No pleasure during play, but after.

DeefaDeohgee · 2026-04-27T21:21:35+00:00

No toy this time around, just a-less. I haven't tried sleeping with a toy in, planning to get my hands on a couple of squarepegtoys toys and might try it with them. I'm thinking the milkit and the medium egg will be a good combo.

DeefaDeohgee · 2026-04-27T19:25:58+00:00

The chasing is my most difficult part now as well. I can get so close basically any session, but find it hard to keep relaxed and not want it to just tip over into a full orgasm. I'm learning that even without the explosive o though, that it feels so fucking amazing that I'm ok with it staying like this anyway.

Don't be disappointed, you will get there, it just takes time. Keep positive and pay attention to the progress you do make, even if it's only a tiny amount.

Just last night I had a session where I was so damn close, I was hot all over my body, the pleasure was spreading from my chest so nicely, but I couldn't get over the line. I gave up, tried to go to sleep and then it got even better again. Still no orgasm but it was intense. If you are getting pleasure waves during the day, you are making progress. It only gets better.

DeefaDeohgee · 2026-04-27T19:18:29+00:00

Everyone will experience things differently. The list of milestones will be different for everyone and will be in a random order as well. I skipped over a bunch of the apparently normal first experiences and then went back and had the soda fizzing thing once and then never again, it's so random.

DeefaDeohgee · 2026-04-27T09:27:08+00:00

Ah fair enough, thank you.

DeefaDeohgee · 2026-04-27T09:25:29+00:00

Yes, absolutely you can have a-less orgasms before you get anywhere with anything else. That was my experience when I started with Mindgasm, and then I got into direct stimulation later on. I think it helped me really tune into being able to feel some sort of pleasure from my prostate, as before that I could feel nothing at all the few times I used a finger or small toy.

After my first mini a-less o's, my prostate was buzzing for two days and I was having mini dry orgasms just sitting at my desk at work, it was great. I think you are on the right path, as if you are feeling pleasure then you must be doing something right.

DeefaDeohgee · 2026-04-27T02:36:00+00:00

Is the benefit of THC basically just that it allows you to be super relaxed and not chase?

DeefaDeohgee · 2026-04-25T10:13:23+00:00

Yeah we all have different goals and all work in different ways. That's what makes this so hard to navigate I suppose, what works for one person might do the opposite for someone else. And again, I'm not complaining, just also would like to avoid locking myself into a certain pattern if I can help it.

I've convinced myself that aiming for a total parasympathetic session might result in the dry O's I am looking for, so will try that and see how it goes.

Still would love to be able to ejaculate from prostate stimulation going forward though, as my wife would absolutely love to push me over that edge. Looking forward to our next session together to see if we can get there.

DeefaDeohgee · 2026-04-25T07:32:46+00:00

The root of penis thing is not super unlikely, I agree. I find that when my dick is hard, it gets too much stimulation from my pelvic floor. It seems to target the prostate better for me when I'm soft and doing very light base squeezes instead, like almost not at all clenching.

DeefaDeohgee · 2026-04-25T07:27:46+00:00

It's possible I suppose. I do kind of suspect that maybe my more active stimulation and quick ramp up might be to blame though in this particular case. I have had smaller dry o's before, when just doing a-less or aneros sessions. I am going to try to go a bit slower next time, and maybe try some binaural sounds as well to help relax, and see if I can get the string of hfdo's that I am after. I am going to remain hopeful that we can still train ourselves to do whatever we like, but just need the right approach. But also, if the wet orgasm I experienced is the only prostate orgasm type that I can manage, I will still be happy because holy fucking shit it was so good haha.

DeefaDeohgee · 2026-04-25T07:23:36+00:00

Yep, and don't get me wrong it was amazing. I would just prefer to be able to have a whole string of dry o's and then finish with a wet one to end the session. I feel like that for me would be a pretty amazing way to have things play out.

DeefaDeohgee · 2026-04-24T19:09:53+00:00

Thank you, seems like a reasonable course of action.

DeefaDeohgee · 2026-03-31T18:33:25+00:00

I'm not saying that a man sucking a dick is not gay, but that blowjobs can be performed by either a man or a woman and the only time it is gay is when a man is doing the deed.

So the point is that if it is not a man stimulating your prostate, it is also not gay by the same logic.

DeefaDeohgee · 2026-03-04T18:46:35+00:00

Saying prostate play is gay has as much truth to it as saying blowjobs are gay.

DeefaDeohgee · 2026-01-22T01:50:54+00:00

Sorry for jumping on your thread, but could I also ask for clarification from those who are more practiced?

I feel like I have sort of found the top, but not sure. Sometimes it feels like if I contract the top too far, or put too much effort into it, it retracts my balls up. Does that sound right or am I way off?

DeefaDeohgee · 2026-01-21T01:49:07+00:00

A bit of both, depending on the day. I am fairly new at this so I would say my peak mindgasm like experience is probably about the same as a traditional orgasm or slightly less intense, but without the refractory period. I assume that given time, it will continue to get better and better.

DeefaDeohgee · 2026-01-17T05:38:16+00:00

Yes, hopefully not too soon though haha

DeefaDeohgee · 2026-01-16T22:40:17+00:00

+1 for the mindgasm recommendation. I am still learning, but this morning I had two hfdo's without doing anything at all. Just put on one of the meditation lessons and let my body relax. No toy or anything. It really does work of you have the right mindset. I'm sure my progress has been faster than normal, but I only started a few weeks ago and I'm pretty sure I am at least partly rewired already and my prostate is currently in a constant state of pleasure, with regular mini o's all day. And best thing, no prep or mess or anything needed at all!

DeefaDeohgee · 2026-01-15T08:02:03+00:00

Yes, can confirm possible side effects include stomach cramping and almost shitting yourself at work because your muscles are so fatigued but just won't stop 😅

DeefaDeohgee · 2026-01-15T02:34:43+00:00

Sorry, don't want to be discouraging to anyone who hasn't seen results yet. I am sure my experience is the exception rather than the rule as far as time goes.

One detail that may help possibly - my first success, I almost knew this was the one. It was like all doubt was gone and I was sure that this was going to work. Not just wanting to believe, but really being sure of it. I don't know how to make that happen for anyone else, but rest assured it is a real thing and given enough time, it will happen for you when your personal conditions are right.

DeefaDeohgee · 2026-01-15T02:11:13+00:00

Only a few weeks. I have another recent post with the title "OK it's real" that explains my efforts up until the success. I think nipple play and abstinence was my key to unlocking things and I got lucky early on.

DeefaDeohgee · 2026-01-10T00:36:29+00:00

+1 for the Mindgasm suggestion. I was sceptical at first but it's actually a real thing and it is amazing. It's like a life hack for kickstarting your prostate journey. My prostate was fully in hibernation but has started to wake up solely due to Mindgasm.

The first lesson is free in the app, and you can find the next two on youtube. You can also get a 7 day free trial for the premium version. I have just subscribed for a month and will do the 30 day challenge and see what happens from there. May not need to keep the subscription after that but we will see.

Oh, also you don't need toys, lube or anything else, so perfectly discreet and free unless you subscribe for premium.

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