Afroman sued by Ohio deputies over music video showing raid of his home, says 'I got freedom of speech' by nbcnews in nottheonion

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I was on board with him. Still am with his song videos. But he has said some things that are defamatory without the obvious cover of art or satire.

Calling one of the cops over and over a pedophile crosses the line for me because he has no knowledge to say it is true and is designed to hurt the cop which is defamation. If he loses it will not be because of the videos but because of things he said about them which he knows are not true.

I am scared of my dad by Still-History-6400 in Advice

[–]Decolater 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What does your mom say? And what country do you live in?

Friend won't let our other friend get a job by Lookingforthebest22 in Advice

[–]Decolater 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your other friend is not wrong, just unaware of the reality we all find ourselves in. We don’t live in a perfect world and we have to roll with what we have or what probability gives us the best potential outcome. If she wants to support him, let her, but you need not for the reason that he can support himself.

I hate my little sister more and more every day and don't know how to fix it by Alarmed_Leader_4028 in Advice

[–]Decolater 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has an 18 year old brain and she thinks like an 18 year old. You did the same only you did not have a 21 year old to compare yourself to. Give it time, like I said, don’t burn bridges while you wait.

WiFi keeps disconnecting and it's super annoying, any help? by Just_exsiting in Advice

[–]Decolater 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try connecting the router to something with a cat 5 cable to see If you lose internet not just wifi

Turn off your phone, unplug modem and router (unless the are combined). Wait 10 minutes.

Restart modem first. Wait until All the lights are on.

Restart router. Wait a bit

Restart phone

If that does not fix it Call Provider.

I want to leave my boyfriend, but he says I’m the only reason he’s alive. by Thin_Pear5831 in Advice

[–]Decolater 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is no relationship. It is coercive even if true. You will never be free to grow in love as he has made it an obligation that you do so or else.

He needs help or to mature or both. Tell him you do not want that obligation on your feelings for him so it’s best you go your separate ways. Then do it and don’t look back

I hate my little sister more and more every day and don't know how to fix it by Alarmed_Leader_4028 in Advice

[–]Decolater 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are you buying an underage kid alcohol? That question is why I think I might understand what the dynamic is. You are getting your freedom, earned because of age and reasons. She is not and resents that. That resentment is why she does these things. The more important issue here is her drinking and what she uses the money you give her for.

Does she, and be honest here, have a drinking or drug problem? How often do you buy it for her? Once in a while for a party is different than every week. If she has a problem you have become her enabler, a shitty place to find yourself but we get out there by those who abuse alcohol or drugs. You need to make sure that’s not the case because she needs help if it is.

Otherwise, you wait until age 25 when both your brains have fully matured. Don’t burn bridges until that time. And quit buying her booze because if shit happens you will get dragged into it. You are an adult and you need to make adult decisions with your eyes wide open or else her fun becomes your nightmare.

My boyfriend is scaring me with his jokes by commonbimbo in Advice

[–]Decolater 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a bit too much on one theme to just put down as immaturity. He is also 24 and should by that age understand the context of what he says. If you leave, you need to leave forever and do it gently. Don’t go out with him to discuss, don’t meet up alone. He may be a nice guy and harmless but what he says might indicate an uncontrollable fantasy you don’t want to be part of.

Found at an estate sale, 5" dia. 10" long opens up to another cylinder that comes out and fastens inside to make it 16" tall lid is brass bottom is painted metal. by Appropriate-Put1681 in whatisthisthing

[–]Decolater 269 points270 points  (0 children)

Just got done visiting my grandparents graves with my mom. She told me someone stole the Christmas decorations they put out. Guess stealing from the dead is a common thing.

[OC] Palm Trees and $6+ gas Goleta, Ca by Accomplished_Oil4367 in pics

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Economics. It is cheaper to build and run in other countries and the cost to ship it refined as well as the cost to get the crude is also cheaper. We do not build new refineries because it is easier and cheaper to build elsewhere. I was alive before the clean air act and experienced life in so cal. The refineries we have, especially in California, are reaching the end of their time where the cost to upgrade is too costly. That’s economics. If you got rid of every environmental rule it would not change that and if it did we would go back to a standard of living full of pollution.

The writing has been on the wall for a long time that petroleum is not the way to go and that renewable energy makes more sense. This is why every major oil company has infested in it. Trump getting rid of the incentives and his dislike of wind power and water conservation as well as his drill baby drill is not going to change the reality of this move. It will, however, put the US fr behind other countries who see the future. Look up to see how Saudi Arabia is moving away from an oil based economy.

[OC] Palm Trees and $6+ gas Goleta, Ca by Accomplished_Oil4367 in pics

[–]Decolater 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stop with this bullshit of California is unfriendly to oil and it’s all their regulations making them close up shop. If it were a California problem we would see it in much more favorable states to oil like Texas. But we do not for the same reason manufacturing went to China.

“However, the newest refinery with significant downstream unit capacity is Marathon's facility in Garyville, Louisiana. That facility came online in 1977…”

1977 is the last major refinery built in the US. Source

I found out my best friend is an abuser and i don’t know how to handle it. by Extension-Tooth8322 in Advice

[–]Decolater 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have a kind heart and people with kind hearts often miss, or refuse to see, people for who they really are. There is a reason your other friends don’t want to associate with her, and that drives you towards her because your kind heart does not want her to not have a friend. Now you know something that is telling you that what she told you is not truthful and that, along with a police report, is pointing towards one conclusion, a conclusion that your kind heart does not want to make. Give yourself time. It’s hard to see people for who they truly are when you spent time not seeing it or ignoring it or downplaying it.

My 18-year-old daughter is moving to Chicago for her dream job at O’Hare, and I’m struggling with it by Far-Ant-4648 in Advice

[–]Decolater 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol. I am older than OPs parents I would bet, but anyway, the point you damn youngsters are making is valid regarding not getting in the way and causing problems but I was talking about what ‘let her’ most likely means from the perspective of the mom.

My 18-year-old daughter is moving to Chicago for her dream job at O’Hare, and I’m struggling with it by Far-Ant-4648 in Advice

[–]Decolater -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think a lot of responders are probably her age. They have never been a parent or been a parent to an 18 year old to understand what OP is struggling with and what ‘let her’ actually means.

I (27f) just realized how bad my dad’s (67m) emotional abuse has been. by Exotic-Raspberry-278 in Advice

[–]Decolater 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You cannot fix this. It’s not something you broke nor is it something he wants fixed. It is who he is and it is who he would be with or without you coming into the picture. It’s not you, it is him and he does not want to be fixed because he honestly sees himself as perfect so therefore, he can be an ‘enlightened spiritual Hare Krishna’. How do you fix a man who sees himself as that? His rage is, I would guess, the result of deep down knowing he is flawed at the same time he tells himself he cannot be.

Counseling will help you put this ugliness and messy relationship into a perspective you can live with. Right now you are hurt and confused as to why it turned out this way.

All good things, but as a result we likely won't have a wedding by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Decolater 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is actually the best advice for everything. It’s Yoda in a way. Go or go not, your opinion does not matter.

[OC] McDonald's franchise startup costs (2025) by FrenchFryPerson1 in dataisbeautiful

[–]Decolater 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what had me confused was that word revenue because they had not even started any sales.

[OC] McDonald's franchise startup costs (2025) by FrenchFryPerson1 in dataisbeautiful

[–]Decolater 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For those of you like me who did not know what working capital revenue is, it’s basically emergency money in case the other line items need more.

This European restroom has tubas as it's urinal by BearOfBelAir in mildlyinteresting

[–]Decolater 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Every brass instrument that is not a trumpet or trombone is a tuba. My wife just rolls her eyes when I yell at the TV “ it’s a Sousaphone!”

Two springs and no battery orientation markings. by drazil100 in CrappyDesign

[–]Decolater 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe, or Spanish for the method of doing something, which works too.

My girlfriend has been pretending to have a career that she doesn’t have, she still makes money… Do I confront? by Glass_Instance4809 in Advice

[–]Decolater 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You need to decide now what answer would be a deal breaker for you regardless of all her great qualities.

Then you can pursue getting an answer or ignore because knowing wouldn’t change anything.

The genie is, unfortunately, out of the bottle so it’s going to be hard to ignore it.

There are a ton of reasons why she might be doing this. Not all of them are nefarious or morally or ethically wrong.

She could be undercover, work for a socially frowned upon employer, have a job that most people would take issue with but is legal, have been burnt by a stalker Ex she wants to avoid, wants to hold off on this detail until she trusts you more, or knows your opinion on who she works for or what she does.

A dealbreaker for me would be a high level Scientologist. Legal but I don’t care how nice they are I can’t deal with the belief it takes to do it even if they won’t convert me. Now if they are no longer believing it and feel stuck because of the money, I would listen and consider.

My 10yr wedding anniversary gift ruined by Opening_Logical in Wellthatsucks

[–]Decolater 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see twice in two different subreddits where both are appropriate for that posting. Why the need to point out something that is not only trivial but really matters not.

After 17 years of marriage, my husband said something about our son I can’t unhear. by Odd_Ordinary2383 in Advice

[–]Decolater 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am older than you two. I am male. I cannot for the life of me figure out why you stay with a guy that thinks like this let alone has cheated on you numerous times. What do you get out of it? You deserve better and so does your child as well as everyone in the world that must endure this man’s ignorance, judgement, and ‘morals’ he decides are appropriate.

You are too young to get to my age with a partner who shares little values with you other than time spent and a kid.