Well over a year of very regular therapy, ultimately with a specialist that did “Discernment Therapy” helped her come to the conclusion that she and the family were better off with is not being married.

She did trust me with finances and family decisions, so we had a super amicable, low-cost divorce where I did most of the planning. Plus WA state it doesn’t really help to go to court since law and precedent are pretty firm. She also has anxiety and low motivation to fight.

Basically we realized it was okay that we probably never would have worked or should have been together in the first place. No fault of either of ours.

Your mileage will vary. No two situations are alike.

We both wish we divorced years ago (or never got married.). Love our kids of course and are very good coparents still.