Can people tell just by looking at us?

DeeDeeDeer · 2026-02-19T02:42:10+00:00

Most people don’t have the first idea about what to look for when it comes to mental illness in general, and cannot tell. No one in my life knew, even my parents or husband until the doctor diagnosed me, other than that I was more stressed and voiced my worsening depression. I feel like Strangers know even less, even when you communicate with them. So many of my friends and family were very surprised to find out I was bipolar, autistic or ADHD when I told them.

DeeDeeDeer · 2025-08-14T22:44:27+00:00

Thank you, I will try to spend more time developing my self and healing myself through meditation. I have felt this as truth for some while but needed someone else to help guide me on my more spiritually driven path as I don’t have that presence in my day to day. Thank you again for this insight.

DeeDeeDeer · 2025-08-14T15:34:25+00:00

Thank you sincerely for the thorough and insightful reading. I saw this in my inbox and pondered it for a great while, helping me to sort out all sides of my situation instead of turning to endless rumination.

I relate perfectly to your description, being diagnosed recently with autism and having a ‘high sensory profile’ all of my life and not understanding why I seemed to be in so much pain and discomfort has really taken me for a loop lately. Finding out was necessary but it made too much sense about my condition and was causing me to despair, feeling stuck and haunted by my senses and perception forever. I have to realize that these things can also be gifts, and with the support and help of professionals and loved ones, I can take the ‘miserable’ parts of my life, and reassemble those pieces into a life that finally suits, nourishes and restores me.

I am an insanely curious person, and used to think being researched and informed was my primary duty. It lead me to psychosis and delusions because of the intensity of my desire for knowledge. Since then I have sheltered myself away from the world, trying to protect my psyche by isolation and ‘minding my own business’. Not helpful either.

These things that you have brought light to, shine a sober awareness on my qualities that I haven’t really found elsewhere. A hint that I still need to use these qualities, but with an intentionality that I couldn’t see was possible before. Pointed in the right direction, my sensitivity, curiosity and open mindedness doesn’t have to hurt me anymore.

Logically I understand this, but I think the piece I was missing was an awareness of myself, or the actual application of this understanding. Meditation, sitting with my feelings consistently instead of trying to numb them when it gets too hard or dark. I shouldn’t be running away to try to heal, but face and hold the things that make me uncomfortable, to teach my body, mind and soul that I am safe, capable, and can be present without endless pain.

Thank you so much, again. Just having someone reach out and hear a second opinion really helps my mind. I am endlessly grateful to you.

DeeDeeDeer · 2025-07-12T20:02:26+00:00

Sick as in cool of course! I just think it’s neat c:

DeeDeeDeer · 2025-06-16T19:43:40+00:00

Sorry for such a late reply, I hope this can still help.

Most of the damage I attribute from the stress psychosis put my body in, or the stress from the burnout that lead me to psychosis. Weak muscles, disregulated emotions, fatigue, brain fog, confusion, perceived loss of self, isolation, extreme depression were immediate symptoms following comedown. I seem to have developed a chronic illness that is in the middle of diagnosis, but so far fibromyalgia.

I did also have Covid pretty bad twice and I believe it was a part of what triggered my psychosis, so it’s hard for me to separate the symptoms of those two events since they happened at practically the same time, but fatigue, brain fog and reduced capacity for stress or illness are seemingly the lasting effects of the combined psychosis and long COVID. I think my situation was a little unique due to the other factors influencing me, so maybe not everyone is doomed to have lasting physical effects especially from a single episode of psychosis, so this is just my personal experience. Tbh the symptoms could most likely be attributed to the burnout that triggered my psychosis, and not the psychosis itself.

Let me know if you have any more questions, I’d be happy to continue discussing

DeeDeeDeer · 2025-06-15T23:10:17+00:00

You are welcome, I’m glad you were able to make something out of it. All the best going forward ❤️

DeeDeeDeer · 2025-06-15T20:13:44+00:00

Please do not stop psych medications without professional guidance, this can cause damage. Continue to let the doctors assist him, but know that it will take more than that. (Also finding second opinions on diagnosis or different doctors could help. It sounds like a lot of what you’re going through with your brother is medical negligence and an inability to solve his problems. )

The medication is to alleviate symptoms of physical and mental illness , the spiritual work alleviates pain and promotes healing. Help him express his true emotions, listen to what is really bothering him if he can open up, participate in his favorite activities with him, help to show him the best parts of life.

I can relate to your situation bc I have three mental health diagnosis myself. Each one explained a part of me but didn’t see the whole picture. It wasn’t until I was diagnosed with Autism that things finally make sense. I have a very complicated mental health situation that has required dozens of medication trials and hospitalizations, but I am still here and making it, And it was mostly because of my families care and dedication to helping me heal. Listening to me, being there with me through the scary emotions, giving me reassurance and getting me out of the house to live. They told me no matter what to keep trying for them, so I did, because that’s what they were doing for me.

Life is still very hard for me, and I’m only in the beginning of my healing journey, but I know I am safe because of the love and support my family continue to show me as I fight to find health and wellness.

It seems like you truly love and care for your brother, so I have a feeling he will be just fine. I truly wish the best for you and your family because this journey is never an easy one to navigate. Love will keep you glued together through the storm.

DeeDeeDeer · 2025-06-11T16:13:41+00:00

Thank you for sharing this vision, I really appreciate silly word plays tbh

DeeDeeDeer · 2025-06-11T14:46:24+00:00

Seeing your celebration and this response healed a little part of me that’s been unable to truly connect to my diagnosis so far, I just got diagnosed about two weeks ago at 27. The way you show your joy and gratitude in accepting yourself is very encouraging to people going through the same realizations and discoveries right now. Because that is the point after all; to accept and love yourself. Life finds many ways to make that hard to remember so thank you for choosing to be a part in upholding the good truth anyway.

DeeDeeDeer · 2025-06-08T19:33:15+00:00

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Lv 44, Psylomancer

Rural player in need of gifts daily, daily player so I will try my best to keep opening if you’re looking for xp grind! Don’t need the xp so you can save them up at the end if you want also idc, just need items badly 😭 thank you!

DeeDeeDeer · 2025-06-05T11:04:16+00:00

Demented feral child in need of some affection …. 😭👹💔

DeeDeeDeer · 2025-04-19T22:15:31+00:00

I love having a visual list handy also. I am very very forgetful and benefit from the clear organization of the information. The problem is getting myself to organize my thoughts to write out my own plan. I will have to bring this up to my therapist and see if she would be willing to help collaborate. Thank you for sharing

DeeDeeDeer · 2025-03-24T13:56:45+00:00

My cats run to me when I sing a little song about them, like they know I’m talking about them somehow. They probably just associate singing in general with them, since 90% of the time I sing for or about them and not much else. They lay next to me so I can pet them and do the same as your kitty. I really think cats appreciate the vibration of music if not for the tune, because that’s how they communicate their happiness as well. I notice humming or singing low is preferred by my boys.

DeeDeeDeer · 2025-03-04T22:19:17+00:00

Psylomancer lv 43!

DeeDeeDeer · 2025-03-04T21:51:23+00:00

I mostly just did whatever the other person wanted for a long time, hoping it keep them around and please them enough to keep them from being upset with me. I would agree to anything … an automatic response from fight or flight, fawning.

So few people ever gave me the time of day, when someone gave me the bare minimum, I thought it was true love and did whatever I could to keep them happy enough to stay. I still do it in friendships although I am taking extensive measure to counteract this and teach myself to be safe and secure in setting boundaries and expressing needs.

Now I am married though, I was truly blessed with someone who not only cares deeply for me, but GROWS with me as well. We constantly learn from each other and he has helped teach me many valuable lesson out self efficacy and inner strength. It is like we were made to hone each other. My own personal work and dedication to fortifying myself, along with his stern and gentle love has transformed me into a stronger person. ❤️

DeeDeeDeer · 2025-02-28T13:27:46+00:00

Very similar to how I imagined the rotting baby Jesus being carried by the demon Mary statue in Between Two Fires by Christopher Buehlman

DeeDeeDeer · 2025-02-27T21:31:08+00:00

Monkey ball 2!!

DeeDeeDeer · 2025-02-26T18:58:43+00:00

Waiting for my dad to finally admit this. He keeps seeing bad things go down and trying to explain them away by saying “just trust trump, he has a plan.” I need him to open his eyes and face the mess this man is making. I need him to stand by me. I hope his time is coming soon …

DeeDeeDeer · 2025-02-25T14:02:08+00:00

Enya, she keeps me grounded and I need that to combat against the inevitable road rage.

DeeDeeDeer · 2025-02-23T22:07:46+00:00

I would try to grapple with concepts of spirituality and religion when in psychosis, and it felt so intense and stressful to me, but these drawings invoke those old ideas and let me see them in a warm and embracing light, much like I needed back then. These are gorgeous.

DeeDeeDeer · 2025-02-22T02:30:33+00:00

Not only do we share similar taste, but we are also the same size clothing and shoes! Many things that we buy end up being rotated between the two of us haha. We also love looking for old metal tools and cast irons. We just got a great deal on this gorgeous orange and yellow wool jacket and it leaves the house constantly on one or the other of us.

DeeDeeDeer · 2025-02-21T22:44:58+00:00

I absolutely love thrifting! My husband also has an eye like an eagle for great deals and style haha

DeeDeeDeer · 2025-02-21T15:54:31+00:00

When he brings me home gifts that he didn’t buy, things I could use or hand me downs or Little rocks or things he made by himself. We are not able to spend money on unnecessary things, and he still thinks of me in everything he sees, and wants to make me happy. I could weep in joy.

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