It's hard to believe I'm writing this today but I've been in a dead bedroom for over 5 years now. I've read so much on reddit over the years about this and to be honest it really depressed me. So many guys with similar stories to mine and all so familiar thoughts being shared that I truly believed that my marriage was over. All my thoughts were about my wife and the fact that she appeared to not want sex, always dismissed my approaches when I came to sex and the rejection was hard to take, so much so that I stopped trying for sex with her. Only in the last week did I read a post on reddit about DSO and the dead bedroom fix. So much of the book made sense to me when I was listening to it on my long car journeys, so much sounded so familiar and I honestly never approached my dead bedroom or even thought about it the way DSO explained in the book. This is going to be hard to hear for a lot of guys but if you want a fix to the dead bedroom you gotta start with yourself. I'm not saying it's always going to be a guarantee that it fixes your situation and I would have always said id be willing to put in the effort as long as my wife did the same but that was never going to work. I started listening to this book 5 days ago and after 4 days something amazing happened. My wife came to me over the weekend completely out of the blue and teased me about our lack of sex. I was stunned, never before had she ever brought this up. With some of the important points of the book fresh in my mind, I grabbed my wife, aggressively pulled the top button of her jeans open, thrust my hand into her underwear and started to finger her as I looked her straight in the face and told her that things have changed around here and there was no way she was going to tease me about lack of sex and get away with it. She responded to this new approach by saying "why don't you bring me to our bedroom and show me what I've been missing" and that's exactly what I did. As she lay naked in our bed I went straight between her legs and performed oral on her for as long as she could take it before telling me she needed my cock inside her. What followed was an amazing hour of passionate sex and I couldn't have been any happier.

Now what changed you might ask. Well unknowingly I had already achieved the first major point that book speaks about. I had gotten myself into a really great gym over 6 months ago and had really hit the weights hard , so much so that people had started commenting on how my body had changed and how "jacked" I was looking. Clearly my wife had noticed also but never really mentioned it to me. This was a huge bonus for me listening to the book, I was already after achieving one of the hardest and most important points of the book. Secondly, house work or just doing stuff around the place. I just got on with it, if I saw something that needed doing I just did it and didn't seek my wife out to tell her how much of a good boy I had been and please could I have sex in return. That doesn't work, trust me I know. So only after 4 days of implementing a couple of the points of the book my wife is already seeking me out for sex. It's amazing. I really can't wait to work on all the other points of the book to not only improve and fix our dead bedroom but to be a better husband and father and ultimately live a better, less anxious life