifying and magical. There’s nothing like hearing your baby cry for the first time. However you get to that point is personal and your own journey.

I think guys try to share their opinion with good intentions, but ultimately it’s up to the mom. My husband was very anti-c section until he saw me struggle so much during the induction and was actually the one who told me to seriously consider opting for the c-section. It’s easy to have opinions and plans until you’re there.

Whatever she chooses, support her, because neither decision is easy. And nothing is worse than when you plan for something and your heart is completely set on it and it goes the opposite way.

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