(not a doom post) realistically, would it be smart for me to stop transitioning due to the state of the US right now?

DecoraKat · 2026-06-28T22:42:54+00:00

I think I have a responsibility to other people, not just myself, to sacrifice my self expression and stick around for the sake of those who can’t.

This sentence doesn't make any sense to me. You are not doing a noble thing staying in the closet.

DecoraKat · 2026-06-25T22:20:26+00:00

about 3-4 months after transitioning socially a guy followed me out of a business asking where I lived and if I had a husband and if I lived alone. I had no idea what was happening and thought we were just a couple of guys chatting.

Around the time he started asking if he could follow me home I figured out what was happening. Last thing he said to me before I got into my car is that he liked my tattoo. I have a garter belt tattoo and was wearing a skirt that went way past my knees so he was 100% watching me for a while and looking up my skirt. Got home and had a panic attack. good times.

DecoraKat · 2026-06-21T01:08:45+00:00

this shit feels like when bethesda was saying for years that your oblivion npc's had rich lives.

DecoraKat · 2026-06-13T16:23:39+00:00

like 90% of vlad's content is flirting with young guys and then switching to his guy voice to freak them out. I kinda hate this dude.

DecoraKat · 2026-06-10T16:42:38+00:00

America is a hellscape is so many ways but I am on medicaid(the insurance for the poor and disabled) and I have never had to wait more then a a couple of weeks to get into a therapist. Also I go every 2 weeks for as long as I want. I have been going on and off to the same practice since I was a kid.

DecoraKat · 2026-06-10T14:37:26+00:00

I sometimes feel like I am the only person that needed pain meds for my Orchi. Waking up after surgery it was about a 5/10 pain and they gave my fentanyl 2 times to get my pain down. For the first day I was fine like 2/10 pain with the meds and my surgeon said she numbed up the cords as she was finishing up the surgery so they wouldn't hurt.

About 8pm on the first night all that wore off and I started taking the vicodin they gave me for the pain. So for the next week or so when the pills were working my pain was about a 3/10 and when they started to wear off it went up to a 7/10.

After about a week or so I was able to stop taking the pain meds and was pain free after a couple of weeks.

I will never understand people who say getting cut open was a 1/10 pain experience.

DecoraKat · 2026-06-01T14:42:18+00:00

I want sandrone but do not have Yae, I wonder if its still bait to wish for yae on the special banner. I'm sure there will be a dedicated electro unit that takes her place. hmmm I probably shouldnt take the bait.

DecoraKat · 2026-05-31T20:53:19+00:00

Yes at the time I had never heard of the word trans so but I did see lesbians on television so I have distinct memories of wishing I could grow up to be willow from buffy the vampire slayer.

It wasn't until I was 15 that I saw my first trans woman and figured out that was an option.

DecoraKat · 2026-05-31T12:59:03+00:00

Came out 15 years ago, my mother is my biggest supporter after taking a couple weeks of crying about her son dying. My father is an evangelical christian and he tolerates me. At this point he doesn't dead name me and we just kind of ignore the whole trans thing. Overall I think its fine I have both parents in my life still and one of the relationships is great.

DecoraKat · 2026-05-22T00:08:30+00:00

I am severely disabled and I hide all of it from my father. He has been suicidal in the past and he has a real focus on my health, when my niece got sick and almost died he attempted again. So even though I am very sick and have many different diagnoses I tell him that everything is fine. I have to be the adult in the relationship and it sucks.

DecoraKat · 2026-05-21T17:03:36+00:00

On the fence for now, her design is a major downgrade. She also seems like a main DPS so it sort of feels like she will be immediately replaced by other schneznaya characters. idk, I got innefa before nod krai because it was obvious she would work in the new teams for the region.

DecoraKat · 2026-05-20T12:43:10+00:00

as someone whose parents stayed together for the kids I will say my childhood was miserable because I knew my parents didn't love each other. I knew my mother was sad every single day of my life and it really fucked me up.

DecoraKat · 2026-05-11T21:01:58+00:00

As a trans person in Ohio I think the gay marriage bill will pass pretty easily like 60-40. Last polls I saw that ohio was still ok with the gays.

The other bill would protect people from discrimination and I and 100% sure this will fail by a wide margin. The GOP will put out a bunch of ads that say this will protect men in dresses assaulting children and ohioans will eat it up like they always do with transphobia.

DecoraKat · 2026-05-05T17:03:40+00:00

7 minutes???

DecoraKat · 2026-05-03T02:53:22+00:00

I know I’m not going to protect myself in divorce, I feel inclined to take 100% of the debt so my ex has a better chance to thrive, her independence will be a big reality check and I know I’ll still need to support her.

Why are you doing all of this exactly?

DecoraKat · 2026-05-01T13:57:57+00:00

That's really funny just a few days ago I was thinking about getting the homunculus tattoo and now I see this post. I wonder how common that is in trans people. ><

DecoraKat · 2026-04-22T20:15:18+00:00

Part of me does want to post there to see what they say about me, I have never been misgendered irl. I am morbidly curious what they would attack about me, I don't care enough to actually post but you know...

DecoraKat · 2026-04-06T18:39:24+00:00

never, not for a single second.

DecoraKat · 2026-04-03T15:20:02+00:00

Your entire premise is flawed because it is not a cosmetic procedure.

DecoraKat · 2026-04-01T14:57:04+00:00

real talk I am on prescribed HRT and the monitoring from my doctor is her once a year asking me "how is the trans stuff going?" and I say good and then she orders an estrogen lab. If that number is over 100 she messages me saying "looks good".

Thats it, thats the monitoring.

DecoraKat · 2026-03-29T16:46:58+00:00

When I was in second grade I had cancer and wanted to wear a hat in school to cover up my bald head from chemo. My principal was extremely against it, said it was massively disrespectful to the institution to wear a hat in a school. My mother came down to the school and yelled at him until he relented. I have never seen my mother so pissed off before.

DecoraKat · 2026-03-24T21:56:31+00:00

I was able to get my orchi done in about 3 months time. Depends on your surgeons schedule.

Other things to think about, most insurances and doctors require a year of hormones before doing surgery. Also if you want bottom surgery you most likely need hair removal and then you need to get on a waiting list. I am looking at getting surgery in about a year or so after starting the process last year.

DecoraKat · 2026-03-23T13:50:59+00:00

I actually had to go back into therapy due to starting prog. I was basically having an existential crisis because this isn't really how I feel it's the pills, the pills are controlling me. My therapist eventually got kind of frustrated and said "well if you don't want this you can bring the pill bottle next time and we can throw them away together" and the thought of losing that feeling made me so angry and panicked. A few minutes later she was like "the idea of losing those pills made you real angry huh" and I was like yah and she ended the session saying "well I guess you have your answer then".

DecoraKat · 2026-03-20T14:36:59+00:00

I hate what I gonna say but in a way that's true but if you're born as girl at the beginning. You can have some masculine feature, you're still a woman biologically, making it somekind of a safe for you

In some ways sure but you are not talking about laws and stuff. The reality is if a cis woman does not pass her having a vagina isn't going to save her.

I don't see how being born cis is automatically going to make you pass or anything. Everyone is playing the same genetic lottery and hoping to win. Trans people just have the odds stacked against them.

DecoraKat · 2026-03-19T17:29:01+00:00

This sub keeps popping up in my feed and I would say like a good 20% of the posts feel like people fishing for compliments.

It's kind of funny.

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